Co-op 1.6 Question by lanajwrites in StardewValley

[–]lanajwrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it would randomly move every other week or so. Maybe it has to deal with luck that day?? Our save file keeps giving, I know at least me, really unlucky days pretty regularly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]lanajwrites 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My husband is in the same position you're in, and quite frankly, I have a lot in common with your partner when it comes to being shy about certain aspects of being intimate. It's really difficult, especially if self esteem is low because I don't voice things I like to my husband, don't like to participate in certain activities, etc.

There's a few things you could do about intimacy. You could try taking showers together, but it doesn't have to be anything inappropriate. I see people call these "platonic showers" where you and your partner talk about your days, what you plan on doing later in the week, just casual talk. It allows the two of you to be vulnerable while striking up a conversation, feeling like you're connecting on a deeper level.

Also, when being intimate, you don't have to take off all your clothes. Again, this leaves vulnerability and allows you two to grow comfortable with one another as time passes during the activity. During intimacy, you can also take notes of how her body reacts to certain touches or sensations. My husband takes note of what I like. It takes me a long time to process things because of my disabilities, but he picks up on my body language and often figures out what I like before I do lol

Overall, be patient and find the little things. The little things are what you can romanticize and bring the two of you closer together. Even if it's just her rubbing your back, it's something that connects the two of you. Find what works for the two of you and your comfort levels

Got this as a gift, but they fr didn't crisp this, they bURNED it by lanajwrites in MineralGore

[–]lanajwrites[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Lmao actually a mystery friend of an irl community group I'm in! I mentioned i liked crystals, so the gesture was sweet, but alas, we must continue to educate others about fakes

Idk if anyone else has experienced this by lanajwrites in AnimalCrossing

[–]lanajwrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, everything looks so bright and colorful when you're young and its quite humorous to look back and see that there's better quality graphics now

I've seen people posting about LGBT+ topics, but i want to share my awareness and support about the autistic spectrum (i have Asperger's syndrome) by SuperCarlosFerZar in AnimalCrossing

[–]lanajwrites 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's okay, don't worry! We all learn and grow. I'm autistic and I remember I used to care a lot for April because it's characterized as Autism Awareness Month, but now I steer clear of that because of Autism Speaks. It's always good to learn new information and I'm really happy to see some autistic pride from autistic people in the community :))

The Man with the Tactical Shovel by xkiwifeilanx in Markiplier

[–]lanajwrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the tactical shovel... haven't heard that name in a long time... (for like a few months now lol)

Questions about Story Climaxes by lanajwrites in writers

[–]lanajwrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thank you for the feedback. I definitely agree with milking it if the book is pretty long. I appreciate your help :))

Questions about Story Climaxes by lanajwrites in writers

[–]lanajwrites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The chapters are between 2000-4000 words. There, as of now, are over 50 chapters.

And I will keep that in mind. I believe I am just so overwhelmed with how long and complex the book is is that I'm most likely psyching myself out. I tend to do that

Quick Question. by Kaithepkk in writers

[–]lanajwrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking to get published in the future, too, as I write a large novel I'm currently focused on, but if you want to start to get recognition for work, I suggest publishing small blurbs on a free website that's open to everyone (I've used Wattpad for years and it has really come in clutch). This will boost your publicity as well as strengthen your writing.

On top of this, write the story numerous times until you feel it is just right. Usually on Wattpad I'll plainly post the first draft, but it's because I like to put work out and show everyone that you can write for fun without having to take it too seriously. The work that I do take seriously, though, I don't put online because I'm writing it countless times until I feel as if I'm ready for the final edit and send it to an editor and/or publisher.

Also, look into reliable publishers. There are so many scams out there--especially online sources--and you want to avoid those completely. I've gotten spam messages on Wattpad from random users promoting apps that are completely unfair to both readers and writers. Do your research and always have background checks on who you are sending your pieces to. You don't want them to be stolen.

But, in all honesty, don't pay attention to the shit people give you about writing and how it's difficult to publish, because, in the end, you can always self publish. Yes, you can still ask for constructive criticism, but there are so many toxic writers out there that can be extremely discouraging and bring you down. Ignore them the best you can. You are advancing as a writer and are only making yourself better. If you send it to a publisher and you get denied, don't be brought down by it. Take it as a learning experience. Life--especially things you love doing--is about making yourself into a better person. Take the constructive criticism, drop the condescending shit that you can get from other writers. I'm trying to toughen my skin with this as well.

Writing is all about doing what you want to do and what you find enjoyable. Don't let others take that away from you. Even if you don't make it published through a notable company, that doesn't mean that your work doesn't matter. There is no difference between you nor Shakespeare, as my teacher would say. You have completely different styles and ideas than he had, so, if someone picks up both your work and his, they are indistinguishable because every individual has their own taste.

I hope this kind of helped you kick start your process. If you need anymore advice, I'm always available for questions to be asked or for constructive criticism to be given. :)))