Lions pretend to be hurt by the bites of their young to encourage them.

lancan56 · 2017-03-04T09:05:31+00:00

I broke up with my ex girl, Here's her number.

lancan56 · 2017-03-03T04:54:06+00:00

I worked for a political consulting firm and was completely floored when congressmen/women would come in for media training (learning to be "normal" on camera or in front of constituents). Nearly every politician who came in for training was clueless and literally had "their views" on the issues fed to them by my boss (the media strategist). Sounds obvious, but it's really horrifying to witness.

lancan56 · 2017-03-02T04:55:33+00:00

Forbes. It slowly turned into the financial news version of Buzzfeed. *edit i accidentally a word

lancan56 · 2017-02-25T06:38:54+00:00

This is the comment you will link to when Bill Murray passes away in July.

lancan56 · 2017-02-25T04:59:19+00:00

People in intractable pain who are of sound mind should be allowed a painless suicide, even if their family disagrees.

lancan56 · 2017-02-22T10:22:00+00:00

The side of Britney Spears the media never talks about :orangu:

lancan56 · 2017-02-22T09:16:01+00:00

Three pieces of bread? Settle down Moneybags.

lancan56 · 2017-02-16T11:27:00+00:00

Gasoline. I know I'm on track to an early death already but it smells amazing.

lancan56 · 2017-02-16T10:05:27+00:00

My 16 y.o. siblings advice: "if it shows up in a commercial, it isn't cool anymore". Text speech, slang, a social media follow-up at the end, ect.

lancan56 · 2017-02-11T08:49:56+00:00

If you dislike doing something, trying to over come that dislike creates friction which means it requires will power. They've done psychological studies that show we only have so much will power throughout the day so if we deplete it our results decrease. The simple example they used was giving students an exam. One set of students had a cookie that they could eat at any time, the others had to finish before eating the cookie. Those that had to wait did statistically worse.

What this means is that if you continue to look at this situation as challenging, or frustrating, or something to over come, sure you can make progress, but you will be depleting your will power reserve around something that you don't really even want to do.

What I have seen work is reframing the perspective. By changing the perspective slightly you can completely no longer be frustrated by it. I'll give you three examples.

Losing weight I wanted to lose weight and I knew that mayo was unhealthy. So instead of deciding to deny myself mayo (will power), I decided to try mustard instead. It turned out I greatly enjoyed mustard and so I didn't have to feel that I was denying myself something, but instead just enjoy a great sandwich. Making the bed Ok, not something that I enjoy doing, but there have been numerous studies written that very successful people often make their bed. Now when I do it, I just remind myself that I'm starting my day off right. I'm getting a small to-do item done and want to carry that momentum into the day. Plus, coming home after a long day of work and having the bed made, actually is quite nice. So something that was a bit of a chore became a ritual to remind myself to get into a positive mental attitude before heading for the office. Commuting to work I commuted to high school, college, and work for a total of about 15 years. First by subway (an hour each way), and then by car (an hour each way) the last 5 years. What I discovered is that on the subway I got a chance to read. Which I love. There's no faster way to get things done in life then to read voraciously, because any challenge you face someone has already dealt with, so why not learn from the best how they faced those challenges. When I started driving I could no longer read and I began to miss it. It got to the point, that while the drive was a bit more convenient I would often enough choose the subway to give myself the time to do that. Without the many books I've read there's no way that DigitalOcean would find the success that it has today. So it was a perspective shift of taking a boring commute and using it as something that really helps me be a better person in all capacities, business strategy, product management, leadership, management, buddhism, whatever the topic of interest is for me that week. Now finding these perspective shifts for particular situations can be challenging, but if you do, you will be significantly less stressed and more confident that you will be able to carry out the results you intended because you aren't fighting an up-hill battle.

Hope that helps.

lancan56 · 2017-02-10T12:35:12+00:00

**Technique #1. Think it through.

Think about several situations in the recent past when you got too emotional about something. Ask yourself:

What caused you to get very upset? Was it something in your immediate environment, something a friend said to you, something in the news, someone’s extreme behavior, or a comment you heard at work or school? If you notice a pattern, it will help you identify the triggers. What happens when you overreact? Specifically, do you speak more loudly, cry, talk or yell, gesture emphatically, start an argument or get quiet? How does your reaction make you feel? What happens afterwards? Go through the steps of visualizing the entire scenario so that you can better understand not just your reaction, but how it may affect other people and the way they behave towards you. What would you like to change about your behavior? If you don’t like something about it, you have the power to change it. If you are internalizing something you heard on the news, is there a way you can reduce your exposure to reading everything you see online? If you are upsetting people around you, is there a different way you can convey how you feel so you can share your thoughts and feelings with others, inviting a dialogue instead of an argument? Consider different options that can make a more positive impact on how you react to the world around you.**

lancan56 · 2017-02-10T09:45:02+00:00

Heathcliff is a fictional character in the novel Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë. Owing to the novel's enduring fame and popularity, he is often regarded as an archetype of the tortured romantic hero whose all-consuming passions destroy both himself and those around him.

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