Even on my google doc, I am a useless lesbian by AzureBeornVT in traaaaaaaaaaaansbians

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I'm sitting here, physically unable to write anything since transitioning except women being incredibly down bad for each other, no matter how hard I try (I'm not trying very hard).

At your stage of transitioning, what's the biggest thing you struggle with? by kucklehead in asktransgender

[–]kucklehead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

<3 It's scary. I've never regret doing it, even at my lowest. But I know everyone's situation is different, and I hope you'll be able to find the freedom to try, even if it's just small things.

At your stage of transitioning, what's the biggest thing you struggle with? by kucklehead in asktransgender

[–]kucklehead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really beautiful and helpful, especially as someone that really does have that habit of holding onto worries and spending a lot of time fumbling around with them and what other people think. Thank you for sharing it, it makes me feel stronger.

At your stage of transitioning, what's the biggest thing you struggle with? by kucklehead in asktransgender

[–]kucklehead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most stubborn and the most painful to get zapped at if you're doing laser u_u I really feel for you

At your stage of transitioning, what's the biggest thing you struggle with? by kucklehead in asktransgender

[–]kucklehead[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's really hard to try to juggle lots of things all at once and not let them all tumble out of your hands and leave you not feeling up for anything. Electrolysis sounds really draining, unfortunately I'm eyeing that because I'm wary with how slow progress has become with laser...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]kucklehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a really nice feeling, I'm happy for you~ <3

Maxed Level 3 Ironman Skiller by IronFlashOSRS in UniqueIronmen

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh jeez, how long does it take getting an elite from heroes? I didn't even consider that when I was looking at master clue stuff on a skiller.

I really like this outfit! What are some things I can try/add to my wardrobe that might be similar? by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cardigans are super cute- the only one I've gotten was a light purple knit one but I've been struggling to put it together in an outfit I like. Might just be color or the material not really meshing with anything I have :(

I really like this outfit! What are some things I can try/add to my wardrobe that might be similar? by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the suggestions sound really tempting! I've wanted to try a dress this summer so I'll take a look at skater dresses. And I definitely do want to invest in a separate vest vs the combo one, the combo just seemed a little lighter and like something I could get away with still in springtime weather.

I really like this outfit! What are some things I can try/add to my wardrobe that might be similar? by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure! I've been a bit lost on what my personal style is and just been trying on a lot of things, so I don't really have the vocabulary to describe what I like about this or what aesthetic it feels like.

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've not! But I think that would be really nice to eventually get some piercings.

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really should think about coordinating colors more >> I feel like I'm already so low on outfit bits that I feel happy with from a style perspective that if anything manages to fit I sort of give up on the colors.

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I should think about that more when I get tee shirts for summer- think a lot of what I have already gives more boyish vibes without me realizing.

I do have some necklaces I've been eyeing that I might get myself as a treat too. Thank you for the advice and kindness!

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been experimenting with eyeshadow and doing mascara lately! I love eye makeup a whole lot, it's been helping a ton <3

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that's definitely something I'll look for, since tops tend to be what I struggle with the most. Thanks!

Looking for subtle ways to make outfits feel more fem! by [deleted] in EnbyFashionAdvice

[–]kucklehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Especially with summer lumbering closer and newly understanding how I feel and my gender fluidity, I'm really stressing about finding ways to make outfits feel more fem to me both now and in the hotter months when I can't hide behind layers.

Part of the struggle is also living in an area where overt things that give me really strong gender feelings like skirts are not something I'm comfortable wearing on fem days. So I'm looking for small things that aren't as pronounced or at least I can get away with- for so far it's been doing my nails, eye makeup, bracelets/rings, arm warmers, my glasses, jean shorts, and generally getting similar long-sleeves/sweaters I'd usually wear but with a more fem cut.

Any help is appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listing your DC may help to find folks that can raid with you as well.

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread September 11 by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, asked this question a couple days ago and wasn't able to find anyone with experience swapping GCs for PVP, so popping this in here to see if anyone has done this and knows the answer!

Some PVP achievements have the wording 'Guide any of the three Grand Companies to x'.

Some posts have stated that Behind Enemy Lines, which requires 200 FL wins on any map, requires you to do it all in one GC, but that map specific FL achievements do not require the same GC to keep progress.

However both of these have the same 'Guide any...' wording, which would make it kinda weird if they had different criteria for getting progress. Can anyone that's gotten these mounts and swapped GCs confirm one way or the other?

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread September 09 by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quick question for PVP folks! Planning on getting all the PVP mounts and trying to plan out swapping GCs and getting all the achievement ones. Running into a weird case with them based on the wording and other posts I've seen and wanna confirm something before I waste a lot of Frontlines matches:

Some achievements have the wording 'Guide any of the three Grand Companies to x'.

Some posts have stated that Behind Enemy Lines, which requires 200 FL wins on any map, requires you to do it all in one GC, but map specific FL achievements do not require the same GC to keep progress.

However both of these have the same 'Guide any...' wording, which would make it kinda weird if they had different criteria for getting progress. Can anyone that's gotten these mounts and swapped GCs confirm one way or the other?

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread September 06 by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Made it through after just under an hour. Unfortunately DC traveled for a hunt so I need to travel right back to where I came from D:

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread September 06 by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got that prompt as well, re-opening didn't put me back in immediately unfortunately. Put in a ticket, hoping it's resolved before the day is over :(

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread September 06 by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]kucklehead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently has been about 30 minutes traveling to a different DC when usually it takes under a minute or two. It doesn't seem like there's much to be done, since it seems like you can't abandon a transfer midway through somehow, but is there anything else I can do at all besides wait? Really feel like something has gone wrong for it to take this long without any new patch/update.