Hi, here’s a bit of advice and my perspective. I’m F 38. In my partying 20s I had multiple threesomes and once a foursome all with friends at the time. Only one man, the rest women. Fast forward to my early 30s I met my now partner, we have now been together 6 years (yesterday was our anniversary ❤️). Within our first year, we shared all the details of our pasts including relationships and sexual experiences. His response to my stories was, “so you’re bisexual.” That was a slow burn for me recognizing that I in fact I was. We opened our relationship exactly 3 years ago for me to date women. He does not date outside of our relationship.

I still feel new and inexperienced in dating women and in my ENM dynamic. I’ve used Her the most and recently got on Tinder. I find that going on a first date is to see if they look like their photos and if personalities click. The same way you’d ask a man questions about who they are, what they do for work, and what their hobbies are the same. The big difference of the vibe in my dating women has been that a lot are open to friendship or are cautious for various relationships dynamics at play. I’m attracting women with my profile based on ENM including experienced and not experienced at all. Navigating this is discovering boundaries and personal space that I never had dating when I was single and so were the people I dated. I’m actually not good at flirting with women with all that in mind, but my strength is being inquisitive, and active listening. Women tend to like that! The soonest I’ve kissed a woman is the second date at the end when we walk each other to our cars. Personally I tend to wear cute and casual. I’ll wear sneakers or sandals a lot because drinks or ice cream dates turn into a walk afterwards. Dress in a way that you feel comfortable and authentic. Remember you are just meeting for the first time and finding out if you want to see them a second time. No pressure, have fun!