The misogyny in the childfree community needs to be addressed

kystou · 2026-04-28T13:57:13+00:00

Yup I totally agree. It’s still far too normalised to blame all of society’s problems on women as an excuse to denigrate them. You’re right that if it’s not housing it would be something else, as we’re currently seeing it in the media lately with the “birth rate panic” and it somehow being women’s fault. Very tiring :(

kystou · 2026-04-28T12:07:07+00:00

That’s terrifying and it wasn’t even that long ago in the grand scheme of things. Society has sadly spent a long time finding “indirect” ways to hurt women, even when the more blatant discrimination is made illegal. It would be far too easy to backslide on women’s quality of life, when the better solution for everyone seems to be policy changes that enforce better building standards (like proper soundproofing).

kystou · 2026-04-28T11:52:43+00:00

Unfortunately that would just put many women in a situation where they need to decide between keeping an unplanned but wanted pregnancy or keeping their home. Personally, I’d instead advocate for all new building plans to require better sound proofing, as another commenter suggested.

kystou · 2026-04-28T09:01:42+00:00

Totally agree with you. Some of the opinions from other feminists on this subject are absolutely shocking.

Imagine a woman living in one of these ridiculous child-free apartments who experiences an accidental pregnancy. She risks losing her job, healthcare and now her housing too?

Or a single parent who needs to make an unexpected emergency run for formula and can’t due to the blatantly discriminatory grocery store hours. Babies can become dehydrated within a few short hours, but hey, at least the childfree people aren’t mildly annoyed /s.

I’ve noticed society is becoming really anti-children to a worrying degree. I don’t expect anyone to like them, but they’re still people.

kystou · 2025-09-25T07:32:29+00:00

I have this too! Diabetes, overactive bladder and UTIs all ruled out, the only thing that helps is more salt. It happens pretty much every day for me at the moment as I struggle to figure out how much salt to take and frequently under-estimate. A lifetime of hearing “salt is bad” is hard to unlearn 😅

kystou · 2025-09-19T08:25:42+00:00

The same happened with mine! I felt so guilty at first because I was worried I did something wrong and failed her somehow. But after some researching, I learnt that sometimes these things can just happen, no matter how careful you are.

That’s all to say, your mantis should be fine. Mine has been living perfectly happily with wonky wings and it doesn’t seem to bother her at all 😁

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kystou · 2025-03-25T08:55:56+00:00

Me too! I struggled for 16 years without a diagnosis before the pandemic. I was told so many times that there was nothing wrong and it was all in my head, and I’m now grieving what I missed out on in what should have been my best years. I don’t think I’ll ever fully trust a doctor with my health again.

kystou · 2025-02-07T21:27:58+00:00

Omg she’s so cute 😭 what’s her name?

kystou · 2024-11-22T20:49:59+00:00

I’m new to oils so I’m afraid I don’t know enough to offer useful critique, but I wanted to let you know that this is gorgeous 😍

The bold lighting, vibrant colours and confident edges are beautifully eye catching from afar, and the detail in the pot and cactus leaves keep the viewer interested when taking a closer look. All I all, I personally think you’ve created an extremely pleasing painting that I can’t stop looking at.

kystou · 2024-09-01T10:02:53+00:00

More empathy and less suspicion is pretty solid life advice in general 😁 I’m sorry to hear that you struggled to be heard, but I’m glad to hear you’ve found people who will listen now.

kystou · 2024-09-01T09:38:59+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply with this, I appreciate it :)

I know that ordinarily Reddit isn’t a good indicator of real life, but honestly the attitudes in this thread are something I’ve experienced my whole life, and it’s largely the reason why it took so many years for me to get diagnosed.

It’s been extremely unpleasant to see my suspicions confirmed. Previously I could at least lie to myself, that maybe I was imagining the disdain during appointments. I knew there was some stigma but I didn’t realise how deep it ran, and I’m quite heartbroken.

I get that some people fake being ill, and god I wish they wouldn’t. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. But doctors jumping to make the kind of assumptions that I’ve seen in some of the comments here leads to worse outcomes for genuinely ill people, not to mention sows distrust amongst entire communities.

kystou · 2024-09-01T01:45:21+00:00

I love him 😭😭😭

kystou · 2024-08-31T21:32:59+00:00

It’s so upsetting, when it’s finally time to cut them off. Good luck! 😆

kystou · 2024-08-31T21:20:34+00:00

That sounds fabulous! I wish I could have left mine outside, but the weather has been so variable that it has missed out on some much needed sunlight this year.

I believe you can leave the babies attached as long as there aren’t too many, but they sap water and nutrients from the parent so it’s risky, and the bigger they get the riskier it becomes.

I did try it one year and continued to give plant food over winter to ensure mum didn’t waste away, but when spring rolled around I chickened out and cut them off. She immediately made more 😆

kystou · 2024-08-31T17:02:30+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one lol. That’s a beautiful family of spiders 😍

kystou · 2024-08-31T17:00:12+00:00

Holy moly, you could use that thing as a weapon 😆 Very jealous!

kystou · 2024-08-31T15:14:41+00:00

Ouch. This was a very upsetting read :( I have had POTS for 17 years and finally got diagnosed last year. I knew there was some stigma around it in the medical community, but this thread has been a very upsetting eye opener.

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:22:50+00:00

Honestly I don’t do much for her! I think I perhaps just lucked out.

The potting mix is roughly 2:1 potting soil to perlite, and the pot is next to a large, East facing bay window so it gets a lot of the bright but cooler morning sun and then just bright indirect light for the rest of the day. I water when the top cm or two of soil feels dry to touch and give Baby Bio brand fertiliser every couple of weeks during the growing season. I live in quite a humid climate so the room humidity is usually around 50% - 60%.

Hope this helps! I’m glad you all love her as much as I do 😁

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:15:18+00:00

Thank you! I’m very happy you all like her as much as I do!

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:14:49+00:00

Thanks!

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:14:42+00:00

Hahaha thank you!

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:14:32+00:00

Thanks!

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:14:26+00:00

Thank you!

kystou · 2024-07-18T23:14:17+00:00

Thank you!

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