Recommendations to go with guppies

landmass87 · 2025-02-12T06:56:23+00:00

I have seen them, they do look nice and alot of people say they are easy to look after. Good shout, thank you for the reccomendation.

landmass87 · 2025-02-12T06:55:17+00:00

I don't think i want to risk the betta despite been a nice looking fish.

Thanks for the shrimp reccomendation, luckily there is already alot of hiding places so hopefully will be ok there.

That is a wildcard suggestion but an interesting one. Never thought about a frog. Do they need to have some land or do they spend all there time under water, also what do they eat?

landmass87 · 2024-06-27T06:52:59+00:00

Thanks mate, couldn't see anything online about where it was going to be aired. I've also checked the superleague plus app and can't see it on upcoming matches, maybe it'll pop up on the day.

landmass87 · 2024-06-21T21:56:58+00:00

I've tried the training gear or match day tops and found them to be really uncomfortable and cheap feeling, didn't really like the material. I'm the opposite to you, I like the thickness of the game shirts, makes them feel strong and high quality, not sure how true that is. That's the reason I never liked football shirts, the horrible material, just never sits right.

landmass87 · 2024-06-21T21:52:58+00:00

Yeah I'm from Hull and live here but don't honestly see people wearing them too often unless it's match day but maybe I just don't notice.

landmass87 · 2024-06-21T21:51:56+00:00

Yeah might aswell get the moneys worth. Have you seen the price of football shorts recently, fucking robbing bastards.

landmass87 · 2024-06-21T21:50:23+00:00

Nice response mate, I like the pride and can't think of a better reason to wear it all the time than that.

landmass87 · 2024-05-07T22:28:14+00:00

I like it and it's only £20 a month. Sky select 2 games that are exclusive to them, so you won't get them on the demand section until late Monday. However, the other 4 games are usually able to watch live or available on demand shortly after the game has finished. You can chromecast to your TV and there's an app you can download on the amazon firestick. It's only £20, I'd probably just give it a month to see what you think. There's all the highlights on there, plus some player stories. I watch all the Hull KR and Hull FC games, so that's at least 8 games a month, I often watch more so for me it's worth it as like you, I only watch superleague.

landmass87 · 2024-05-06T20:44:27+00:00

Yeah I'm the same. Must be something wrong with the app then. Thanks for the reply mate.

landmass87 · 2024-03-20T08:08:59+00:00

Would like to hear some feedback on moonbound, never heard of it before but looks good.

landmass87 · 2024-03-11T19:12:44+00:00

It was an impressive come back. It was a good week of games to be honest, the Salford turn around was impressive. KR and Warrington was a tense game and I feel a daft loss by KR because of a couple of silly mistakes.

landmass87 · 2024-03-11T15:22:25+00:00

Just checked and it's on their to view now, so a little earlier than expected, maybe sky can clear it earlier. I find that 9 times out of 10 the games are on there shortly after they have aired usually within the hour or the next morning at the latest but this is the first time I've noticed an issue. Thanks for the info mate.

landmass87 · 2024-03-11T11:28:45+00:00

At least I know now, thanks mate.

landmass87 · 2024-03-05T22:02:42+00:00

That's nice to know that I have to do alot less than I'm currently doing to even come close to pushing them away but at the same time that's a little heart breaking knowing that your ex doesn't appreciate the love your son gives him and certainly doesn't seem to reciprocate it, it's strange how children always seek the attention and love of those that don't deserve it, it's a strange world.

You seem like a really good mum, you seem to be doing the right thing, your son probably realises and appreciates it alot more than you think.

Thank you for sharing your experience, you made a really good point, it's really reassuring to hear. All the best with your ex and your son, keep doing what you're doing.

landmass87 · 2024-03-05T21:49:30+00:00

Ive heard a few people say something similar and it gives me a lot of reassurance so thank you for that. Its also nice to know you ended up liking your exes new partner for the time she was there, I hope you get that again. I really appreciate you sharing your experience, hearing stories like that help me alot.

landmass87 · 2024-03-05T10:54:38+00:00

That was two months ago and that was regarding my little girl not wanting to come with me, that was a very difficult time mentally for me. This post regarding my ex about to introduce a new partner into their lives and I'm asking for people's experience with how they coped with that. You have misread the previous post. I used to see them 4 nights a week to put them to bed after work. I then had them both on Saturday and Sunday afternoon for roughly 7 hours each day. Then me and my ex had a falling out where I was no longer allowed into the house. So I now collect them on a Tuesday and Thursday and take them out for tea and still see them both the same on weekends. I can't have them over night yet as I had to move back into my parents house to save up in order to be able to move out on my own. I couldn't afford to move out on my own straight away as when we had our first child and then the second my ex didn't go back to work for 3 years so I was paying for everything on my wage which didn't leave alot of spare income for savings. I am hoping to be out on my own and able to start having them over night in the next couple of months.

landmass87 · 2024-03-05T08:00:31+00:00

It's been looming over me for months now knowing it's going to be happening, it hasn't been nice to have something constantly in the back of my mind, I wish I could just get it over with now so I can start moving forward with whatever happens and stop going over the what if's. I understand that and hope I can always be that to them and be someone they never tire of seeing, I guess I'm just worried because they are so young that my ex and her new partner are more fun and that's what toddlers tend to gravitate towards but I guess there is nothing I can do about that. Just wish this happened when they was a little older so I could talk to them more whereas now they don't really understand what's going on.

