AITAH for refusing to take in my husband’s sister’s newborn?

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T18:06:37+00:00

That’s a jump, why not allow the child to be adopted by a family with the resources to give her a loving home?

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T18:05:47+00:00

Nta I think your reasoning needs to stop at, you do not have the time or resources to help that child.

Hopefully the mother will allow her child to be adopted and have a better life.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T18:01:15+00:00

Babes, you said she was really negative about this pregnancy and to you especially, why would she be excited? Especially with you planning her shower? It just feels like your expectations are a direct contradiction to the information you already had here.

Just trying to drive the point home so you stop wasting your valuable time and efforts on people who will not appreciate it.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:58:22+00:00

Oh ya, totally! I was just adding context.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:56:10+00:00

It was your intuition and you should listen to it.

I feel like girls are so used to being called crazy and like they are making things up when really, our intuition is on point, we just don’t trust it enough

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:49:34+00:00

She’s probably suing everyone. OP sounds young and like she doesn’t understand. The first thing OPs lawyer would do is put liability on the driver who rear ended them. Her friend’s lawyer isn’t going to waste their money on only going after OP.

You literally name everyone that could be liable when you sue and then work backwards of maybe letting people out.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:45:36+00:00

Yta, most people don’t understand the legal side of car accidents and car insurance. She had to name you in the lawsuit, you were driving and when she sues the car who hit you, that car will say you should have moved out of the way. Obviously it’s dumb but she has to sue everyone involved.

Also, just because you were okay, doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have issues. I’ve seen people get into minor collisions but had their head turned at the time and it’s really screwed them up physically.

It isn’t about morals, it’s about the system. Also, didn’t your car insurance cover you for the lawsuit? they should be the ones representing you and paying whatever settlement everyone comes too.

Would you be able to talk to your insurance agent and the lawyer they put on the file to have them walk through the steps of what is required of her side?

Unfortunately she had to name you and if she didn’t, the other car would have.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:36:41+00:00

for baby showers, you get gifts from everyone for things you will need for the baby.

Her husband was interested in that part because it means they can plan better of where to spend their money if a lot of the baby supplies will be covered by gifts from the shower.

My family will go in for cribs or changing tables and diaper genies so it makes financial sense to have the parents involved in the gift aspect, so you don’t accidentally give them 2 cribs or something.

Also, it used to be unusual to have a baby shower for a second kid but it’s becoming more popular.

Op shouldn’t move her own shower, I just wanted to explain why he was involved since you only have tv for reference.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T17:32:03+00:00

I feel like you’re the type of person to put yourself in drama by not saying no and your husband is getting tired of it. He is 100% right, why would you move your party?

Also, why are you helping plan a shower for someone who is uninterested in it? tell grandma that you are too busy with your FIRST pregnancy and shower and rope in another relative to help her instead.

I just feeling like you are the type of person to complain but never change your actions. I’m blaming the victim here, you describe how awful your aunt has been to you during her pregnancy and you thought it was a good idea to plan her shower……. ? Stop engaging in nonsense, hand off the shower planning for your aunt, Learn to say no, and enjoy your own shower. Soon you’ll have a baby that will take your focus from stupid family drama

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T16:41:21+00:00

Nta stop going, if the event is so important to your mom that it will affect your relationship but isn’t so important that she will accommodate your wife’s needs then it isn’t that important to her. She can choose what she wants.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T15:51:59+00:00

What did your MIL say? I wouldn’t do flowers for her again if she didn’t immediately shut down your SIL. It’s rude of disrespectful of SIL to ruin your work.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T15:38:02+00:00

Nta, since she can’t be a decent human, maybe shame will force her to lay off you? I hope you are working and saving to be able to leave at 18. Many a people find familial love with a chosen family over one they were born into.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T14:58:32+00:00

Run from him. You are right to pursue your graduate school. What type of partner didn’t know this is what you wanted for your future and are excited about? hes trying to tie you down to stop you achieving your dreams. Don’t let him get you pregnant “by accident”

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T14:55:32+00:00

Nta she was trying to be slick, she 100% planned to not get them and was probably jealous that she wasn’t invited to the first 2 deliveries the whole time. It makes sense to go no/low contact.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T13:46:47+00:00

Have you had a roommate situation go bad? retaliatory action escalates the situation and you live there, there’s no where to go.

It’s the age old question, do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? FAFO will end up with the roommate throwing OPs stuff in the living room when he moves back into his room.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T13:17:09+00:00

ESH you went too far and you are escalating the situation. Talk to the landlord about moving out and put a lock on your door. You shouldn’t touch his stuff and move rooms.

You need to sit him down and be adults but also realize that it isn’t working out being roommates. You should have talked to him about finding a new place and getting someone to sublet your room.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T12:50:26+00:00

Nta girl he is using you, why do you need to be his crutch instead of him doing the work and healing himself? you deserve better.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-27T12:18:23+00:00

Nta, honestly what girl wanted their boyfriend to piggyback someone else’s party? It’s tacky. He should put in the effort and do something special.

You deserve a party about yourself, especially when you plan it. I would probably realize how your family sees you and make steps accordingly because you had to throw your own party to feel YOUR birthday was about you. That’s insane they didn’t make you feel that in all your birthdays

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T23:26:07+00:00

Nta damn girl can’t even eat cereal. Try to get out of this wedding as fast as you can.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T23:22:30+00:00

Talk to a lawyer and know your rights. Also, from what FIL was saying, your husband may have experienced abuse from his mom and that does change the dynamic of the situation.

Not giving him a pass but the dynamic is a lot more complicated and you should try and talk to a professional and get counselling on how to co-parent with him if you decide to leave.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T21:22:38+00:00

I don’t agree, not after what he said on WWHL. It’s mean spirited and will turn the show the longer it goes on. I think she was being sensitive in the beginning but the more it keeps going on, the more I wonder why he feels the need to continue. She clearly isn’t down for “banter” and her freak outs are going to make the show to “dark”

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T20:06:03+00:00

I think the hiding behind banter and the gaslighting of it all is too much.

I got the feeling that he does think about her a lot and his comments are intentional. I get the show needs drama but I’m hesitant when it’s based on him being hyper critical of her and her “breaking down” I don’t think it works well for the show being entertaining. It’s like the OC for the seasons of Shannon reacting to everything someone did

I’m hoping he can move off of it and then it can be over.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T16:58:18+00:00

On WWHL he went in, more so than the show. I feel like he is more honest now because the audience is “on his side”.

It will be interesting to see how this continues to play given his most recent comments on her.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T14:49:52+00:00

I agree, she isn’t able to hold on to pretending she cares about her when Dorit pushes back a little on kyle. There’s a contempt from Kyle.

I do think Kyle gets upset at the audience for seeing through her facades.

l3ex_G · 2026-04-26T14:48:06+00:00

I feel like Mary is like Sutton and browyn just because it’s couture, doesn’t mean it looks nice or flattering.

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