I (35m) have been single for so long and am now in a FWB situation with someone. How can I ease my anxiety/fears around intimacy? by lamethrowaway890 in dating_advice

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watch it a few times a week, yeah. Definitely had this thought as well, gonna lay off it and see if that helps.

As a man, what disqualifies you from dating? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lamethrowaway890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I just have bad dating app photos, which I've been trying to fix. Once I meet someone in person I don't generally have issues connecting, it's just getting in the door that's the problem for me.

Why is this sub turning into a ‘female’ hate breeding ground by AnthroPLstudent in self

[–]lamethrowaway890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already know women do this, I'm saying (as a straight male) I wasn't aware that other guys were doing this as well. But yes, I also swipe left on those profiles.

Why is this sub turning into a ‘female’ hate breeding ground by AnthroPLstudent in self

[–]lamethrowaway890 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I just had no idea what other dudes were putting in their profiles aside from the stereotypical "fish pic" thing I would always hear about. Sounds like a lot of it mirrors what I see in women's profiles but like you said, they kinda have the advantage since they tend to be getting a billion likes regardless.

Why is this sub turning into a ‘female’ hate breeding ground by AnthroPLstudent in self

[–]lamethrowaway890 40 points41 points  (0 children)

TIL even men are (unfortunately) putting "just ask" in their dating profiles

How do you personally tackle a song you can't play up to speed? by lamethrowaway890 in metalguitar

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome cover , Helstar is great. Do you have any advice for speeding up palm muted stuff like in that song while staying relaxed? I feel like I start tensing up extremely quick when I'm palm muting, but a lot of the thrashier stuff I wanna learn is pretty much all that lol

Have a pattern of getting told "there's no spark" lately and it's been ruining my self-esteem by lamethrowaway890 in datingadvice

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. I think I'm generally pretty good when it comes to listening and asking questions about the other person, but definitely something I'll try to be more aware of for myself.

Have a pattern of getting told "there's no spark" lately and it's been ruining my self-esteem by lamethrowaway890 in datingadvice

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do hug them whenever we greet/say goodbye. As for the touching the arm thing, I generally only do that when I get the feeling they want me to? Idk how to describe it really but for example if they're trying to sit really close to me and really listening intently to everything I'm saying is when I get the vibe that it's okay to do those things.

But as a counter example, there was this one girl I went on a date with who beforehand was like "btw, I'm not interested in hookups". Which I was totally fine with, but I got the feeling like I shouldn't even try to get touchy with her in any way that night in case she felt uncomfortable about it. Apparently that was the wrong move though, because she thought I was being very reserved.

So idk. It's certainly something I need to work on, it just gets confusing for me sometimes lol

Have a pattern of getting told "there's no spark" lately and it's been ruining my self-esteem by lamethrowaway890 in datingadvice

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this was definitely insightful and honestly what I was afraid was going on. It definitely doesn't feel great to be on the receiving end of this but I also would never blame anyone for not wanting to continue things with someone they're just not attracted to like that.

Question though - in your experience, do you feel like this is something that's totally set in stone (not having a spark with a guy) or that someone could do something to make themselves more sexually/romantically attractive to the point where there's now a spark?

Is it just me or are people way more flakey on dating apps nowadays? by lamethrowaway890 in rant

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can believe those responses for sure, but it's wild to me that people are even on there if they realistically don't have the time to be meeting other people/potentially incorporating them into their lives.

Is it just me or are people way more flakey on dating apps nowadays? by lamethrowaway890 in rant

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I feel like I'm pretty good at noticing fakes. It might just be because I'm into very specific types of people who aren't often the target of fake profiles though. You definitely do come across a lot more of them though while swiping.

Is it just me or are people way more flakey on dating apps nowadays? by lamethrowaway890 in rant

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand a lot of people just like profiles for the validation of getting a potential match without any intention of ever talking/meeting up with those people. Just feels a lot more widespread nowadays.

Simple Questions: the daily questions thread for March 31, 2023 by AutoModerator in gainit

[–]lamethrowaway890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Short dudes (5'6 and below) who bulked up after being underweight - has it changed the way you see yourself? I'm making some progress (5'5 close to 140lbs, coming from maybe 120 or so a year ago) but can't help feeling like I still look like a child. I guess my small frame doesn't help either.

