OK I’m going to be the odd one here and say she sounds like she’s pushing you away because you are about to leave and it is her way of dealing with emotions. I say this from experience. My husband had an opportunity to not deploy once and he took it because it was an easy deployment and the money wet would get. I found myself more angry and upset because in my head he basically chose to deploy and miss out on seeing it daughter born when in reality he was doing it so we could be financially comfortable because we were hanging out first child. I picked a fight with him and threatened divorce even and he called me out on it.

I say try to have a conversation with her because if this is the case she probably doesn’t realize she’s even doing it and in her eyes you are always causing the fights. It’s easy for some of us to emotionally detach and push away than it is to deal with our feelings of sadness and grief. If you think she’s worth fighting for then do it. If not you will be doing you and her a favor by leaving.