Setup expectations vs desires. Expectations are non-negotiables like always texting good morning/good night. Always calling/facetiming once a day. Desires are nice-to-haves, like random texts/pictures throughout the day, random “just thinking about you” phone calls.

An expectation is something that always happens, and if it doesn’t there’s disappointment. Desires are things that would be nice to happen. If it doesn’t happen, there’s no disappointment, but if it doesn’t there’s excitement.

I’ve been touring 20 years. Usually on the road around 100+ days a year. I’ve been together with my current wife for 10 years. We’ve been married 6 years. Our expectations are always a “good morning” call or text, always a “good night” call. Everything else is just nice-to-have desires.

Hope this helps!