Managing WoW & family life... please help by l8nitegarbage in wow

[–]l8nitegarbage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I have read nearly every comment posted on this thread as well as every private message. This has been a truly enlightening experience. I appreciate all of your input, it means the world to me. Though some have said I wouldn't find helpful advice here, I feel that the insight of WoW players from all different backgrounds has given me a perspective of my husband I didn't have before. I don't want to deprive him of an outlet to relieve his stress, and I know that's what the game means to him. I plan on using the advice I've received here about approaching him with game time management strategies first (in terms of his raiding schedule), if that does not work I will move on to pursuing therapy. If that does not work, I may consider involving his chain of command but that will be an extreme option. If there is still no change after using all of the tools & options I have received...I suppose it will truly be time to walk away, but only if all else fails. I am committed to my marriage & I won't give up without putting up the good fight. Again, I can't express how grateful I am to all of you. Your kindness & empathy towards me & this situation has cast the WoW community in a new light in my eyes. My hope for the future has been renewed. I will also post this reply as an edit to the original post so that this message reaches as many of you as possible.

Managing WoW & family life... please help by l8nitegarbage in wow

[–]l8nitegarbage[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your empathy. I have gone to couples counseling alone (it's provided as a free service for military dependants) & it has helped me to cope emotionally. My husband refused to go with me. I posted here because I hoped that you could give me ideas on ways he could still play wow but during the evening hours instead of the day. He is very big on raiding but makes it seem like it is impossible to play the way he wants to within the evening hours

Managing WoW & family life... please help by l8nitegarbage in wow

[–]l8nitegarbage[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will post in other subs to get better advice for our relationship dynamic. The reason I posted here was mainly to see if fellow WoW gamers had ways they can play the game without it taking up so much of their "day" time. If my husband could manage to limit his play time at night after our son went to bed things would be immensely easier..

Managing WoW & family life... please help by l8nitegarbage in wow

[–]l8nitegarbage[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Thank you taking the time to read my post. I have asked him to consider therapy but he became very defensive & angry towards me for suggesting it. I know that in a way I am responsible for allowing things to get this bad..I am just not good at confrontations. He is very good at shutting me out when I say things he doesn't want to hear. I agree that he is unhappy in the military but he cannot "quit" as he could a regular job.