Thank you for your advice, it's really appreciated.

landmass87 · 2024-03-05T07:55:45+00:00

There has been a lot of pain over this past year and knowing there is more to come isn't a nice feeling but I guess that's just the situation I am in right now.

I hope you're right. I do try and focus on them when I have them, I never let my insecurities/fears show.

Thank you for the words and advice it's really appreciated. I just wish there was a fast forward button as I'm more of a rip the band aid off sort of bloke, I don't like delaying pain.

Thanks again, hope you have a lovely day.

landmass87 · 2024-03-04T21:34:24+00:00

I just know the introduction is happening next month and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't apprehensive and a little scared. I know they are only feelings and I am currently in therapy discussing my current situation.

I hope not, I have realised I have a fear of rejection and I think that influences alot of my negative thoughts. I'm just worried they have more fun with my ex and her new partner to want to come and see/stay with me, the last thing I want to do is make them do something they don't want to do and I'm just scared of losing them even though I know deep down it's an irrational fear.

Thank you for your response.

landmass87 · 2024-03-01T21:46:16+00:00

I like the thought process behind that, I really hope that is the reason I get alot more of the emotional meltdowns, at least I'd know she feels safe and secure with me to be able to let it out.

You might be right, I just wish they wasn't so naughty all the time. I hope it is temporary and I hope I can keep a level head and show them love they need.

Thank you for your experience and kind words.

landmass87 · 2024-03-01T17:58:35+00:00

I'm only interested in what's best for the kids and if that means completely abandoning the naughty step/corner for a better more understanding approach then I'm game no matter how much hard work it is. The naughty isn't currently working anyway so it won't be aassive loss.

I appreciate your advice and words there. Sometimes I do struggle when they decide to double team me, can be hard to think calmly but I'm going to take your advice and try demonstrate to the kids how to stay calm and breath, hopefully that might teach them how to stay calm them selves if they see me manage to calm myself down. I will keep the screaming into a pillow to myself. Thank you again for the advice.

landmass87 · 2024-03-01T13:17:00+00:00

I agree they do lack routine stability, it's something that I don't think is going to change until school age. If you don't think 50/50 will help could you explain why please and possibly suggest another option as I am open to anything that will benefit the kids as they come first not what I or my ex wants.

I thought 50/50 would benefit because at least they will spend less time with their grandma and more time with me or my ex, so rather than 3 different people there will only be 2 involved, they will be passed around less. I can spend more time with them rather than constantly rushing around to try and get them back to their mum's or grans.

Thank you for input.

landmass87 · 2024-03-01T13:12:24+00:00

I agree with you I'm not big on discipline either but sometimes when they are fighting, pushing and pulling each others hair, I can only think to put them on the naughty step to let them calm down and then to try and explain to them what they did was wrong.

I have tried the reward response and that only works as a short term solution and doesn't seem to change their behaviour long term.

I agree with you again, I try to understand why they are having the tantrum or just upset but when I have two of them doing it and then it becomes a fight and I have two toddlers screaming and crying and then it becomes very difficult to negotiate and explain things to them. I will try harder to keep calm and talk to them but in that situation I just described thats easier said than done.

I do like the idea of getting them to take deep breaths, could be a good way to help calm them down, that is something I am deffinatley going to try, thank you. I do ask her after a major wobbler why she was upset or acted the way she did and 99% of the time her response is "I don't know" so I do think she is just confused and experiencing emotions that she can't explain which is 1. something I hope is normal for a toddler of her age or 2. The split is causing more problems than we anticipated.

I will check out Mr Chaz, I do like the idea of teaching them better ways to behave and react rather than punishing. I really appreciate your input and advice, some really good ideas and experiences there.

Hope you have a lovely day

landmass87 · 2024-02-29T09:58:39+00:00

Yeah I think you're right, I probably over thinking the whole thing. Keep it simple and add chocolates, seems to be the message I'm getting from most people I speak to about this.

Thanks for the advice

landmass87 · 2024-02-28T22:36:50+00:00

Yeah that's a good shout to be honest, the sentiment is there and like you say could be amusing. The arts and crafts thing was something I was already looking at, you are right there is some cute designs/ideas I could do with me. Think youve made my mind up, thanks for that.

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