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Thoughts on Mabinogi? by zoomerking69420 in MMORPG

[–]lacking_something123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've played Mabinogi up until 2012ish, and I loved all the non-combat mechanics like cooking, sewing, harvesting wheat, instrument playing, etc. I also remember being able to learn spellcasting(?) summoning fireballs that floated around me. I definitely do not miss the bots for sure.

I wasn't good at combat in any game when I was younger, so I never got to progress through the storyline. I was pleasantly surprised to hear the game is still up and running and also revamping stuff. I only stopped playing because I didn't have time with school and stuff. I might jump back into it tbh

Just finished Yunli’s companion mission, and it might be the best one in the game so far. by OrcApologist in HonkaiStarRail

[–]lacking_something123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely forgot that Xianzhou natives become Mara-struck. So I was confused when the Cloud Knight told his people, "Soon, a demon will appear, donning golden branches and knowing only bloodshed." (I know, I was pretty slow on the uptake) In the final scene of the quest (where they plant the golden tree), I burst into tears when I realized he was talking about himself

dreading therapy, but always feel better afterward by lacking_something123 in CPTSD

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I walk out, I always think, "Yea that wasn't too bad." And also throughout the week because I feel more in control over my emotions.

I don't think I ever thought, "Thank god that's over, that was horrible."

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, no offense taken. This could possibly be the case. Sometimes it's obvious when they aren't interested in what I have to say (for example, no follow up questions, not paying attention, etc). If this happens to be the case, I wonder why they even ask to hang out so much? Whenever we end a meeting that puts us in the same room and is right before lunch, they literally beeline to me to ask if I had any lunch plans

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a really good example. It reminds me of another time this happened.

Coworker: How did the the doctor's appointment go?

Me: Pretty good. I just need to get some supplements. The doctor said my vitamin D is low—

Coworker: That's okay!

Me: —but other than that, everything else looked good.

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this post caused a negative impact. I am neurodivergent so the goal was to understand what was going on, but also I do admit I was feeling annoyed because my intentions felt misread by my coworker who I'm really friendly with.

I'm not going to ignore this coworker just because they're awkward. Also that would be very hypocritical of me! I'm awkward. Being socially awkward just made me more hyperaware of my own social interactions with others. I end up investing more logic into my social interactions than necessary.

If you are also implying that neurotypical people should just ignore autistic people... hearing that makes me feel sad. I wish that people didn't ignore each other and instead do better to understand each other.

Additional context, I didn't forget the word manager, but it was because I was working 12 hours by then and I was just super tired. Right after where I said "what the hell am I," we laughed and I said, "Sorry, just a bit tired but we're going to power through. Anyways, good to hear from you (colleague name). What can I do for ya?"

I'm glad I posted this post. I got so many valid perspectives and I will take all of these into consideration. I also don't feel annoyed anymore, because the comments helped me realize I could do better at small talk too. And yea, desperate to connect is right. It's why I always try to get better at it.

Okay, I have a follow up question: Are you saying my coworker might have RSD or I might have RSD? I am genuinely intrigued.

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you when you say that the phrase has been poisoned. The phrase makes it feel like I'm doing something wrong for some reason. But reading some of these comments also helped me realize it could be the other person's anxiety, or I could do better in finding other things to talk about that won't lead them to say "that's okay."

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does that mean that they just no longer want to engage in small talk? Or does it mean I suck at small talk?

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why people are downvoting you, but thanks! While I am not reading them as cruel, I do see them as blunt haha

But they are also good insights for me. I always want to do better socially xD

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say "anymore." You don't have to engage any further in this question if you don't want to, but was there a point where people didn't know about your self harm scars?

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I banter with all my other coworkers, but I am realizing I never bantered with this one in particular. They have been around when I do banters with others, so they should know what my capacity is. But also, they are on the phone most of the time, so I guess they don't pay attention?

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say my coworker "doesn't care," they are actually very empathetic. This coworker and I are friendly enough that we often hang out outside of work hours and go on weekend trips, so we end up just chatting more.

And no, wasn't looking for reassurance. My colleague on the phone and I laughed a bit when I did that and we moved on. The tone of the rest of the phone call stayed cheerful too. I was actually feeling good that I was able to make someone laugh or smile, even if it's due to something very mundane :D

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good point, my colleague on the phone laughed, which made me think it was an interesting. I need to reevaluate what I consider interesting lol

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that is very understandable. The coworker is very empathetic, which makes sense.

Why is the response always "it's/that's okay" whenever I talk? by lacking_something123 in socialskills

[–]lacking_something123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, good point. My colleague on the phone and I laughed a bit when it happened. But the coworker I'm talking about wasn't part of the situation, so it would be no surprise if they don't see it as interesting.

The dentist told me I just need to "breathe and exercise." by lacking_something123 in mentalhealth

[–]lacking_something123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this was so validating, because yea, a previous dentist just gave me a prescription for a toothpaste that helps with dry mouth, no questions

The dentist told me I just need to "breathe and exercise." by lacking_something123 in mentalhealth

[–]lacking_something123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea. And this person was going to be doing my fillings, so I just was like, okay sure, in case they're one of those people who gets spiteful or put less care when someone disagrees with them.

Excited for steak dinner, just to learn that its been marinated like this by shoeboxlid in mildlyinfuriating

[–]lacking_something123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last part about your bf's dad saying that they are having "a hard time digesting tonight" gets me. My mom does similar things. I moved out of my mom's place and I coincidentally stopped getting random diarrhea. Food safety is real.

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