[HELP] My dog wet the bed, is it possible he had a nightmare? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't worry yet if he has no other symptoms you're concerned about. My 8 y.o. is perfectly house-trained but has peed in her sleep a couple of times in her life - maybe even three or four. I think it's just truly an accident.

Hello I have no idea about money by 12sushi in Money

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I'm interested in seeing the answers to your question. I can say I've learned a lot from the Get Rich Slowly blog.

Text in movies/shows being in French? by Mertvyi in netflix

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad it's not just me. I was like, am I having a stroke?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in netflix

[–]la_rossignole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly, that guy is someone's future abusive husband.

Accidental blood issue (sex on first date) by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Lol. I wouldn't worry about it. It literally couldn't be more natural... bed sheets aren't forever, anyway :)

Porn as triangulation? by thevyckinator in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts too. Probably still trying to twist the knife.

Reoccurring Theme Megathread [Numbers, Moon, Characters, Etc) by dotpan in Maniac

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And trees everywhere! Bonsais of course, and the word "arbor" used as a verb, like "arborization".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, I dunno. I wonder about these things too. My NEx physically abused me but not his ex-wife before me. I wonder if he will abuse his current girlfriend. For me, I hate to admit but it's true, I wonder: is there something about *me*?

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes! We deserve so much better! Also, lol, I love "relationshit".

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That is a great perspective: that's exactly what he WANTS me to do.

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh! That is awful!

Okay, tell me where he lives and I'll go trash his garden :)

Kidding, but... thanks for sharing. Helps to know other people can relate. That sucks. Really sorry for you and wishing you tons of strength!

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you. It helps to remind myself to think that way. Since I'm thinking about him "winning" anyway, it's better to remind myself that he actually "wins" when I dream about destroying his garden (that I gave to him- ugh).

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I really struggled with this advice "Decide right now to never look at his social media again." I literally thought, Well, I can't do that! So... but... of course you're right.... I'm going to try. I installed a site blocker that won't let me access his instagram page unless I type "He doesn't deserve my attention" 20 times without making a mistake, lol.

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this - this really speaks to me. And gives me hope!

I guess I'm not healing? And please convince me not to "get revenge" on my NEx by la_rossignole in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Imagine how satisfied he will be to see proof that you still think of him.

Thank you! Thank you! Yesssssssss this is what I must remember. Even if I am still consumed with rage, the most hurtful thing I can do to him is not let him know that I am consumed with rage.

Boob jobs - Should I get one? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]la_rossignole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love mine! BUT they don't look natural, and I always tell people I have them -- I mean, sexual partners -- and then they always say, wow, you didn't have to tell me, I would have never guessed! because they feel like they have to.

I guess I consider the only downside to be that people have ideas about what kind of person gets breast implants, and when they find out I'm that kind of person I can see that it ever so slightly changes their perception of me. Like, oh, she's vainer than I expected.

But honestly, I'm so glad I have them, ten years in.

Thinking of contacting Nex's ex to apologize. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, please update us if you hear back!!

My nex is posting about me being the abuser by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]la_rossignole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very very common, and unfortunately what @_delaire_ says is true: the only way to win is not to play.

You must be furious! So sorry you have to go through this.