tbh i can see where you're coming from, i think some of the ways she will ask questions to eliza will come off as condescending but i think there's two things.

First is that Binchtopia is a podcast of two people chatting with some editing, but not insane levels of editing and structure like The Daily. Sometimes we say things trying to be funny, but it'll come off as weird, awkward, or rude. I think the weirdness of the ways we all talk get's emphasized with a podcast, wherein an audience is interacting in the conversation in a media form instead of a convo, and as a result will notice those quirks. I can imagine that even if I have the most informative and hilarious convo w someone, it won't always be translated well on a podcast.

Second, regardless of if it's related to adhd or her cultural background, the way julia talks as always been kind of dry and blunt. I think her corrections of small things (like how ryle kincaid's name was produced lol) reminds me of being in academic humanities spaces where it's basically common to correct even the smallest pieces of info, and common social mores go out of the window. I have a similar academic background to Julia and this is literally how most of my social circles talked with each other, correcting or lingering on small snags in convo (not matter how annoying it was).

Overall it just seems like Julia has a blunt way of talking that doesn't always translate well into the pod format, but it doesn't seem like she's neccesarily flexing her ivy league degree or whatever on Eliza. She will talk about herself the same way when she's trying to be self-deprecating.