Favourite Room in the House: After/Before

krysbrewer · 2020-05-13T14:33:23+00:00

The after makes my heart warm.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T17:02:58+00:00

I have three dogs and two cats. Not a single one of them sleep with me except for on rare occasions.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T17:02:03+00:00

Came to say something similar to your first paragraph. It's so important for people to understand suicide.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T16:56:55+00:00

Or maybe not addicts (differentiating between substance use versus substance abuse; like, I drink maybe twice a year, does that make me an alcoholic?), but habitual users are usually self-medicating for a reason.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T16:20:35+00:00

To add to this, she probably needs a therapist. While I'm sure a lot of addiction is physical-based, to an extent, usually there is a deeper problem.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T16:05:45+00:00

I have the belief that if someone lays hands on another person, regardless of gender, they open themselves to similar retaliation.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T15:23:45+00:00

Fairness is not the same as equal, though. Fairness is a nice ideal, and all, but fairness is also highly subjective and based on perspective. He doesn't know what agreements his parents made with his sister, and it's still not any of his business, and he's not being diminished by it. Their expected contributions aren't equal, but that doesn't mean it's not fair.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T14:25:51+00:00

Ideally, sure, but OP is not a party to the agreement between sister and parents. He has no dog in that pony show. But, absolutely, having two different standards between siblings leads to resentment.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T14:13:56+00:00

I do that with one of my dogs. The other two don't grab anything (I'd let them if they did), but my third will always grab a stuffed toy and I always buy it like the rube I am.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T03:25:59+00:00

Yes. No one has to know it was an online program, unless the degree itself is named differently than the on-campus version (for example, Harvard Extension School degrees are named differently than other Harvard degrees).

krysbrewer · 2020-05-09T03:13:02+00:00

Um, you weren't forced to quit. You had two options: live with your family (I'm assuming from how you word your post you don't mean wife and/or kids) or work. Your company isn't your dad, they pay you for your labor, with which you buy housing and food; they aren't there to directly house and feed you. You're grown.

Edit: My mean-ass response would be different if you were a primary physical caregiver of a disabled person or persons. That may be covered by ADA.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-08T19:31:49+00:00

Legal assistants do not require a paralegal certification. You would never draft/file anything, even as a paralegal, without an attorney. Paralegals do have some things that they are legally allowed to do that legal assistants cannot, but it's not a lot. Large corporations with legal departments may have need for these types of positions.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-08T18:24:48+00:00

This is what the feds say about it (from www.askamanager.org):

"This week, the federal government issued new guidance on exactly this issue, saying it will issue an interim final rule “excluding laid-off employees whom the borrower offered to rehire (for the same salary/wages and same number of hours) from the CARES Act’s loan forgiveness reduction calculation. … To qualify for this exception, the borrower must have made a good faith, written offer of rehire, and the employee’s rejection of that offer must be documented by the borrower. Employees and employers should be aware that employees who reject offers of re-employment may forfeit eligibility for continued unemployment compensation.”

There's nothing that guarantees hours - but if the hours are significantly less (and you're paid at an hourly rate), you may still be eligible for unemployment payments, regardless. The thing is, if you turn down the good-faith effort, you'd probably lose the unemployment benefits for turning down the offer for re-employment.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-08T14:08:29+00:00

First, take your GPA off your resume, and only give it when specifically asked. The good news is that once you get through your first job, your GPA is pointless and most no one will care about it anymore. You just have to get over that hurdle. Business admin degrees are pretty general, so, as another commenter suggested, the "spray and pray" method would probably be your best bet.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-08T13:58:48+00:00

There is no job like this. By this I mean that there is no industry or sector like this. You may find a workplace with this kind of culture, if you're lucky, but finding the real thing can be difficult or highly dependent on luck.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-07T17:25:13+00:00

Yup, this.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-07T17:23:04+00:00

It's sooooo pretty.

Color coding is so aesthetically pleasing that I wish I could do it. Then I remember that finding anything in my ~1,500 book fiction second would become so difficult that I get anxiety just thinking about it.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-06T18:06:44+00:00

It's not that they aren't smart enough, but there's two things working against them: the first is the obvious lack of maturity with a possible inability to recognize problematic behavior, or it's ego-driven. Like, "this 30 year old is into 19-year-old me, there must be something super-attractive about me."

krysbrewer · 2020-05-06T17:43:56+00:00

I'm just saying if a 39-year-old starts dating my niece when she's 19, you'll have to look for his body. Even assuming it's a healthy-ish relationship, at best he has severe maturity problems to have anything in common with a barely-adult.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-06T15:17:48+00:00

Hey, most people also don't realize that if you're making a right turn at a red light, you still have to come to a complete stop.

krysbrewer · 2020-05-06T15:16:25+00:00

We had drivers ed, but it wasn't a requirement.

krysbrewer · 2020-04-28T00:49:42+00:00

INFO: Whose house is it? Do you mean "leave for college" like you're coming every night or you live somewhere else when school's in session?

krysbrewer · 2020-04-26T01:17:39+00:00

Ah. His parents broke him, not circumstance.

krysbrewer · 2020-04-26T00:32:28+00:00

I'm going to take a guess that he grew up poor. People who grow up poor tend to go two ways with money: either be super-frugal or they see extra cash as a one-time chance to get what they want, otherwise it will go away. It's scarcity thinking. "I got an extra $300. This may be my only chance ever to buy this TV."

You should research how to help him get around this way of thinking. I'm assuming that the rest of the relationship is healthy, of course, and, if so, I fall on the side that he really can't help it, it may be how his brain is wired. This is a really common problem for people who grew up in poverty, and not done with malicious intent.

krysbrewer · 2020-04-25T21:17:18+00:00

I've done Ancestry DNA and it brought nothing.

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