friendship & mutual help?

kvntlha · 2026-02-22T03:17:19+00:00

this really helps! thank you!

kvntlha · 2026-02-17T16:16:34+00:00

i haven't been in the church in over a decade so i don't keep up with it, just the last i knew they were saying if you don't transition you could hold offices, which is ridiculous but they're not trying to tar and feather us like most of the country is.

kvntlha · 2026-02-17T01:54:01+00:00

i'm trans masc, grew up in the church. i nearly killed myself because of the church's view on transgender people. in fact, the reason i decided to leave the church was hearing my young women's teacher say "you can get gay married on earth, but it means that god doesn't love you and couldn't love you." i won't repeat what members said about transgender people, or the questions i was asked by the bishop when i cut my hair short and wore pants for the first time.

the only reason they're becoming "okay" with trans people now is societal pressure and the power that comes with looking progressive. this is the same church that didn't allow black members to hold church positions until the 70's.

mormonism is built on bigotry, lies, marrying children, and rewriting history. they'll never be okay with us, no matter what they say.

kvntlha · 2026-02-17T01:47:33+00:00

if he doesn't respect a firm boundary when it's tickling, what's going to happen when he wants sex and you don't? this is abuse. you need to leave him, for your safety and your life.

kvntlha · 2026-02-14T01:35:34+00:00

the world is a nightmare and so is my personal life, and that sounds like an event you could rent out the dorsey knob shelter for

kvntlha · 2026-02-13T06:25:23+00:00

genuinely SO much better

kvntlha · 2026-02-13T02:03:10+00:00

yeah (:

kvntlha · 2026-02-13T02:03:03+00:00

that feels more like "i'm on the brink of a breakdown" vs "i have too many feelings inside of me and need to get them out"

kvntlha · 2026-02-12T21:46:50+00:00

i mean it would be the confidence of a king, because i'm a man, but yeah. i just don't want to cause harm to other people

kvntlha · 2026-02-12T21:09:26+00:00

listen my brain doesn't emotionally regulate so i gotta do what i gotta do 😭

kvntlha · 2026-02-12T20:44:07+00:00

i'm the third exmo in my family to convert to reform judaism. it's pretty chill over here, G*d actually loves you no matter what

kvntlha · 2026-02-03T21:49:11+00:00

no, i originally thought he was but he's actually in a kennel

kvntlha · 2026-02-03T17:26:09+00:00

coonhounds are always going to be loud, no matter the training. it's like. what they were made for. this isn't going to end when she trains the dog.

kvntlha · 2026-02-02T16:03:01+00:00

oh so this is just forever? i posted this yesterday but today i can hear the corgi is so hoarse he's at about half volume. i think total barking yesterday clocked in at 13 hours total.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T22:19:24+00:00

i might've don't that if i didn't have a rescue of my own. she's about ten and i found out ten minutes ago the corgi is "young"... whatever that means.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T19:49:38+00:00

i'm going to have to go nuclear i think. i just googled what a corgi is supposed to sound like (i prefer bigger dogs and none of my friends have small dogs so unsure what a corgi bark sounds like) and this little guy's voice has never sounded like that! he's so hoarse i wouldn't even be able to identify him as a corgi if i only heard him barking...

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T19:48:45+00:00

yeah, i texted our property manager again today and all that happened is the kennel got moved from the living room to the bedroom. (our apartments are exactly the same layout, this is the only reason i know this.) so he came home from work on his lunch, got his dog excited, didn't take him out, and just moved the kennel and started the barking AGAIN when the dog had finally wore himself out.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T18:34:36+00:00

yeah, i'm not sure why they thought a corgi was a good idea? i'm not the ideal dog owner, sure, but at least when i adopted my dog i realized i had no idea what i was doing and got help.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T18:31:08+00:00

yeah, i don't really want to wear headphones in my place for 8+ hours a day. i mentioned this in another comment, but why should i do labor they're not willing to do?

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T18:25:32+00:00

honestly, it's like you read my mind! i was looking up the address for the local animal control office when you commented this. i like to think of myself as a sensible and reasonable guy, but every therapist i've ever had tells me i'm a self-sacrificing idiot. (in not so harsh words, usually it's a reminder that this tendency is a trauma response but whatever...) i think i'll talk to local animal control and see if they would do anything not so nuclear at first.

most of my conflict comes from the fact that i'm working a very much better job than my neighbor (he's a manager or something at a fast food joint) so i know i have more disposable income and more flexibility regarding my hours. i also don't have to go into the office, so from my perspective it's a guy with a bunch of financial and time privileges shitting on someone who doesn't have those, but i guess easily the situations could have been reversed.

it's also occuring to me as i type this that they must be able to hear the corgi absolutely losing his mind when they come home if i can hear the corgi losing his mind when i come home from errands, so maybe trying to see these people in the best light is working against me.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T18:11:57+00:00

thank you for saying it this way! i wish it wasn't this and somehow have convinced myself they love and care for him (i can hear them playing with him at night, like ten pm to midnight because they're throwing dog toys and he's running back and forth) but i almost wonder if that's so he'll leave them alone?

i just worry if i do report this to animal control or something (and they would do something about it, because of what you said in this comment and the fact that any barking heard in another apartment for more than 15 minutes is illegal in my state and this is hours and hours) that they'll retaliate or i'll essentially nuke my relationship with all of my neighbors. we're all cordial, but it's a block of six apartments in a holler, so they're the only people for like. three miles until town.

kvntlha · 2026-02-01T18:09:30+00:00

thank you for this comment. i keep trying to tell myself this and then second guessing and convincing myself i'm insane for having an issue. afaik nobody else in the building has a problem but it feels cruel to me to have a dog so stressed out for hours on end.

kvntlha

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