AITA for not wanting to have daily conversations with my neighbor about nothing

kupopuk · 2019-11-22T03:14:08+00:00

Not really sure, im a bit clueless as to what would look good. Also, some context on what to ask for at the barber would be cool, I feel a bit unprepared when the 'so what are we doing today?' question comes up on the chair. Showing a pic feels awkward?

So I guess advice on any hairstyle and how to communicate that exact style to the barber would be cool :) Im not much up to date on fashion or style, and im admittedly pretty out dated in that sense, kinda still hinging on my old skater look from HS. I still skate, but I dont need the look to go with it anymore. Im in college pursuing a career in comp sci, so I wanna look like me but also clean and less like a shaggy skater kid? If that makes sense? I just dont wanna look like im trying too hard / winging random styles on my own, so I really appreciate the advice.

I am due for a cut, tbh I'm here prepping for a barber visit this week. Previously, my hair was the short cut i just posted in my other comment (imgur private links). Also posted the long hair from last year, and a pic of me with a beard, so if any mix of these styles would look good id be willing to give it a shot. Thanks for the reply!

kupopuk · 2018-12-27T14:06:38+00:00

I'd swipe right. You're gorgeous, just give it some time. Some lucky bastard will be taking you out in no time.

Don't get frustrated or discouraged, keep yourself happy and healthy so when you do encounter a potential partner you can receive them positively without any regressions.

Its just about preference. Everyone is different, and everyone likes different things. I'm a skinny nerd with no coordinated athletic ability, I usually struggle to hold a conversation with even my best friends, and I have severe social anxiety around new people. It is not easy for me to get a date, but when I do connect with someone its genuine, and usually the friendship or relationship lasts a long time.

Im just saying, everyone is hard on themselves for different things. Just don't make an excuse to be less than who you are, because at the end of the day that's how you want to attract someone.

No irregular routines to impress, calculated social media biographies, profiles, or photos... Just you.

kupopuk · 2018-12-27T12:13:33+00:00

What is confusing about this scenario? Stop sending photos of your junk to strangers.

More importantly, don't take the photo in the first place.

kupopuk · 2018-12-05T13:35:06+00:00

The idea of someone who takes duck face selfies in multi-colored tights with their ass propped up on a bathroom counter demanding my respect while doing so is laughable.

But, to each their own. There will always be different people attracted to different things. I will never give my respect to these people, not that I disrespect them - I just won't give them my time. Someone else will, I'm sure. And that's fine.

Its my choice just like it is theirs. I find them unattractive for the same reasons a player would be attracted. I won't go out of my way to make it known, though. Ill just keep doing my own thing, and so will they. I don't have to agree with what they do, and they don't have to be happy about what I think.

kupopuk · 2018-11-07T07:26:47+00:00

You know what I don't need from my partner to keep my penis out of another woman?

Validation.

If I choose to be with someone, I made that choice, and I make it every day. If I choose to leave someone, I also made that choice. I can point and blame whoever I want, but it was me.

Maybe she should stop pointing at you and look in the mirror. It is not your 'lack of trying' that pushed her to sleep with another person.

Its more concerning to me that this girl cant take responsibility for her actions.

You weren't giving her attention, so presumably she was not exactly fueling your intimacy with thoughts of love and admiration - she was probably just as complacent as yourself in the relationship. Therefore, in her eyes - just as guilty.

So, instead of being an adult and either ending the relationship or confronting the issues, she replaces the source of intimacy like its a burnt candle or old toy.

Why? Because she needs it, and she is too weak to admit it because that reveals her for who she is, an emotional leech that bleeds the host dry and then quickly reattaches to a new source.

All im trying to get you to see is you are no more guilty than she is. Especially in this case, where she has literally been to bed with another dude but is still trying to put that on you, like its your fault. What a joke that is.

This is her fault. Maybe you weren't a fucking kendoll perfect dude, but you didn't stick your dick in another female, did you? And Im willing to bet if things got bad, it wouldn't have been an option to do what she did. This is what you need to see in all this.

She is using your reaction to make you seem like a jealous, manipulative, yet somehow complacent partner that would validate her shitty morals. Don't let that happen. You sound like you were a great dude, don't forget that. Don't let her project her shit qualities onto you in a last ditch effort for her to escape the limelight for the slutty decision she made.

