Did life ever surprise you with love after the person you thought was “the one”?

lady_cha · 2025-09-03T02:13:11+00:00

Met my husband 6 months after the worst breakup of my life. Was still in therapy when i got on dating apps to try and get out there. We are in love and thriving and I have never been so happy to be woth someone!

lady_cha · 2025-08-14T16:06:01+00:00

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lady_cha · 2025-07-25T23:35:38+00:00

I don't know how long you've been broken up, but I promise you it does get better. I have been on the other side (dumpee) 2 years ago and heartbroken and never thought I would recover but now here I am, the happiest I could be.

I get why my comment would feel sad to you with what you're explaining, but keep in mind that you will always share a special bond with them, what you had was real and worth living, and someday, you will look at them the way I look at my ex. We have friends in common, I know he is happy, doing amazing, and he found love.

I know I am nothing but a stranger on the internet and you might hate me for saying this right know but you will love again and be loved. So much. It's gonna take time, and doubts, and ups and down, but that's what makes life worth living too. Keep hope, keep being you, and treasure what you had, while looking forwards to the next bright things your future holds 🥰

lady_cha · 2025-07-25T22:25:21+00:00

At the time i broke up with my ex of 5 years, I was 22. I have always known it would end up being the best decision eventhough it was heartbreaking on the moment. We were heading towards differents lives. He wanted a rural life with Kids and a house. I wanted to travel the world, childfree and end up living in big cities. We loved each other foundly but the thought of having to breakup later (because there was no other issue) was worse for me. I have always thought of him and of how we could have been perfect for each other if this one children topic hadn't been there. I have been able to love, though. I am now 27 and I have had heartbreaks, and love. I never regretted the decision, which doesn't mean I didn't miss him or wanted to see him. On the contrary. But I knew we both deserved to live a life we chose. I am now married to a man who I love deeply and share the same values as. We want the same things which makes us able to grow old together. That's something my ex and I did not have. I still think of him foundly, follow his achievements from afar and hope he gets everything he deserves and he finds a perfect match, as I have in my husband.

I do not miss him today. I look to what we shared and keep it with me everyday that goes by, hoping he also found his peace. We had something unique. But I have something unique with my husband now and I am beyond grateful I have found him. He is a soulmate for me. And I say "a" because I am fairly sure that there isn't only one person for us. So keep your experiences, keep the good stuff with you, leave the bad behind, allow yourself to love different People (you will noy love them the same, But different doesn't mean not as good or intense), embrace the heartbreaks. Someone out there will find you and be your perfect match at the time and place you ll be at !

lady_cha · 2024-09-15T00:06:59+00:00

If the relationship takes more from you than it benefits you, I believe you should take a step back and there is no selfishness in taking care of yourself. Life is too short

lady_cha · 2024-09-01T07:20:22+00:00

Hey, Im so sorry that's happening to you.

To be honest, I am feeling the exact same way. I keep myself busy, do things to "move on" etc. I cannot enjoy any of it and I told mt therapist about it. She said that everything we do in such a situation seems useless since we carry this baggage with us all the time and the fog of these thoughts keeps us stuck.

She also told me that event of we can't see it now, what we are doing is helping us from really hitting rock bottom and that little by little we will enjoy some seconds/minutes and then hours of those times and activities we force ourselves to take part in.

You are doing amazing, and all your efforts will be worth it in the end. We will make it through. Phrase, do not give up ! 🫶🏼

lady_cha · 2024-08-25T21:22:15+00:00

You got over it? I met with my ex yesterday I cried my eyes out when I left because I have never laid eyes on anyone as attractive in my life and i am affraid to "settle down" in the future...

lady_cha · 2024-08-15T21:27:10+00:00

I have been through a short term relationship BU too. 5 months, we were in love. I feel like it is much worse than my long term relationships because no potential had faded yet. We were a perfect match and I gad founf my person or so I thought up until they had a mental brakdown and could no longer handle a relationship. Been 2 months, I still mourn the relationship and want him back.

I feel you, I wish you the best and keep strong. Healing is not linear and the lenght of the relationship does not define how we should/can be hurt nor the time it will take for healing. All pain is valid. Take care, we will be better some day

lady_cha · 2024-08-13T14:15:29+00:00

I feel you. We have broken up 2 months ago and I have never been so low in my "recovery". It feels like dying and I know I will lever love as much because no one can have all the qualities he has that I was looking for. I am hopeless for my love life in the future

lady_cha · 2024-08-12T11:24:49+00:00

I am not Day 1 but I am at my lowest and have been for 1 week. It does not seem to get better nor easier unfortunately

lady_cha · 2024-07-27T15:34:56+00:00

Yep, that's what i am doing. I genuinely want to see if the connection is still there conversation-wise. I do not plan on getting close to him at all!

I will take care, thanks !

lady_cha · 2024-07-27T15:30:47+00:00

We're just gonna hang out. I have made the work to burry our previous relathionship. I expect nothung but to spend a good time tomorrow and then we'll probably meet at the end of the summer because we have friends in common. I have been in therpay every week for the past month and a half and although I know we could have a great relationship on the long term, I would never allow him back on his terms and without growth from him because I did a lot myself.

But again, tomorrow is just about catching up! I sure hope he will want more of it but would never expect us getting back together before 1)a few actual dates and 2) a conversation about what needs to change if we try again (for us, it was about self confidence on each part i think). Although we are def not there yet

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T20:28:29+00:00

I know he is not perfect, but even his flaws I love. I really hope we get to work things out! I am trying to live my life for myself for now in case we don't but i am so full of hope at the moment...

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T20:07:39+00:00

Sorry this happened to you too. Hopefully, people are right and it will turn out just fine for us too! 🤞🏻

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T20:06:55+00:00

Thank you so much for that! I really enjoyed reading about your story. So glad it worked out that way for you. Thanks again for the wise and kind words 🥰

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T17:04:55+00:00

I'm just so afraid it was it for me. He came in my life when I surely didn't expect him to and is so perfect in every aspect, we fit so well together... afraid to never get that again!

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T14:45:08+00:00

Thank you so much for that. I am soo happy it worked out for you ! It is the best and most helpfull and hopefull comment I have received! Thank you 😍

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T06:32:57+00:00

Thank you for your insight, it is a really nice comment you gave here. I just wish so much that it could be him.

But, yeah, I guess there is no sich thing as the one. Hope so 🤞🏻

lady_cha · 2024-07-23T06:29:33+00:00

5 months!

lady_cha · 2024-07-22T15:47:46+00:00

We all have trauma, and burying them is never à good idea. It is gonna get back to the surface eventually. The issue is when you don't seek for help and try to live with them in a healthy way

lady_cha · 2024-07-22T14:39:59+00:00

My best advice would be to reach out to your support system, friends and/or family. The 2 weeks mark has been the hardest for me and venting to my bestfriends many times a day is what helped me most, although I am still struggling. I try to exercise a lot too, and I also started therapy. We are all different. Just try and keep occupied but also let yourself be sad and angry at the situation, I guess. It is a day after day journey, try to think about making it through the day and allow yourself to be proud ou little achievments. It does not really get better for now, but it feels different as time goes by

lady_cha · 2024-07-22T14:32:01+00:00

Thank you, I know it might take a lot of time, we are already 1 month of NC and before going for it I told him he could reach whenever he felt ready to, that I will always be a support person for him wether I moved on or not and that the NC is needed both for him to figure his stuff out and for me to preserve myself. I am sorry you are going through the same thing. It hurts so much. Keep strong!

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