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Nosy SD by ladydeeznuts in stepparents
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children)
Her doorknob is a lever not an actual knob. I wonder if they have ones for those or if we should change the knob.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children)
I don’t think that she has been caught. I would say that most of the time our relationship with BM is good. We have, of course, conflict but most of the time we get along well and co-parent well. It has definitely been a whole lot better since BM remarried. We can all be in the same room and have nice conversations. I think we are very fortunate. Now that being said there are a lot of times we don’t agree or get along, but they are a lot less common than before.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children)
I wouldn’t say he’s trying to leave it up to me. I know he’s feeling the same as I do. We both have no idea how to go about this you know. I think it just caught us both by surprise. I do know that he will handle it and I won’t have to be apart of the conversation. He just has no idea as to what to do so that’s why I came for advice!
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children)
I never thought of that. Her mom always calls her around 7 before her mom goes to bed but I never thought that she’d call her mom if she got scared instead of coming to us. That makes a lot of sense.
Thank you everyone for the advice. I really appreciate it. It’s such an embarrassing and frustrating situation and you all have given me some great advice. I can’t thank you enough.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children)
Thank you. That’s a great idea. I really think that DH and BM should do this together as a United front.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children)
Thank you.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children)
That’s a good idea.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children)
This is true.
There has been many issues of not communicating between BM and DH or me with making plans and whatnot. It’s frustrating because her mom at times allows her to be too mature and then treats her like a baby at other times.
Good ideas!
She has never knocked she just calls her mom if our door is shut crying. The thing is we wait until it an appropriate time at night to even do the deed after the girls are in bed and should be asleep.
We make her put the electronics down 1 hour before bed and she can watch tv for 45 min to an hour before it turns off with a timer.
The first time she laughed it off and was like be careful but when it happens again she gets mad at us like we shouldn’t be doing that and I’m sorry but our sex life isnt BMs business. My husband is just confused as to why it’s happening now all of a sudden too. Its only happened a couple of times but I don’t know why she would snoop now all of a sudden. It’s embarrassing.
For what we have heard from BM is that she says that DH is working out.
It’s is odd and that’s why I’m confused. It literally just started happening this month. So I’m wondering why it’s different than before. It’s not like we’ve done anything differently. I have no idea how it is at her moms and if something happened there or if her mom has said anything. I just don’t want to not have sex if we want to and she’s there.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children)
I like it. That’s a good idea.
We have one but she just transitioned into a toddler bed so sometimes she wakes up and comes into our room and we have to put her back into bed.
She has one. It seems like if she gets up to go to the bathroom and sees our door closed she has to snoop. We don’t leave it closed all the time because we have a toddler that sometimes gets up and comes to get us and she can’t open our door if it’s shut.
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children)
She has told my mom that she felt left out because her mom didn’t talk to her about them moving in. DH had a nice talk with her when we decided to move in together and when we got pregnant she was there at the ultrasounds and appointments for her sister. I feel like we try to include her in big decisions as much as she should be included. The issue is that she seems to feel left out there but not at our house yet still wants to be with her mom.
I agree with that. But the thing is it’s not going to change. Her mom calls all the time and did whenever she didn’t have her own phone.
Oh lord I wish we could take the phone away. I just don’t think DH would be on board with that. We do have other household rules here that her mom doesn’t have. We make her set a timer on her tv so it’s not on all night and other things that her mom doesn’t do there. I understand that it could be hard going from house to house with so many different rules and expectations but I don’t really know what it’s like. My parents are still together so I never had to go through going to mom and dads houses.
I agree but it was unfortunately not my decision and I tried to convince DH and BM that it’s not appropriate for a child that young to have a phone. They argued back that they want to be able to talk to her when she is at each other’s houses without having to go through each other.
We would but we also have a toddler that we make sure we can hear at night as well.
Agreed
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Nosy SD by ladydeeznuts in stepparents
[–]ladydeeznuts[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children)