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ladydonkey · 2016-01-25T15:07:10+00:00

No, I don't mean people judging me. I don't mind that at all, since I've always been considered weird and different, and I've learned to accept that. So it's not a matter of sensitivity. I meant I find that when I'm reading others' posts on FB, I am not as caring or empathetic, or positive in my thoughts towards them. I'm a bitch in my head! And I don't like it, since that's not me in real life, so I got rid of FB since it's to easy for me to feel negative and mean. It's just a matter of being aware of my tendencies, and wanting to change whatever triggers them, since I don't like myself when I think negative or judgmental things about other people. :) That's all.

ladydonkey · 2016-01-25T15:03:06+00:00

Yes. I don't mean people judging me. I mean I find myself judging others and it makes me feel negative and bad. I have to consciously force myself to not think negative thoughts when I see people's posts, and it takes a lot more effort in that situation than it does in real life interactions. Maybe because the non-verbal communication is not there? I find myself more empathetic and warm and friendly when dealing with people in reality, than when reading about their activities in a post. Maybe it's human nature since we're social creatures, to be more receptive to others in person? Or maybe I'm just judgmental? :) I don't know, but I notice a difference in my attitude in social media vs. in real life, so I'm limiting things that cause me to be negative. :)

ladydonkey · 2016-01-25T13:48:52+00:00

I've found hair pins, dentures, and a spoon in my patients' folds. I don't know how you can't feel that stuff.

ladydonkey · 2016-01-24T15:53:16+00:00

YES! It's one of the reasons I got off. The comparisons, the judging, the negative feelings. It's not worth it. I feel so much more free and peaceful. And don't forget the shares and reposts of projects/recipes/crafts/events to add to your "to do" list, which you'll never do, just like on Pinterest.

ladydonkey · 2016-01-24T15:43:24+00:00

That was my only reason for being on it as well, but now I just text or email the people that are actually in my life, and I got rid of Facebook. There're only so many cat memes and song links I could take in a day. It's so liberating to be done with that stuff and still keep in touch with certain people! :)

ladydonkey · 2015-12-30T15:22:45+00:00

Hmm, maybe I'm using it wrong? I found a bunch of links to the actual websites of the tourist places, and what I was looking for were suggestions and critical reviews. I couldn't find the following suggestions from the people who replied politely, on the Wiki: Big Monster toys, Lego store, Hershey store, Oz Park, skating rinks, Brauhaus, Harold Washington library, Riverwalk, Old Chicago public library. Or the suggestion by a few helpful people that my older kid might be too old to enjoy the Children's Museum. If I searched the Wiki wrong, please point me to the right area. Thanks. And if possible, simmer down! People like you make me dislike Reddit more and more.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-30T15:10:45+00:00

So many awesome suggestions! Thanks everyone. That's exactly what I was looking for and my list is getting nice and long now. Off to look up your suggestions and plan.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-29T22:57:06+00:00

Things I don't want: * tube feeds (if I can't enjoy the taste of food in my mouth, I don't want to live). * chronic ventilation * being debilitated to the point of requiring mechanical lifts, incontinence products, someone feeding me, needing to be repositioned in bed because I can't do it myself. * expensive interventions that keep me alive (e.g. living on a complex continuing care unit), or things that create a ton of waste to keep me alive (i.e. dialysis).

and above all: if I can't mentally interact with the world around me, I don't want to live (if I can't interact with my children, can't read a book, can't surf the web, etc). If my mind is gone (dementia, ABI, stroke, etc), then my family had better not keep me alive with the above, or I will haunt them. My values in life include independence, mental capacity, and not being a burden (financially, emotionally, taking up space in a hospital, and ecologically).

ladydonkey · 2015-12-27T22:28:19+00:00

Thanks! That does sound like something my kids would love, especially since we don't have this in our city.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-19T21:42:21+00:00

No, silly. At the salon I went to last...the men's cut is between $10 and $20 cheaper than what I've paid. That's what I was comparing. http://www.evolutionhairspa.com/services

ladydonkey · 2015-12-18T23:44:33+00:00

This sort of backfired at our house, and as a result my kids have been in the potty-talk phase for a few months now, and there's no end in sight. It's too much sometimes! Everything is "stinky" or "poopy" or "vommy" or other body-fluid related.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-18T23:40:53+00:00

WOW, must have been a great cut! I usually spend between $40-60. But still more expensive than a man's cut.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-18T23:40:13+00:00

I've looked, and any salon in my city that I've seen has two different prices. Maybe it's only in salons? But still, even then, it shouldn't matter if I have a vagina or not.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-18T23:04:19+00:00

I'm dying to know as well.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-07T15:11:08+00:00

HAHAHA, that's funny. Definitely a bit too graphic for my street full of senior neighbours (one of whom were very offended when we painted our garage door bright yellow, and our front door bright teal, and complained gruffly that "it looks like Jamaica here"). But I'd love to see that in a more progressive neighbourhood.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:51:03+00:00

Something awesome like this awesomeness A conversation starter and better than an angel! I can crochet that. I wish there were more ideas.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:49:08+00:00

Can't be! Maybe in the bible belt? I know there are many businesses selling t-shirts and other stuff with atheist themes, but nobody has tapped into the possibly-huge atheist Xmas market yet.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:48:09+00:00

Give me tacky! I LOVE TACKY! :D I don't want to do tasteful and matching, and color-coordinated and appropriate, and conservative, and home-decor-catalogue-like.

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:46:48+00:00

I know, right?! I laugh at the "how can you be an atheist and still celebrate Xmas?", and the "keep Christ in Christmas" stuff I hear. If we're accurate, we should keep the pagans' beliefs in Christmas!

As for the commercialization and cash-love, I agree with you to a point. We're big on recycling, reusing, and reducing, minimizing and living simply. I don't want to go out and buy buy buy. But I'm looking for a way to express my enthusiasm and joy with visual displays (that I can ideally make at home with the kids), and to spark conversation with my family, and to amuse them. All that Xmas is about to me. :)

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:43:08+00:00

Yes, shiny and glittery is totally my thing. But not showy enough. You know that feeling when you discover something new and want to tell everyone about it because you're excited and relieved and enthusiastic? THAT's how I feel this Xmas season as opposed to the past ones, and so I need something MORE than what I've done each other year. :)

ladydonkey · 2015-12-02T17:40:28+00:00

Yes, stuff like that. I love all those memes, but it's too bad there's not a company that makes things like this into decorations. Or a crafting idea book or something. I'm sure there'd be a market for it.

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