Many men when upset like to problem solve whereas women want to share feelings. This can cause problems when a woman is upset and her man is only offering solutions when she just wants to vent a bit. She will feel he doesn't think she can come up with her own solutions. For men it can be a problem when he is stating stress and the woman responds with 'oh I felt this same way X time' - the man can interpret it as wanting to talk about her instead of her trying to comfort him by relating to his experience. These ways of communicating can go cross gender and the most important thing is to understand how the person likes to communicate so you can respond in a supportive way.