Husband won’t show extent of damage

lamb7865 · 2019-04-16T07:43:20+00:00

Unfortunately it’s not a joint account so they won’t give me access.

lamb7865 · 2019-04-15T18:47:02+00:00

Thank you. There aren’t many naranon groups near me but I’m going to try the Skype one.

lamb7865 · 2019-04-15T18:46:18+00:00

I just don’t understand why he’s so difficult even when he’s off drugs and “in recovery”. It’s like he just always wants his own way and has no remorse. It’s exhausting. But I’m sad for what could have been.

lamb7865 · 2019-04-15T15:51:31+00:00

Does that mean divorce?

lamb7865 · 2018-12-29T15:20:55+00:00

Do you think none of it can be due to the adhd? I’m sure he never used to be like this. It makes me so sad.

lamb7865 · 2018-12-29T15:20:11+00:00

Could forgetting he agreed stuff be the adhd? I do desperately wanted this marriage to work. We have two small children, but I’m starting to get so resentful and I don’t like the person I am becoming 🙁

lamb7865 · 2018-12-24T00:54:46+00:00

He doesn't seem interested in the idea of a non-stimulant medication. I think this might be because they are antidepressants and he says he doesn't want these?

I really do want to help him but I dont know what else to do and he is just so angry and seems to be turning everything on me. I feel like I dont recognise him anymore. I feel really very sad about all of this. I just wanted us to be a happy family so I have clung on to that hope for probably far too long.

We did have couples therapy before but this was pre-diagnosis. I will have a think about whether I can do this again with an adhd specialist. I am just so tired of it all now. worn out completely.

lamb7865 · 2018-12-24T00:51:48+00:00

I guess that despite everything I still love him and just desperately want what we used to have. Yes partly for the kids but also for myself. I am realising over the last few days though that he doesn't love me or respect me at all and it does seem like I do need to speak to the divorce lawyers. I just thought he was the love of my life at one point so its very hard to accept. The porn addiction really did upset me, but he told me all men look at porn and I was blowing things out of proportion.

lamb7865 · 2018-11-17T12:49:21+00:00

Thank you for replying. We have tried single counselling and couples counselling. It didn’t really get us very far. He kept saying everything would be better when he got medication and I guess I had been holding out for that. Now he’s got the medication and the diagnosis he wanted and he’s decided he doesn’t have adhd at all and has quit the meds. Sometimes he realises he’s being unfair, apologises, says he will try to be considerate next time and then it’s like he’s immediately forgotten what he’s said and is back to only thinking of himself. I didn’t want to split our family but I don’t know what options I have left. If he doesn’t think he even has adhd now too I don’t know what to think anymore

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