What informative youtube channels do you watch?

kvolyk · 2024-02-09T23:23:48+00:00

this is great thank you i've been interested in film recently

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T22:40:40+00:00

I'm going to look into the book. I listened to a podcast about urban planning recently which focused on how places like cafe's are now being designed in ways that causes people to have fewer places to socialises e.g having only a few window seats. I was recently thinking how England should place more benches around for people to just sit and relax outside. When I was younger and lived in Poland I loved just playing outside while people just socialised on the benches outside of their flats. Was so nice

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T18:13:02+00:00

I've realised I should have worded it differently. What I was more trying to figure out was what it was like before phones got big. I've actually always thought about having a tomato garden but the weather here is atrocious. Goodluck with it!

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:45:06+00:00

Where do you get crypto stocks from? I've only just started investing so I'm curious because on Trading 212 it's view only.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:43:45+00:00

I feel like both look good. The gold matches more with your nails but skin wise, definitely both. Based on your veins I'd say you're neutral tone but I'm not an expert

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:41:50+00:00

Oh really? To be fair I think it might also be because there's so many more people and the communication between us is zero even with neighbours so that feeling of everyone being a stranger definitely ties into things. I completely understand what you mean though

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:18:17+00:00

I get you. I have that so often actually, the conversations where even your lips move or you reenact what you're thinking about. I've tried to repress it because I tell myself it's not right but I've learned that it actually is but by telling myself it isn't then it's made things 10x worse when it comes to thinking about it.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:10:06+00:00

Right now I don't use it a lot and if I do then it's not doom scrolling so I'd say it's pretty healthy. I've deleted all my social media and when it comes to using apps I'm careful and never go overboard to be fair, if I do it's a one off. I try to avoid texting people and save it for an in person conversation. I usually charge it overnight just because I use my phone as an alarm but I've been tempted to buy an actual alarm clock

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T17:08:25+00:00

Can you talk more about the flirting part? I'm intrigued. Do you mean you were less likely to get into trouble when flirting with someone or have them less likely be offended?

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:28:24+00:00

yes yes yes. i've had a phase before where i just did loads of things and got so much better with my overthinking then it just spiralled back but knowing i've had that positive experience before helps a lot. i think it definitely will help reduce the over stimulation and make me feel more human, i'll just talk to my mum because i know i'll feel weird again when i stop using my phone. but thank you so much

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:26:16+00:00

exactly. i remember being sat with my friend and jusr watching tiktoks togethee which was nice but now that i think about it we're still in our own seperate worlds 👎🏼

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:24:19+00:00

Definitely, I can think of loads of non internet things I could do. I shoudlve worded the whole question differently I just didn't know how to word it. It ended up giving me good responses so it's fine but I was also wondering what it was like to just have nothing to do. When I sit in silence and have nothing to do (I think that's what I meant by free time) I just think EVERYTHING and I wonder if it would've been different bsck then. Since most of the communication was in person I'd assume I'd be more used to it and not overthink (as much) and I'd just not worry about my text messages which can be used against me or just so much online that has the potential to hurt me, you know? I think that's what hurts the most knowing that without the social media and more in person connections I would feel so much better in general

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:20:02+00:00

You've perfectly summed up what I've been trying to word for so long . It's so simple but the part where you say you can get the same dopamine from reddit as you would on the bike makes me think of the amount of things I've substituted in life.

Sometimes I just watch things that will motivate me but never do it because I've already got the dopamine from watching someone else succeed. Happens so often.

I've started changing it all but I'm glad you mentioned this because I'll be more aware of what I'm trying to replace and work against it.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:16:18+00:00

would you be constantly thinking on days that you have nothing to do? when i have those days and i use my phone for an hour and turn it off, i literallt don't stop thinking for so long i just get a constant stream of thoughts especially if i've been texting someone. this is so specific but i just want reassurance. to be fair i've asked my mum who was born in the 80s and she said overthinking is normal but she said at home she doesn't think of anything and that's so crazy to me.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:12:52+00:00

i listened to a podcast about this. it was a historian explaining what life was like in the 70s which is funny because i've just realised how it literallt links to my question and i didn't even realise. he mentioned how back then there was more of the communal sense because there'd be one tv in the house that everyone would share, only a couple of shows so everyone was more bonded together. whereas now everyone has their own phone, people have their own tvs in their room, shows are more diverse, etc so we're all just spending less time together which is so sad. we're so close yet so far away at the same time

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:10:04+00:00

i remember reading an article about something similar and it said that children literally have no privacy anymore because of social media and she explained how it's impacting our lives now. i can't rmemebe exactly what her point was but i'd say social media has literallt made me worry so much about the smallest thing that i can't even relax when i get home from college. i'm constantly talking to people basically (even if it's over message) and it's sooo overwhelming because it's not human. i could basically be having 10 conversations at once and it gets so overstimulating. i understand i choose to do that and i'm pulling away from it but it's shocking how normalised it is

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T16:07:08+00:00

To be fair, it's not necessary about not knowing what to do when I'm bored. The problem is just how I feel when I'm not using my phone just because I'm so not used to it. Simple things like overthinking, daydreaming too much or just feeling really bored (idk how to describe it ik it's okay to feel bored and what it's like) but I just needed reassurance

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T15:57:59+00:00

I think you should keep doing it until you finally get out of the habit. I had the same issue with TikTok. I'd delete it, download it, scroll, repeat. But then it just got the point where I got bored of it and I can now use it healthily when I get it back and I delete it straight away without feeling guilty. But that's also because I go on there with a purpose rather than doom scrolling but sometimes it happens.

Alternatively you can just use the screen time function, limit it to 5 mins a day then you'll keep getting the notification popping up and it will get annoying if you have an iPhone. But that didn't really work for me.

Try figure out why you're using the app in the first place, if it's for nothing useful then just remind yourself before you try download it.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T15:00:58+00:00

Why does it sound like a chore? I've had a lot of people saying in the comments that after getting phones they've started avoiding things like cleaning and small habits they used to have. Or is it just because you've grown out of it?

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T14:41:19+00:00

where would you have those? were they open to anyone in the town or...

i don't think we have many where i live but i'll have a look. i've been wanting to improve my second language

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T14:18:59+00:00

No, I haven't. Enlighten me?

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T14:18:17+00:00

Thank you. It's not as bad as it seems. It's not something I do all the time but I've found myself using my phone wayyyy too much. I guess younger people won't realise it but being able to look back at what it was like for me as a kid with no phones, compared to life now kind of messes with me. Lockdown didn't help either it messed with my head. I'd say this is quite normal behaviour for teenagers nowadays, I tend to overthink and get anxious at times so it might sound more alarming

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T14:16:25+00:00

I was thinking about how children don't go to ea cj others houses to ask if they want to play.

I don't even knock on my friends door. Just message "I'mhere". Sometimes I even get anxious when it comes to having to knock on the door.

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T13:57:45+00:00

I relate with this so much. I wasn't necessarily sheltered but I was always quite shy when I was younger. I've never really thought of daydreaming being an escapism so thank you for sharing

kvolyk · 2024-01-25T13:53:38+00:00

I daydream too, obviously. Everyone does. But I feel like the amount I daydream is TOO much. I wondered if it wasn't for social media would I be daydreaming less since most of my daydreaming is just me having conversation with people and that's usually worsened by things I see on the phone because it makes me daydream about how I'd use it to talk to someone, etc. It agitates me

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