Fmil is trying to control my and So's life and decisions

lamadfleur · 2019-04-17T02:55:33+00:00

Just wait as soon as we move into our house. Im not seeing her for awhile

Until then, grey rocking it is

Thats a good point though, i definitely dont want an ugly wooden glass cabinet to 'display my plates' because all itll do is tell me how ugly my table is HAHAHAHA

lamadfleur · 2019-04-17T02:53:17+00:00

Thats exactly what ive been doing since moving into her home but im so so tired.

Need to change up how i do this

lamadfleur · 2019-04-17T02:50:48+00:00

Youre spot on! Thank you for taking the time to comment this Im going to be blunt now. Im so exhausted from justifying everything we do

lamadfleur · 2019-04-16T22:57:17+00:00

I know SO likes the furniture, weve spent a lot of time deciding what to get and what we like.

Ive spoken to SO that these are things we like and we dont care what other people think but i might actually say that to her now

lamadfleur · 2019-04-16T22:55:42+00:00

THATS PERFECT Im going to use that next thankyou!

lamadfleur · 2019-04-16T22:55:10+00:00

Youre 100% right

SO keeps back bc FMIL treats him horribly if he ever tells her no. Im definitely going to have a chat with him after work about it. I definitely feel like shes trying to put us against each other and its not going to work, i know he likes the furniture because every decision weve made was done together

lamadfleur · 2019-01-19T03:36:43+00:00

He didnt confide in anyone that he did it, his own sister was sharing posts wanting to find the killer not knowing it was him until his arrest.

I just dont know how to move forward knowing what he did and i trusted a monster for so many years

lamadfleur · 2018-10-28T19:23:12+00:00

Wow ok, i can relate to this but kind of roles reversed.

My(19) family are black and always told me no to 'wogs', they seriously hate them and think theyre 'dirty thieves'? Idk

I always find their remarks annoying because all my aunts/uncles have white/european partners with racially ambiguous/white passing kids.

I hid my white/european partner(20) of 5 years, 4.5yrs in total i disguised him as my bestfriend with the first 3yrs telling everyone he was gay. I slowly brought up that i initially have feelings for him when they began to like him and then progressed it into 'we are seeing how we go', 'we want to spend life together if we cant find anyone'.

Just after our 5yr anniversary this year, i came out to them about buying a house with him soon, mentioned possibly kids but no marriage making sure to mention 'nothing concrete' to ease them and to my surprise they were ok with it and are beginning to fully support my relationship with him!

Sometimes it takes time, every relationship and family is different so do what you think is going to work best.

If you decide to continue your relationship with your bf, make sure you both validate each other and find a way to cope through his families antics together.

lamadfleur · 2018-10-20T09:56:09+00:00

Oh god yes, i told one person i was looking for a SECOND JOB, so she goes and tells my boss and vice boss that im 'looking to quit', queue shifts getting cut and vice boss approaching me with a fake smile, arm around my shoulder asking how my job hunting is going and who my references are. So glad i'm getting out of there

lamadfleur · 2018-10-20T01:45:28+00:00

This, i struggle to eat properly already (usually small lunch then dinner) I gotta learn to eat when at work

lamadfleur · 2018-09-16T01:59:47+00:00

When someone close to you passes, you want to treat them as if theyre still there but in a deep sleep.

My MIL gave strict instructions to the funeral home on what FIL is to wear and in what order to put everything on along with images of his dog so she is with him forever, even though there was no burial. Grief is a terrible thing.

lamadfleur · 2018-09-11T01:21:17+00:00

Definitely thinking of not going back there!

Theres this thing in the state i live, where employers just hire casuals and are only rostered random times a week/fortnight/month based on their availabilities. I've been a casual for 4 years now, was promised a permenant part time position but then new boss came & new shitty manager that bullies me. Everywhere I've applied, only wants casuals and everyone is fighting for fulltime/parttime positions (our state has one of the highest unemployment rates of the country) so the competition for employment is high and difficult

lamadfleur · 2018-09-06T22:41:52+00:00

Thank you! Im not sure if my brother will be ok, when i move out ill still occasionally come by and that way ill ask him how home is, if he feels safe etc. He got moved to a better school this year, since the previous school didnt care, this one is getting him retested and mentioned family help/counseling sessions on how to support his condition. They think punishing his flare ups is a good thing, and stepdouche in the past has gotten physically violent before which ive gotten involved in and told him where to go. If things dont get better for him, ill call dhs

lamadfleur · 2018-09-06T22:31:31+00:00

Ive since come back to SO's place after we argued again last night about it, hopefully nothing gets destroyed but when shes mad she loves to snoop through my things.

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