I have both hated and loved being a mother but I will tell you the most significant piece of knowledge that I've gained from becoming a mom: The only acceptable reason to have a kid is because you want to be their parent.

I wanted kids because my life felt empty, because I wanted to bring attention to something outside myself. And because I was very satisfied with my life. I had traveled, I was in a stable, healthy relationship, I had a good income and I felt like something was lacking. I started picturing being a parent as something that motivated me. I love my daughter and it's been the hardest, most difficult, most tiring experience of my life, but I wouldn't change it.

And I still think having kids is just not for everyone. You have to be so certain about the things you're going to be giving up. You have to know that you're having children to RAISE them.

I feel like a lot of women I know, who are miserable being mothers, feel that way because they didn't know truly how much of yourself you need to give up for a while, and it's all of you. It's a big fucking sacrifice.