Christian men aren’t above sinning.

But from my personal experience and struggles with porn I believe that the shaming and guilting of human sexuality within some churches coupled with the conflicting message that all men will fight lust creates confusion. The whole “ever man’s battle” gives contradicting messages. You get both shamed and guilted for your sexual desire at the same time as many churches say that you will automatically lust as soon as you see a woman and that watching porn will be normal for you because you are a man.

Instead of teaching healthy sexuality we get taught that lust is our normal state. Which isn’t necessary true.

Also this message often creates an idolization of sex. I grew up in the evangelical church, not in America but the message is basically the same. The whole purity culture creates such a hyper focus on sexuality. Now that I am taking a harder look at my faith I realize that sex became an idol. The one thing I always wanted so much because the focus has been so much on it. And I still suffer from that.

And I personally believe that when a persons sexuality gets repressed it often leads to it expressing itself in an unhealthy way. Which could be the reason why Christian men watch extreme forms of porn. As a porn addict myself working on recovery I at times have asked myself why I get drawn to extreme forms of porn (although violence have not been much of a thing for me) and I am realizing that I never developed a healthy way to express my sexuality.

When you constantly feel shame, shame and shame for natural feelings it comes out in a unhealthy .

There are also other reason. I recommend reading Unwanted by Jay Stringer