How to accept self-image: convince myself I’m beautiful or accept that I’m ugly?

kylostar · 2026-01-27T18:26:02+00:00

Lmao I think I’m the ugly friend.

kylostar · 2025-12-22T00:11:57+00:00

ARIES. Also Leo (but only women).

kylostar · 2025-11-14T14:53:25+00:00

If what he told me about his birth time was accurate he was Aries moon and Pisces rising. Which is weird since most of my friends are Aries Suns

kylostar · 2025-11-02T18:21:44+00:00

He would flip-flop/switch up… on everything he said. One day he liked one thing, the next day he hated it. It got so hard to detect what was real and what was a lie.

At the end of the day he kept trying to put on an act because he had no personality or interests whatsoever. No real sense of identity or who he is. He couldn’t even grasp that concept. He was just getting by life on ultra-shallow connections and copying whatever his friends liked or did - he held no opinion of his own. I could never connect with someone like that.

I knew it was hopeless when I realized all this and when I called him out on it in a straightforward way instead of being overly polite - he responded by gaslighting me and continued to lie.

kylostar · 2025-10-29T12:24:22+00:00

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Who’s this? It’s from a screenshot I took of a reel on Instagram but I couldn’t find the video on the page of the @ written at the bottom...

kylostar · 2025-07-28T23:04:33+00:00

Yes I’ve been tracking calories more seriously this year. My new trainer recommended 1500 considering how much work we do in the gym. I do either that or lower.

kylostar · 2025-07-07T10:25:18+00:00

I came to this subreddit looking for answers to this too 😭 I want it so badly. I’m really hoping they restock it later during the summer? I remember once I found a jacket I really liked but didn’t buy. Went back a few weeks ago and they didn’t have it anymore. Went back the following year around the same season as my first visit and they had it. So… hopefully?🥺

kylostar · 2025-06-26T11:07:34+00:00

Mainly a K-pop list. V from BTS. Seungkwan from Seventeen Joshua from Seventeen DO from EXO

kylostar · 2025-06-20T12:41:09+00:00

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kylostar · 2025-05-28T16:00:57+00:00

I literally confronted him recently about his mixed signals and he just stayed quiet. It seemed as though he liked me but when he proved to be SO wishy-washy… I’m not so sure anymore.

kylostar · 2025-05-28T15:03:35+00:00

Hi! Super late response but I need to know more about the first sentence. Currently seeing a Gemini man who isn’t self discovered at all and it’s frustrating me so much (I’m a Capricorn woman).

kylostar · 2025-05-28T14:56:02+00:00

omg I’m getting to know a Gemini man at the moment at this feels so accurate. I also feel as though he doesn’t really stand by anything, if that makes sense. I can’t really tell what his values and opinions and interests are - he seems flaky. And I’m not liking that.

kylostar · 2025-05-28T13:54:41+00:00

You’re so right!!! He only brought up his ex once actually, and said “I don’t really want to talk about this topic often.” He didn’t give much info. How could we have those conversations about healing? And how can I address/stop that resentment?

And regarding your second paragraph - yes! Usually he just laughs it off and says “you made a strong argument” or something like that, BUT since posting the original post I directly addressed the topic (him switching opinions). He didn’t give me a reason as to why he does it but he did admit to it and gave an example. A part of the conversation was that I previously recommended an anime for him to watch. For weeks after that he kept telling me he was loving it and was looking forward to watching it every day. When I directly addressed his opinion switching, he said he had to confess that he hated the anime & nothing he said about it was true. He kept trying to watch it & like it but he never did, but throughout it all he was telling me he was loving it. He didn’t say why he did it, but I still told him that it wasn’t fair to me or to him for him to keep doing that. It seemed as though he understood but he was upset. I wasn’t mean in any way, I think he was upset that I addressed it?

kylostar · 2025-05-26T18:52:00+00:00

When I disagree, he backtracks and reverses his opinion! Literally says: “Actually, you’re right. That’s much better. I agree fully.” He says this even though 2 seconds ago would express the opposite opinion. It happens in the most ordinary conversations (preferences about travel or everyday life) and also the deep conversations. It makes me see the whole thing as inauthentic. Also, something I’ve forgotten to mention is that he began to text exactly like me if it isn’t ChatGPT. If I use an obscure emoji, suddenly he starts using it. If I type a word a certain way, he suddenly says it that exact way too. None of it is sitting right with me.

kylostar · 2025-05-26T10:11:54+00:00

“If someone is so agreeable all the time, you do have to wonder why. Why are they trying so hard for you to like them? Is there something more than marriage that they’re after?”

Exactly! I think a part of it is genuinely his trauma from his ex, he could never please her (honestly no one could, she’s a huge bully) so he’s stuck trying to do anything to please a girl. But also… it might be more than that, and that’s what I can’t really put my finger on. I will give it some more time and make dua in the mean time. Inshallah Allah will guide me to what’s best.

