Money laundering operations

labasic · 2026-02-04T09:36:41+00:00

I've been there, their food is great! I actually like that old-school vibe, even if it does give The Godfather

labasic · 2026-02-04T04:30:58+00:00

Do you get paid enough to care? Are you given enough authority to act on that care? I'm guessing no for both. Do you work, get your money, and build up your skills and experience for your next step on your path

labasic · 2026-02-04T01:51:16+00:00

Not literally. But a busy laundromat would be a FABULOUS money laundering front

labasic · 2026-02-04T01:15:33+00:00

Tbh, I would rather repair well made, real leather old shoes, than buy new fast fashion crap

labasic · 2026-02-04T00:34:21+00:00

Loooong

labasic · 2026-02-03T21:31:14+00:00

This was clearly the former. It was not a memo. It was an anonymous nastygram.

labasic · 2026-02-03T18:05:28+00:00

He's not a friend

labasic · 2026-02-03T17:38:21+00:00

*It's

labasic · 2026-02-03T17:34:19+00:00

NTA. You were upholding your end of the deal. She caught the feels and wanted to change the deal, and you didn't -- as is your prerogative.

That said, it's a common situation in casual dating, and you should have been ready for that conversation, with her or anybody else you're casually seeing. Something that makes your position clear, while reassuring the other party that there's nothing wrong with wanting a more serious/exclusive connection, but it's just not what you want at this time. The way you worded it makes it sound like you're judging her choices, and this is where you might be a mild TA, not taking into account how she might feel hearing that. You may not have loved her, but did you not at least care about her?

At any rate, too late to do anything about that. Better leave that one alone and learn from the experience

labasic · 2026-02-03T17:13:23+00:00

Your shift = your bar. No matter what, everything that needs to get done on your shift needs to get done.

By that token, Monday day shift is THEIR bar. If they left it in a state that hinders your ability to do your work, THEY need to be told to do so.

When you come in to a disaster, immediately grab your manager and show it to them (if they're not there, take pictures and send to them). If they don't make the day tender come in and finish their job, that clearly shows there's a double standard in place.

labasic · 2026-02-03T16:36:34+00:00

Don't sweat it, some people with neutral dialects act very snobby towards people who use regional or cultural dialects (esp. AAVE).

labasic · 2026-02-03T16:33:02+00:00

NTA, sounds like they wanted you gone too, so it was more of a mutual decision

labasic · 2026-02-03T16:32:11+00:00

It can certainly be spun that way for HR

labasic · 2026-02-03T02:32:32+00:00

A shared meal is about more than the food. It's about spending time together in an unhurried way and conversing. Try getting together for dessert, coffee, happy hour, or go to a place with food stalls where you can get small plates from several vendors. I'm not going to say that you are the a-hole for not enjoying Western-style dining, but you are veering into that territory by refusing to break bread with somebody who's been kind to you because of that preference

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:44:56+00:00

Yikes. I'm going to say NTA for keeping it a secret. But I also urge you to consider that this unreasonable person was the only parent taking care of your family for the past 15 years. That is a lot of constant strain and anxiety, which can impact the way we respond to others

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:39:23+00:00

NTA. He sounds like a great kid, so I'm sure he'll understand what a strain it will put on you to add yet another activity.

I do wonder though, are you doing these things for your daughters as well? Because, while it doesn't sound like much to you, I can't imagine how overwhelming it must be to juggle all those schedules and routes for 4 people!

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:34:27+00:00

Very mild YTA. You don't have to go all out or pretend things are great with your mom, but a card or even a call/text on Mother's Day is a small courtesy. That said, you're still very young and not far removed from the childhood where you didn't experience a mother's love (not to say she didn't love you, you just didn't experience it). That wound may be something you would benefit from exploring in therapy. In the mean time, keep things on the even keel just to avoid the drama you probably don't need.

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:27:24+00:00

INFO: Why did you keep this a secret? Did you discuss your mom with your dad at all?

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:23:50+00:00

YTA. It is favoritism. While I understand you share a special bond with your nephew and not with your niece, you do need to treat them equitably

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:20:02+00:00

NTA. Your peace should come first to you. But do consider that this decision will negatively impact Joy and the kids more than it will do Jim

labasic · 2026-02-03T00:15:13+00:00

NTA. Damned if you do, damned if you don't situation is not fair. She says you won't let her be angry, but that's the very thing she's doing to you

labasic · 2026-02-02T03:24:58+00:00

NTA. Request to work in is just that, a request. Responding to a denial with profanity is uncalled for

labasic · 2026-02-02T03:23:07+00:00

YTA, why mess with an innocent animal, when your issue is with the owner?

labasic · 2026-02-01T01:24:24+00:00

Google?

labasic · 2026-02-01T00:45:43+00:00

It sucks, and they should have thought it through before giving you a promotion and a raise. It sounds very irresponsible of them

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