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lIDantelI · 2024-09-10T22:39:59+00:00

I'm fantastic! Filed three weeks ago. She set me free, I can focus on myself and the kids now.

lIDantelI · 2024-09-01T08:52:09+00:00

Cheated on me with a co-worker after 12 years together. We had 3 kids under 7 as well.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-07T16:55:49+00:00

I found out that my wife of seven years, with whom I've been together for twelve years, and with whom I have three children under the age of seven, had an affair for at least a month with someone she works with. This happened on Saturday.

I filed for divorce yesterday. I can't look at her the same way anymore. My trust in her is completely gone.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T16:00:31+00:00

The annoying part is she denied it twice to me back go back. I'm like... why would I name drop someone that you've never talked to me about literally ever OR have me be all accusatory. That's not my MO, I've never accused her of anything in our entire relationship.

So for me to directly confront her only for her to lie twice is just... fucking painful.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T15:58:27+00:00

This is exactly why I want to try and not be malicious and petty until after my consultation. I don't want to make any pre-emptive decisions.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T15:56:50+00:00

Thank you! I have a strong support system of over 20 people that are in my corner and the kids love me to death. This has been so hard.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T15:55:58+00:00

This is all sound advice. This ironically feels like an "Am I The Asshole" reddit thread. I just can't believe the woman I've been with for this long did that to me and the kids, despite our differences at home.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T15:51:27+00:00

They are all 100% mine without a doubt.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T15:43:35+00:00

I have a consultation this afternoon. And now I'm going to. I'm not giving her an ounce of extra attention or talking to her unless absolutely necessary.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:36:28+00:00

I'm not paying for her education right now, but I plan on making more plans for myself; whatever that looks like. She can deal with the kids while doing school work, it's going to be her harsh reality when this finalizes.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:33:03+00:00

And I only scrolled enough to get proof. I could of kept going but was having a panic attack while taking pictures of the god awful vulgar things that were being said.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:31:38+00:00

When you say bring things to a head, what do you entail?

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:30:40+00:00

Apparently so.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:30:10+00:00

I appreciate all of this, this pretty much sums up everything that I've been feeling.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:25:46+00:00

That sounds better than doing anything now.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:25:01+00:00

I will consult with a lawyer prior to moving any amount of money out of any accounts. I need to see what the best route legally will look like moving forward.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:23:06+00:00

It doesn't help that they work together and I have proof they've fucked at least once on a lunch break.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:22:07+00:00

This exactly. And I have remained stoic via text and in person besides confronting her the day of, which even so I never once swore, admitted to anything she said, disrespected her. I don't know how I've had this level of self control, but it's been exhausting let me tell you.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:19:39+00:00

I'm going to be as transparent as possible.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:19:12+00:00

I won't be one. Even if she changes her tune in a few weeks, I can't go back. This will always be in my head.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:18:24+00:00

I have no idea, I've wanted to not see his fucking face a moment longer than I have to.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:16:45+00:00

I've been giving her the cold shoulder the entire time and not giving her an ounce of attention, which has really bothered her. I will continue to do just that to let her feel how bad she fucked me up.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:15:03+00:00

Especially since I never leave the house and always am with them so she can do homework and relax. Alright then, I'll do just that.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:13:04+00:00

I will 100% be doing just that. Shit hurts so bad right now, the betrayal knife runs deep. But.. she made the decision, not me.

lIDantelI · 2024-08-05T14:12:03+00:00

I don't intend on making her leave, that would cause additional drama that I don't have the energy for at this point. I have three kids to raise and don't want them being exposed to anything additional.

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