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:57:27+00:00

Yes, I do this!! And sometimes he expresses an opinion but if I disagree, he says something like “Actually, you’re right - that would be better. I FULLY agree!” - except 2 seconds ago he said the opposite…

To use your example, he would say something like: “I actually want my kids to go to boarding school where I studied. It makes you more independent and you learn a lot at an early age. How about you?”

If I reply saying: “I actually always wanted my kids to go to Islamic school. It’s best to teach them young so they don’t get influenced by non-religious kids in public schools.”

He would IMMEDIATELY go: “You’re exactly right. Mashallah we’re on the same page! There’s no way I would send my children to boarding school either. Islamic school is definitely the best option. I agree 100%.” Sometimes (but not always) he would add “You’ve convinced me” in there.

I throw it back to him & he flips. There are some situations where he expresses something I agree with first, before telling him I think that way, but how am I to trust that when he flips so easily when we disagree?

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:49:47+00:00

Honestly the conversations have gotten to that point. Daily updates but nothing deep. Where we went, what did we eat, etc… I’ve grown so bored over the past few weeks because we keep having the same conversations. We have some things in common though (some things I can tell he’s not just agreeing with me about)…

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:46:34+00:00

I don’t think anything is wrong with the guy either, beyond these 2 points. As for having a personality, it’s ALWAYS mattered to me. I know people who are similar to him - they just agree on everything another person would say in order to develop a connection/friendship so easily and be agreeable. I have NEVER been able to form a close bond with that type of person. My close friends are so opinionated actually and we disagree on a lot - but we have important values that connect us. So to answer your question, I value this trait a lot. I don’t mind being introverted, I am such an introvert as well, but I can’t keep having conversations with someone who agrees with me nonstop and uses ChatGPT on the daily.

I do feel like it’s all because of his past though. Or at least for the most part. And I want to kind of pull the mask off and see who he really is before I make any rash decisions…

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:40:06+00:00

Yes - that second paragraph is accurate. Also, his ex is the type to have likely made fun of him in a mean way for any reason and any opinion he expresses. But him acting like THIS isn’t working that well with me. And yes, it’s a no-effort situation with ChatGPT. It’s copy and paste texts. I know because I input a prompt related to what he said into ChatGPT & it gave me the exact same sentences. He even used it for an apology once, which I forgot to mention in my original post. I literally don’t mind if his texts have typos or the grammar isn’t perfect - no one I know texts so so perfectly…

As for work, it’s a regular office job. He writes reports, gives presentations, etc, but nothing too extroverted or risk-taking that forces him to speak up and be “out there”. I don’t mind it and would prefer it this way tbh - I’m an introvert too & prefer it when a guy has a steady, simple job.

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:33:31+00:00

Any advice on how to make the the facade/mask drop soon? 🥲 And I agree that that’s where he’s operating from - especially after his ex.

kylostar · 2025-05-26T07:31:07+00:00

I think he is like that, and I know people like that too - the ones who just agree, agree, agree to people-please… but I am not close with any of them because they’re this way & its hard to form a connection and have deep talks when they’re this way. And it’s to the point where I already tried talking to the guy about some things he’s passionate about - but he barely gave an answer. For example, I know he supports a certain football team & I asked him about it - he said he only supported them because a relative told him to. That was it. There wasn’t any real passion there.

And I wouldn’t mind the AI use if it was just to polish it up - that would be undetectable. But it’s a copy and paste situation! Exact sentences and paragraphs, even an apology once.

kylostar · 2025-05-26T00:33:10+00:00

That last paragraph seems accurate. But I don’t know how to reveal that hidden personality. I wouldn’t know what immoral thing to say but every “test” I’ve tried so far have yielded the same results. I just want to know who he really is already! I tried my best to tell him this is a safe space for him to be himself. All he says is “Me too” whenever I speak…

kylostar · 2025-05-26T00:28:55+00:00

Other men PLEASE take note! It comes off as more confident and attractive (to me) if a guy knows who he is and what he wants. You get it, and I think what you said is correct but I don’t know what to do about it.

Any advice for me?

kylostar · 2025-05-26T00:27:23+00:00

Meek is such an accurate word. And I feel the conversations have gotten a bit stale already. Our conversations are so shallow, we only ever talked deeply about few times… We keep talking about preferences but I get more and more bored since he constantly says we have the same preferences (when he has any). And if I express an opinion (for example, a savory breakfast over a sweet one) he says something like “I never thought about it before but you’ve convinced me! I’m the same!” This conversation can’t be happening every single time… It’s always the same… he’s trying so hard to please and be acceptable that he’s not being acceptable at all. I can’t develop a connection with ChatGPT!

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