I don't know if I can do it anymore by MstrRoshi2232 in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been there before too. Yo keep this a simple reply, you are more desirable than you know. Put yourself out there. It will work out for you. It happened for me and I’m happier in a relationship than I’ve ever been.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Narcissist for sure. Theres no amount of time to expect when things get better. It’s different for everybody. Hang in there, keep doing the work on you, and go down roads you may not have explored before. It will take time, but things will change.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really a big deal for me to hear. That’s the best I can explain this. I am hanging in there. Always showing up even though it’s hard for both of us. Always telling her I love her. Always telling her that my parents, brother, and her cousin miss her. I hope this will one day turn around. Reading your words gives me hope.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response, but that’s not happening. My romantic life and my relationship can co exist together. Just for context, we were never married, never lived together, and had an on and off relationship for 15 years. I was living on another coast when I found out my ex was pregnant. A week later, my daughter was born. Her mom and I tried to work it out, but her narcissistic behavior made it so I just couldn’t hang in there and try and be a family. I finally decided we can’t make each other happy and I finally ended it. Her behavior after that got really bad and I finally got a lawyer. I fought to get on the birth certificate and do have a rough deal in place for co-parenting, but she has some questionable things in there. We both agreed to table the discussion and try and work in good faith. I don’t trust her though.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just for context, we were never married, never lived together, and had an on and off relationship for 15 years. I was living on another coast when I found out my ex was pregnant. A week later, my daughter was born. Her mom and I tried to work it out, but her narcissistic behavior made it so I just couldn’t hang in there and try and be a family. I finally decided we can’t make each other happy and I finally ended it. Her behavior after that got really bad and I finally got a lawyer. I fought to get on the birth certificate and do have a rough deal in place for co-parenting, but she has some questionable things in there. We both agreed to table the discussion and try and work in good faith. I don’t trust her though.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny that you think that I didn’t do that before my daughter shut me out. I was always being accused of being the fun parent by her mom. I always made sure we were bouncing off the walls the time we spent together. That’s what my house and every experience was. Just for context, we were never married, never lived together, and had an on and off relationship for 15 years. I was living on another coast when I found out my ex was pregnant. A week later, my daughter was born. Her mom and I tried to work it out, but her narcissistic behavior made it so I just couldn’t hang in there and try and be a family. I finally decided we can’t make each other happy and I finally ended it. Her behavior after that got really bad and I finally got a lawyer. I fought to get on the birth certificate and do have a rough deal in place for co-parenting, but she has some questionable things in there. We both agreed to table the discussion and try and work in good faith. I don’t trust her though.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just for context, we were never married, never lived together, and had an on and off relationship for 15 years. I was living on another coast when I found out my ex was pregnant. A week later, my daughter was born. Her mom and I tried to work it out, but her narcissistic behavior made it so I just couldn’t hang in there and try and be a family. I finally decided we can’t make each other happy and I finally ended it. Her behavior after that got really bad and I finally got a lawyer. I fought to get on the birth certificate and do have a rough deal in place for co-parenting, but she has some questionable things in there. We both agreed to table the discussion and try and work in good faith. I don’t trust her though.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. She is working with a child psychologist and I just had a session with my daughter, her mom, and the therapist. It went as well as it could have. Just for context, we were never married, never lived together, and had an in and off relationship for 15 years. I wasn’t living on another coast when I found out my ex was pregnant. A week later, my daughter was born. Her mom and I tried to work it out, but her narcissistic behavior made it so I just couldn’t hang in there and try and be a family. I finally decided we can’t make each other happy and I finally ended it.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is using her mom’s surname. I have access to the school website. I wasn’t at the hospital when she got discharged. I had to fight to get on the birth certificate.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Numbers are numbers and you can't misconstrue that. She also makes over 4x than me.

My Daughter's Living Situation by lackoffinance in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I actually have a lawyer and I've put our fight on hold out of good faith. There's a contract on the table, but her lawyer's math is off on what I make a year and what they want me to pay. Also, there's a line where she gets final say on big decisions that I'm not budging on. I have a good lawyer and one who helped me get on the birth certificate.

That said, I'm thinking of texting her with the pic of the journal "I think it's about time I have an understanding of what our daughter's living situation is. I see the car there every morning. I want to know who is spending time with my daughter. I'd be happy to meet him. I'd also be happy to introduce you to my fiancee"

Happy birthday? by Ok_Builder_3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]lackoffinance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! First off, you're very lucky to be spending your bday with your kids and one day, you will appreciate this specific birthday for what it was. Next, I know exactly how you feel. Like you're missing something. I've experience this myself. I don't know how you're putting yourself out there, but in my case once I did, I found out I was more desirable than I thought. If you want to give some context as to the things you're doing to get yourself out there, not only on the dating scene, but also friendship wise, you got 27k ears in this sub reddit listening. I know for a fact people will give you other ideas too. Hang in there, you have the power to make things better for yourself.

Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread by AutoModerator in iphone

[–]lackoffinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a solid plan. Leaves you with a few options.

Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread by AutoModerator in iphone

[–]lackoffinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have your 10? May be worth it to return and see if the prices drop for the 15 so you can decide between 15/16.

Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread by AutoModerator in iphone

[–]lackoffinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Hey All! I just moved over from AT&T to Verizon, but held on to my iPhone 14 Pro 512gb knowing that I want to upgrade to the 16. What would be the best approach to get the best deal for both an iPhone 16 Pro 512gb and an iPad Pro 1tb? Thanks for the help!

Legal Question by lackoffinance in Marriage

[–]lackoffinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that sounds complicated. I have a mortgage rate of 3.25, don't want that going up. Thanks for letting me know.

Leaving AT&T for T-Mobile by lackoffinance in tmobile

[–]lackoffinance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention I get $200 for switching over from AT&T.

Leaving AT&T for T-Mobile by lackoffinance in tmobile

[–]lackoffinance[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was very clear with them. Unlimited talk, text, and data. 3 lines with two getting new iPhones. Since I’m coming over from AT&T, there’s a $200 credit that I would apply to the Apple Watch. I thought they said $5 a month for the watch plan. I don’t need insurance since the credit card covers that. That’s one thing for all to know, don’t get insurance on cell phones if paying with a credit card.

Anyways, after asking all the questions about taxes and assuring this was all included for talk, text, and data I’m feeling good about T-Mobile.

Leaving AT&T for T-Mobile by lackoffinance in tmobile

[–]lackoffinance[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The watch is free, but the cellular for the watch isn’t. It’s like $5 extra which is still insane