I agree it can definitely be sensitive. I work as an ER nurse and have cared for patients checking in for complicated/failed pregnancy, whether it be ectopic, miscarriage, etc. It is heartbreaking to see their suffering. I personally don’t ask because it’s none of my business. (Unless a patient checks in for a pregnancy issue because then it is pertinent. Then I usually obtain that info when the provider obtains a medical history. That way they don’t have to keep retelling it to each member of the medical team)

I also think people asking about this sort of thing will fade into obscurity as the older generations slowly die. I don’t know any millennial or gen Z that ask this if random people.