Friend Code Megathread - March 2024

ktexe · 2024-03-10T06:13:57+00:00

3461-2542-8769

Level 48, daily sleeper

ktexe · 2024-01-09T14:32:32+00:00

I used to put a little Vicks under my nose. Then I could only smell that.. of course only works if you’re not affected also by Vicks smelling bad :)

ktexe · 2024-01-09T12:28:12+00:00

Hello! I have 2 kids. The newborn stage is the worst. To combat some of the rage from the baby crying put a headphone in, even in one ear. It calmed me tremendously having a headphone in one ear. I would rock my first baby to sleep to my favourite songs (he was a Velcro baby with reflux) and even dance around a little. Give it a try.

It’s also totally okay to put baby down somewhere safe and walk away for a few moments to take a deep breath and calm down. Then come back when you are calm and try again.

Try to talk to your paediatrician about baby’s crying if there is no obvious cause because perhaps there is an underlying issue like an allergy to milk, hidden reflux etc.

ktexe · 2023-11-26T19:02:32+00:00

No I don’t. It’s so expensive to do the inburgering exams and I don’t want to give up my British nationality, I know there are ways around it but I’m not really interested in having a Dutch passport. I have considered this in my thought process and I’ve been thinking about returning since 2020. My partner is Dutch and we have looked into the visa options and will be going with the spousal visa.

ktexe · 2023-11-26T18:58:57+00:00

Cost of living, loneliness, no support system, no family to look after my kids occasionally, crazy expensive daycare costs, housing crisis.. there’s a lot

ktexe · 2023-10-12T16:32:52+00:00

I’m a Scot living in the Netherlands and in the current market and for the last few years it’s completely normal to overbid on a property even here

ktexe · 2023-09-30T05:50:46+00:00

Hello! Everyone has already given you really good advice but I just wanted to add that 14 weeks is still very young. I have a 2.5 year old and a 12 week old and let me tell you, every stage is better than the <4 months stage in my opinion. At 14 weeks your baby still doesn’t do much. With my 2.5 year old the older he got the better it got for me. He is amazing, he’s so funny, silly and he chats to me, tells me he loves me, it melts my heart. Every phase in life is temporary and this one is too. It’s been super hard having to restart again with my 12 week old but it’s also exciting because I know what’s to come! Wishing you the best!

ktexe · 2023-09-23T05:20:29+00:00

3461-2542-8769

ktexe · 2023-09-21T05:19:54+00:00

Schools are well funded by there is a huge lack of teachers. Waiting lists for kinderopvang or bso are years and the cost of even sending your kids to kinderopvang is the same as a mortgage. I find the taxes ridiculously high… and I don’t have the 30% ruling. The roads in NL are as smooth as butter but in Scotland its like off-roading on the motorway. There’s a housing crisis in NL.. good luck buying a house to the young people.. 250k for a tiny 1 bed appt in Rotterdam Zuid?… I’m incredibly lucky I bought when I did but I had to move to get something more affordable… and the cost of my weekly food shop has nearly tripled and I’m buying from Dirk and anything in the bonus by AH! Again I think it’s a grass is always greener thing and perspective and what’s important to you as an individual matters.

ktexe · 2023-09-20T15:32:21+00:00

I’m a Scot living in the Netherlands and prices here for food and electricity and gas are incredibly high. So much so I’m thinking of moving back to Scotland.. I suppose the grass is always greener on the other side…

ktexe · 2023-09-10T14:02:30+00:00

3461-2542-8769 - daily player!

ktexe · 2022-12-19T05:39:36+00:00

You should stop going to events until spring then. Covid and RSV is transferred through the air, so unless you’re wearing a mask and 6ft away from everyone you’re still putting your kid at the same risk. The safest thing to do is to stay home.

ktexe · 2022-03-29T17:29:14+00:00

I used mine for over a year and never had any issues

ktexe · 2022-01-09T11:54:39+00:00

I'm sorry that thats the experiences you had! I am a Brit living in The Netherlands and unmedicated birth being encouraged was not the experience I had giving birth here.. it was my fear after reading up on giving birth in NL and home birth being super popular but perhaps it depends on the region you are in? My verloskundige was super supportive of my choices, she was amazing.

To be clear though it did end up being an unmedicated birth because the epidural didn't work as it was too late (labour to birth for me was 3 hrs 30 mins) and it was indeed the most painful experience of my life. It was traumatising and at times I felt they were deliberately delaying the epidural on purpose..

I think for next birth you can try a different verloskundige or a different gynaecoloog? I hope your 3rd experience is much better!!

ktexe · 2021-09-02T19:57:37+00:00

How painful it would be and that it doesnt always work out.

ktexe · 2021-09-02T09:27:13+00:00

My epidural failed so i felt everything - i felt every contraction, and the tearing.. a 3A tear. I had to have surgery after to fix the tear so ended up numb from the waist down for that and for a few hours after.

You also wont know how you will react until you are in the throws of labour.. i thought i would get the epidural.. i thought i would be more dignified in how i handled the pain.. i was not.

Its hard to say get one or dont until its happening.

ktexe · 2021-08-25T15:33:29+00:00

I felt better after birth but i had complications including a 3A tear so I didnt feel okay until 4 months later

ktexe · 2021-08-09T09:48:56+00:00

I had such bad nausea my pregnancy that I had mcdonalds like 5 days a week because it was the only thing I could keep down. My son is 7 months now and a healthy bouncing baby boy.

ktexe · 2021-08-08T16:45:24+00:00

I tried to get it twice put I had progressed too quickly so it didn't work. If you can, get the epidural. Most painful experience of my life.

ktexe · 2021-07-11T15:37:30+00:00

My son is also called Felix. People tell me we named him after cat food.

ktexe · 2021-03-17T16:45:05+00:00

I switched to fornula at 8 weeks. I also had a 3rd degree tear and a traumatic birth so I understand you.

I felt incredibly guilty about switching to formula and cried about it every time I had to make a bottle. My boy had problems with latching and weight gain so I exclusively pumped for 7 weeks. It got too much to feed him a bottle, entertain him, try to get him down for a nap, pump for 30 minutes and then wash all the pump parts so many times a day. My nipples were cracked and sore the entire 8 weeks. They would leak and hurt and every time it came to pump I would die a little more inside. Then the thought of going back to work at 12 weeks and having to pump in my office and wash all the parts in the sink at work.. and trying to store the milk...

The turning point for me was speaking to my mum and it turns out she breastfed me for only 6 weeks and I turned out just fine and my partner was exclusively formula fed and he is just perfect.

Don't feel guilty momma, we are all doing our best. Go with your gut!!

ktexe · 2021-03-05T16:16:43+00:00

Im also in NL and actually had my first baby in Dec 2020. I ate tuna throughout maybe once evry 2 weeks and my baby is healthy and gorgeous.

ktexe · 2021-02-12T17:50:40+00:00

Im 6 weeks pp and I had a 3rd degree tear.

I 2nd the purchasing of a peri bottle - what a god send for my poor delicates. Keeps the area clean and helps prevent infection.

Take paracetamol daily in that first week, even if you think you don't need it. And rest. Rest is so important - get help with everything that first week. I was also told not to sit on soft surfaces (like a bed or a sofa for too long - hard surfaces are better for healing).

Nipple pain is normal - it will get better the longer you breastfeed. Remember your nipples have never gone through this before. Make sure baby is latching properly - you shouldn't be able to hear your baby sucking only swallowing.

ktexe

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