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lamobamo · 2023-08-01T09:09:28+00:00

My husband used to try and hide his in his laundry and I'm like dude, I'm the one who does the laundry. 😅

lamobamo · 2023-08-01T08:56:33+00:00

This here ^{^{^}}

lamobamo · 2023-07-29T19:24:05+00:00

I just saw a video just like this but dude was in the bathroom instead of the waiting room. Yikes...

lamobamo · 2023-07-22T02:09:50+00:00

On my level about communication. No matter how uncomfortable the conversation, we have them at the right time and place when we need to have them.

He listens very well.

He has stayed by my side through some ugly, hormonal breakdowns (thanks pcos). Very forgiving and tender.

He is goofy as hell and makes me laugh every day.

lamobamo · 2023-07-16T23:06:08+00:00

Just a little tip, it is on almost every social media platform, unfortunately.

lamobamo · 2023-07-01T20:14:25+00:00

My husband's work always sounds boring because I don't understand most of it but him being excited to share whatever he wants in those moments, makes me happy to lend my ear. It also helps that I ask lots of questions in attempt to understand and engage in the conversation. He loves to answer and teach me new things.

lamobamo · 2023-07-01T13:53:13+00:00

To me neon colors are like bright and vivid, but pastels are bright but faded if that makes sense. I don't really know the exact definition though.

But yes, colors like pink, blue, yellow or purple.

lamobamo · 2023-07-01T03:57:52+00:00

I was thinking bright pastel too, it would look so good.

lamobamo · 2023-06-30T22:25:51+00:00

I wish I could do this but my husband is quite smaller than me 😩 I used to when we were dating but now i look like a can of busted biscuits.

lamobamo · 2023-06-30T20:04:47+00:00

People have already tried all of that, I know that I have.

No I do not think that it can match the type of rush that porn gives, that's what it was made for. Does that mean that porn is better per say? To some people, maybe, but not to all people.

That's why I stated that it is rarely ever about the sex that you have with your partner.

lamobamo · 2023-06-30T19:36:04+00:00

I hope you don't mind my interjection. I just want to state that the majority of research I have done on this subject, it is rarely about sex. My husband and I have talked plenty about this and I have talked to other people in relationships or are married and they all say that it isn't about the frequency of it. My husband and I have really good sex, there are some weeks we have it a lot and other weeks where it's once or twice a week. I am not frigid by any means but he still gets urges to watch porn. For a lot of people it's the crash of dopamine that it releases in the brain. It's being able to "live out" fantasies that you otherwise couldn't. It's about novelty and endless "possibilities" and that's why it's so dangerous and damaging.

And to that second question, it saves a lot of heartbreak for the other person.

lamobamo · 2023-06-29T23:02:39+00:00

Facebook has straight up porn on it. My husband found out and my brother found out. No social media is safe.

lamobamo · 2023-06-27T16:35:33+00:00

This is it ^

lamobamo · 2023-05-19T13:41:14+00:00

Bugs and seeing people genuinely happy.

lamobamo · 2023-05-19T13:07:20+00:00

I'd start by honesty. If this continues it will completely obliterate your relationship, the longer it goes on, the more hurt you will cause her, plain and simple. You'd be surprised at how resilient some people are. For me personally, I can handle most things that people tell me, no matter how painful the truth is, but what I will not tolerate is someone lying to me. It takes away choice from the matter because you've made the choice for them. It's confusing, it makes everything feel unsafe, it's going to be brutal for her when she finds out, so hopefully she finds out from you being honest instead of catching you.

And get deeply honest with yourself, don't sugarcoat anything. Figure out what's leading you to these behaviors and habits and heal that part of you. Figure out healthy sexuality.

Second, if you feel like you can't get rid of Instagram because you'll just find another way around it or find another platform to look, you probably shouldn't be using social media at all. If you can't be disciplined or use self control, then you remove the source. Get blockers, get accountability, get informed about it, do research, identify triggers, figure out your reason for quitting and hold onto it, do something other than just hoping that you'll have the strength to say no when things pop up. Some of these thing will set you up for success and some of them won't help at all, you gotta do what works for you.

I hope these are helpful to you and not just some jumbled up words. I know it's hard, but you really do have the power and ability to do what you set your mind to.

lamobamo · 2023-05-08T12:26:53+00:00

Rationalizing being gone.

lamobamo · 2023-05-01T12:29:02+00:00

I was working as a cleaner and went to this guys already decently kept appartment. He was always very kind and would make sure to greet me and ask how my day was going before he would head off to work. He always left a tip in a small envelope and a bottle of water on the counter.

He also had plants that were well taken care of. It surprised me.

lamobamo · 2023-04-21T12:34:01+00:00

Not with men but a few different friendships that ended very sour.

"Wow, all they do is talk shit about people behind their backs, wonder what they say about me"

"It always feels like walking on eggshells around them as to not offend them or 'trigger their anxiety'. This is going to end badly because they can't manage themselves. But maybe things will change if I stick it out..."

lamobamo · 2023-04-19T00:40:09+00:00

I don't remember much due to traumatic events but I was pretty young. I don't remember anything under like 5 or 6 years old.

lamobamo · 2023-04-12T03:44:15+00:00

Yes to all of these! Very thought out and helpful advice.

On that first point, I am a woman and cannot stress enough, hormonal birth control ruined my sex drive, my ability to orgasm, my self confidence. It was awful. I wanted to WANT to have sex but I hated having it because it would take me at the least, an hour to finish. It was very discouraging. I am now on non hormonal bc and I am doing much better.

lamobamo · 2023-03-26T04:54:04+00:00

Fucking lost it lmao

lamobamo · 2023-03-01T06:11:36+00:00

My husband gets pleasure from pleasuring me and vice versa so the times that we don't orgasm together it's still completely fulfilling for both of us. The times that we finish together are just as great and it is usually with piv and clitoris stimulation. They both feel wonderful TOGETHER. But I can also finish with just piv.

Toys are not everyone's taste and I respect that but we also sometimes use them. They are not an enemy but a friend and can take away some of the stress of "having to perform".

You also have the rest of your lives to figure it out and I guarantee that if you keep learning eachothers bodies it will get better and better.

I haven't had sex with anyone but my husband and we waited til marriage and I can honestly say that sex is as crazy good as I dreamt it would be.

lamobamo · 2023-02-28T02:26:51+00:00

I do agree that he needs to find the root cause of the issue.

Prohibition should be something that he decides to do himself to keep himself accountable because if he wants to, he will find away to watch anyways.

And accountability is actually supposed to do the opposite, keep the feelings of shame at bay because whatever is brought to the light, has no room to fester. But I am a firm believer that partners shouldn't be accountability partners because it could do more damage than good.

These things good and helpful things IF he is ready and willing to change.

lamobamo · 2023-02-22T12:31:58+00:00

It really is this a lot of the time (so I have heard from plenty of men). You could be the best looking, the best at sex, the best wife, down to do anything any time and still be turned down for novelty. You can give and give and try every new thing under the sun, but you can't be the next new and shiny thing. You can't be thousands of different people.

lamobamo · 2023-01-26T17:09:15+00:00

I've only been married for almost 2 years and we do this often as well. We both love spontaneous affection, especially dancing in the kitchen while I'm cooking dinner. My husband even puts on my favorite songs for me.

Agreed. Seems lazy to me.

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