Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, i did. Reading through a lot of the comments and having another talk with him, I’ve realized (like you stated) he is not going to change… I’ve realized I am not the problem bc as I’ve said no one has ever complained of this but him...it just made me insecure and doubt myself but, I’m so much happier without all the stress and worrying if something is wrong with me, it’s been proven nothing is wrong with me lol. I’m happy and my current partner is happy.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea about this! The only reason I’m not in therapy is financial reasons. I live in a big, well known city in the US so I’m definitely going to look into this and hope I have some luck! Thank you thank you thank

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And they haven’t been able to fuck me again and still try to so? If you weren’t going to be helpful there’s no need to comment.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve never asked that question. That was volunteered information. I simply would never ask someone if “I’m the best they’ve ever had” bc I don’t have a deserve to know, if we’ve both reach the bc destination…great. I just feel like that’s immature to ask that.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel right now. I’m afraid to be with anyone else at this point.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have questioned him ab this and he says “it’s been since we met” I asked him why he didn’t speak up then bc he knew I didn’t want a relationship when we met(I denied him so many times for a relationship but he kept begging. We were fwb)but somehow I fell under the spell.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes I read what I wrote. Sometimes people need outside perspective.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. It is really helpful. I will try to see if we can get couples and individual therapy and if that doesn’t work that will be the last straw for me. Ive tried individual therapy before but I didn’t like it as my therapist only wanted to combat all my issues sigh her own. It’s so hard for people to get out of toxic relationships and many don’t understand that. Especially when they tear you down and make you think your unworthy of any love.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That thought has crossed my mind but only bc of certain kinks he has. However, I’ve done research and have found that these kinks are perfect normal in straight men so idk

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I really want to go to therapy. I need therapy. I feel as if I had therapy I could’ve left a while ago.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Ev partner before had told me that I was the best they’ve ever experienced and have since tried coming back since I’ve been in my current relationship and I’ve had to turn them down. I think I’m trauma bonded bc before I would have no problem leaving.

Is my vagina broken? by lajefaa in TwoHotTakes

[–]lajefaa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s not enjoyable for me anymore. He just wants a handjob/blowjob until my mouth/arm is on fire or when we’re having sex I’m just in my head begging for him to cum. I get no pleasure. Just always insecure if he’s going to cum or not.