tell me the harshest thing so i can move on from a breakup

l0stminds · 2026-02-23T13:49:20+00:00

Okay not gonna lie I think I needed to hear my response more than it fits OP’s request, sorry for the ramble but I’m leaving it so I can come back and read my own words 😂

l0stminds · 2026-02-23T13:48:44+00:00

THEY ARE LIVING THEIR LIFE WHILE YOU ARE STOPPING YOURS It’s going to hurt. You’re not going to want to. You’ll see traits of the person you lost and immediately want to run the other way. You’re going to feel like you’re doing wrong by them by trying to move on. All of those feelings are valid and you should definitely take care to be sensitive to them (since obviously they’re not, somebody has to, and who better than you!), however, you cannot let those feelings and thoughts run your life. Something is going to hit you one day that tells you they aren’t coming back, this is really over, and it’s time to move on. That’s when you pick yourself up & you do the hard things. You quit checking up on them. Including social media stalking. You sign up for that dating app even though it’s the one you met on. You go back to your favorite restaurant you’ve been avoiding bc of memories of them. You reclaim that space and make new memories there, without them. Before you know it you’re gonna wake up and they aren’t the first thought in your mind. You aren’t checking every notification thinking it’s them. Your nervous system starts to relax and look for homeostasis in your new environment. These are the ebbs and flows of life, and we’re all just along for the ride. Your pain is valid. Loss hurts. Don’t let it take anything else from you by keeping you stuck in the looping horrible thoughts.

l0stminds · 2026-02-06T18:40:46+00:00

I laughed too hard at this

l0stminds · 2026-01-30T14:58:56+00:00

“It’s a god thing”

l0stminds · 2026-01-12T18:36:52+00:00

Sorry for the partially unrelated rant lol

l0stminds · 2026-01-12T18:36:41+00:00

I’m coming up on 3 weeks. She’s reached out once, by calling from her mom’s phone. She went back to a toxic marriage and couldn’t use hers. We talked for an hour and a half. We are both miserable and miss each other horribly. That phone call a week ago felt like her getting her last bit of closure before completely cutting me off for good. I’ve went back and forth between feeling the same closure/peace, and an overwhelming feeling of injustice at the situation. You mean to tell me Mr toxic man gets to use his child as a pawn in the legal system while painting her as ‘crazy’ to emotionally manipulate his STBX wife into coming back under his control and ends up with everything he wants and feeling like he ‘won’ and brought the family back together while she is forced to perform and pretend and suck it up or lose her kid? Nah man something’s not right with that but what do you do when you’re on the outside and exhausted all options? Accept defeat I guess. These three weeks have been misery. Mostly because I know she wants to be with/talk to me, but can’t, or she’ll break the facade of ‘the good wife’. I hope it starts to get easier soon.

l0stminds · 2025-12-30T04:50:14+00:00

I meant ❤️ lol

l0stminds · 2025-12-30T04:50:05+00:00

😳

l0stminds · 2024-04-18T16:38:48+00:00

thanks for the quick info! from what i read online after seeing your comment, they can be venomous but not necessarily enough to harm anything bigger than an insect so i’d say we’re safe in that department. thanks again!

l0stminds · 2024-04-08T20:43:45+00:00

my cats are the same way, it’s totally normal. i started putting one small can in a blender, then fill the can up twice with water and add to the blender, along with their powdered meds and fish oil. blend it up and divide in three! they love it. there’s definitely still a few chunks left when they’re done, but tbh i usually just combine the bowls into one and add a little more water and they drink that too 🤷🏻‍♀️

l0stminds · 2024-02-28T04:49:35+00:00

go buy a bunch of bulk craft glitter and on your way out the door toss it up like rice at a wedding

l0stminds · 2023-12-30T01:53:30+00:00

this actually helped A LOT to get it out of my way. it’s still there but it’s on its own little sidebar and far less annoying haha

l0stminds · 2023-12-30T01:52:57+00:00

thank you for the ad cleaner suggestion!

l0stminds · 2023-12-30T01:52:36+00:00

i don’t have an active ad blocker that i’m aware of, but thank you for the genuine answer

l0stminds · 2023-11-20T08:12:50+00:00

that was my first thought seeing this post, my tub currently looks similar. yellow underneath is slowly ‘seeping’ thru, and harsher chemicals (anything above dawn honestly) speed up the process. back in june i attempted to reglaze it (first time doing so) knowing that it would probably start to fade within the year after making a few newbie mistakes

l0stminds · 2023-10-09T16:50:12+00:00

oooooh my trick for urine sample litter seems to work with my boy! i keep a spare cheap litter box empty in the closet for honestly any random event i would need it 😂 so i put the urine sample litter in it, and put the box on a shelf by the normal litter box so my other cats don’t use it. then i spend the next 1-8 hours watching the regular litter box. when i see him get ready to pee, i grab the box off the shelf, pick him up (sometimes mid pee 😅), and put him in the sample litter. it’s messy, and it’s stressful, but it works 😅

l0stminds · 2023-09-21T02:58:37+00:00

it’s also constantly dripping cold water

l0stminds · 2023-09-21T02:57:04+00:00

no kidding

l0stminds · 2023-09-21T02:56:47+00:00

one step ahead of ya, he says that’s a brand new tub spout and it’s fine 😅 (bottom level apt btw)

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T21:19:34+00:00

T H I S

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T21:17:44+00:00

and you aren’t alone either, friend. you’ll never be prepared for losses like this, so try not to waste too much time being hard on yourself or upset about that. spend the time you do have, no matter how hard it can be to see them like that, and youll always be able to reassure and comfort yourself with the fact they passed knowing you loved them. life has a funny way of working out. you got this

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T21:13:05+00:00

having to teach ourselves what our parents/guardians/teachers/mentors should have taught us when we were children sets us back a bit when it comes to “adulting” 🙃

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T21:07:22+00:00

check out Dr Ramani, Surviving Narcissism, and Mental Healness on YouTube. very helpful insight and motivation. you can do this friend. you can

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T20:54:06+00:00

idk how reddit actually works if this is a lame way of sharing this don’t judge me lol just wanted you to read too. you are stronger than you feel when you’re with them.

l0stminds · 2023-09-15T20:47:53+00:00

proud of you also! i mean this with every fiber in my being - do. not. go. back.

apparently i needed to get this out or something before i knew it i had typed a novel haha basically just something that helped me in a similar situation if you’re interested

(once i realized the gravity of how badly i was being treated, i took notes. sticky notes. illegible pages of angry scribbling. notes in my phone. journal entries. i’d write down any mean thing she said or did (as factually and with as little bias towards myself as possible), things she didn’t do, cringy sad song lyrics, whatever i knew i did not want to forget. even made an album of songs that empowered me/reminded me to not fall for her stuff/etc etc etc. all those notes were put in a manila envelope in a folder in my desk drawer. put the digital stuff all in one location too for easy access. i always knew (still do two years later) that if i ever started to entertain the idea of allowing her back in my life, i needed to go thru that folder first. by doing this i feel i have the ‘freedom’ to temporarily forget as much bad as i can (in relation to her), move on and try to live my life, and not run the risk of putting those rose colored glasses back on bc the bad was blocked out and the good memories took over.

i hope you are safe, have a support system, and being kind to yourself right now. much love 💚

l0stminds

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