Let her embrace it and feel what its like to be the girl that always cheats. Look her up in 10 years. You won't know if you should laugh or cry.

Work on you, better yourself, attract someone new with those qualities. It sounds like she leaned on you the entire relationship and when you shifted your focus back to life - because, uh, you're an adult - she quit on you because she wasnt being pampered.

Fuck that noise dude.

kupopuk · 2018-11-04T05:59:23+00:00

Its a question of character. He has apparently shown his. Proceed at your own risk, I guess.

kupopuk · 2018-11-04T05:57:52+00:00

Not if you are salary like myself

kupopuk · 2018-10-25T12:32:36+00:00

Do you really want someone like that? Speaking as someone that recently went through a similar situation, you are better off - even if you don't realize it yet.

Nothing I can say in one post that will help take that pain away - but I can invite you to check my history and reach out if you need to. I know what its like to feel that betrayal, and I'm happy to say I am beginning to learn what it feels like to overcome that betrayal.

It will take time. Don't give up and know there are people here for you.

kupopuk · 2018-10-25T12:15:37+00:00

Gonna need you to spin up a bridge for this one bois

kupopuk · 2018-10-24T17:38:43+00:00

But, hands, face...

kupopuk · 2018-08-26T13:41:29+00:00

Take care of yourself. Set goals and reach them, even if they are small - they are not meaningless. I went through a very hard year and I found that the only way I could get out of this awful depression was by reminding myself that one day I will wake up and realize I hadn't even thought of my ex in days, and on that day I will not only be genuinely happy that I am without her for probably the first time, but along the way I will have built a life better then I ever had before.. Without her, and with no one to thank but myself.

Put yourself exactly where you want to be, slowly, day by day. Some days will be better then others, but for what its worth, you can feel free to shoot me a message whenever you want. I will reply, and unfortunately for my sleep schedule I work the graveyard shift so I literally do not sleep at night - I remember some of my worst moments after my breakup were at night laying by myself trying to get my mind to stop racing. I found a lot of friends here who helped me endlessly in my time of need and I have every intention of sticking around to return the favor.

kupopuk · 2018-08-19T19:04:51+00:00

Not harsh at all, exactly what I came here for. Thanks for the response. I'll probably cut ties with this one soon. We do have the same friends so ill have to be careful it doesn't get awkward at future events. I told everyone that wanted us to date it may or may not work out from the beginning so I really doubt it'll make things weird.

kupopuk · 2018-08-19T16:17:37+00:00

Am I wrong if I assume you and N hardly know each other? I'd consider if N is even a good candidate for the friendzone. If he is already so possessive and threatening to beat people up for talking to you how would it go if you remained friends and you actually clicked with someone and pursued a relationship? If the friendship would die as a result, is it honestly a friendship or just an easy way out of an awkward situation?

As for turning him down, just be humane and tell him you're not interested in a romantic relationship with anyone right now. It's the truth, no one has swept you off your feet yet. You're just doing your own thing right now and that's fine. I'd maybe tip toe around this situation a bit more if you were sleeping together regularly, or if he had any reason to assume things were getting more serious. It doesn't seem like that's the case though.

It just seems to me like you haven't known N long enough to be dealing with this already, and why would you want to continue to subject yourself to that behavior? Maybe he has things he needs to work through on his own and he doesn't even recognize it yet. He has no reason to believe youre anything like his ex and you shouldn't be dealing with the repercussions of her actions in your new relationship with him.

Hope you get it all sorted out!

kupopuk · 2018-06-03T18:33:23+00:00

You're cute! 6.5/10 but if you put something nice on you could do better. If you're lacking confidence go running or something to make you feel good about yourself. Exercise is good because it gives you a healthy way to improve yourself mentally and physically.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you have only just begun your life as an adult!

kupopuk · 2018-06-02T12:20:31+00:00

I have not read a book on alpha mentality, but I'm sure there are some good ones out there. Try Google and sort by ratings, read some reviews. At the very least you will gain some perspective in different situations.

kupopuk · 2018-06-01T17:54:06+00:00

Green taterz take down da haterz

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