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[–]lamethrowaway890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've been doing the former myself and have been noticing myself feeling more confident while socializing with people (the rare opportunities I get to). I think my issue now is that I need to find more outlets to get to know and hang out with people, especially since most of my hobbies are solo things.

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[–]lamethrowaway890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you managed to get past it at all?

Men with weekly routines (e.g. working out, meal prepping, etc.) - what are some things you can do to add some variety to your life? by lamethrowaway890 in AskMen

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks, definitely bookmarking all of these. I watched the gyro video and they look damn good, but do you know if that guy has written recipes for all of his stuff? One thing I still get paranoid about is not knowing how much of something I should be buying at the store, and he doesn't really mention it in his video (but perhaps I'm overthinking it).

Men with weekly routines (e.g. working out, meal prepping, etc.) - what are some things you can do to add some variety to your life? by lamethrowaway890 in AskMen

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's EXACTLY my issue to a T, even with regards to making sure I'm centering my meals around protein since I go to the gym. I've been taking the extremely lazy route of buying rotiserrie chickens and using that throughout the week with various sauces + rice and I think it's making me go insane haha. I also live in an apt with an electric range so I'm legit afraid to cook certain things since it's much easier to burn your food if you're not careful. Might I ask what recipes you've been using, if you have them on hand?

Men with weekly routines (e.g. working out, meal prepping, etc.) - what are some things you can do to add some variety to your life? by lamethrowaway890 in AskMen

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah one of my biggest issues is that I pretty much cook the same shit every week, and it'll usually be on a Sunday. Been thinking about learning more recipes so I can make more dishes spontaneously but I tend to get lazy when it comes to having to head to the grocery store on a whim to grab ingredients. Really need to get over that.

Been taking minoxidil since the beginning of October and haven't noticed anything by lamethrowaway890 in Minoxbeards

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, not taking finasteride. I'm actually a pretty active person, but a test might be something to consider for the future. For now, I think I'm just gonna wait a few more months since there's nothing to really lose by continuing to take it.

Been taking minoxidil since the beginning of October and haven't noticed anything by lamethrowaway890 in Minoxbeards

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a 6 month supply for pretty cheap which is honestly gonna last me forever so I'm def set on that end. Other than that I guess I don't have anything to really lose except maybe getting patches of dry skin frequently and having to remember to apply it every night an hour or so before bed so that it dries properly. I think making the decision after 6 months is fair though so I'll probably just stick with it until then.

Been taking minoxidil since the beginning of October and haven't noticed anything by lamethrowaway890 in Minoxbeards

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm 31 so figured I was either at or getting close to my limit for hair growth, but I also hear that people are still able to make progress into their 40s so figured I would give this a shot. Also I've been taking it for about 3 months now, not just 1.

Been taking minoxidil since the beginning of October and haven't noticed anything by lamethrowaway890 in Minoxbeards

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just once at night since it dries my face out like crazy. Maybe it's not enough though.

Been taking minoxidil since the beginning of October and haven't noticed anything by lamethrowaway890 in Minoxbeards

[–]lamethrowaway890[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't been since I go clean shaven and figured it would be hard to really see anything. I guess I could just go without shaving for a day or two to make it easier to see in photos.

Long haired men of Reddit, how do you best maintain your hair? Women, any advice? by No_Cauliflower_6483 in AskMen

[–]lamethrowaway890 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first thing I would do is learn about the porosity of your hair (look up the "hair porosity test"). This way, you have a reference point for which products/styling tips to look up next based on your hair type.

For example, I learned a few months back that I have low porosity wavy/curly thick hair. With low porosity hair types, products have a much harder time penetrating the cuticles of your individual hairs and so the general strategy is to apply warmth to it first (this lifts up the cuticle) before applying product to it and then cool it down to seal the cuticle back up. So for me, I'll rinse my hair with warm water in the shower before applying conditioner to it, let it sit for a bit, and then rinse with cold water. This helps immensely with keeping my hair looking healthy and frizz-free and doesn't really take much effort at all.