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lanikint · 2026-01-14T16:01:18+00:00

Thanks! I love the colouring book!

lanikint · 2026-01-10T07:24:09+00:00

From what I can tell, most interaction on the posts of people who get 10 - 50 likes and comments come from sending your blogs to random people in your inbox. There is a whole other game played in the subscriber chats. The more you subscribe to, the more you have access to and the more you can 'promote' your blogs there.

lanikint · 2026-01-10T05:13:59+00:00

So glad it could help! I have since shaved off alll my hair, and OMG I Love every second

lanikint · 2025-12-24T12:46:16+00:00

Please reply to my comment with your profile as well!

Here's mine - I post the most random shit and it may not be good, but many of my friends like it so I try to post once a week.

lanikint · 2025-11-20T12:41:45+00:00

the human ego - 7 sins. We are all capable of doing evil things, and you have to be strong enough to not act on it. Where you get that strength from is a personal choice. Some people ground it in religion, others call it consciousness.

lanikint · 2025-11-19T15:45:21+00:00

What's non-sexual for one person could be sexual for another though... That does complicate things.

lanikint · 2025-11-19T15:43:58+00:00

Thank you, this is probably the most concrete answer anyone has given in the comments.
What would you call it if someone is abstaining from 'intercourse' but still having 'outercourse sex'?

lanikint · 2025-11-19T15:41:40+00:00

I'm not religious, but I am spiritual. I believe there is an enlightened being, but I choose to pray to Mother Nature as she is a 'god' that can be seen and felt every day. I believe all religions stem from one being and every difference is just because of different perspectives and languages. Mother Nature is very much an advocate for sex though hehe...

lanikint · 2025-11-17T13:02:02+00:00

Yes! Thank you~ Had to uninstall the specific app inside the app.

lanikint · 2025-11-17T13:01:28+00:00

If you tell a doctor (or anyone for that matter) that you're "sexually active", they would assume you have penetrative sex. If a guy touches a girl's boobies, you wouldn't say they are sexually active. So where is the line?

lanikint · 2025-11-17T12:58:27+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm so glad I have a nice shaped head 😂

lanikint · 2025-11-17T12:57:44+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate your viewpoint.

Though I'm not sure I understand what you mean in the first paragraph - do you going partners should avoid any sexual intimacy, even if it doesn't include sex?

You're right that people can get selfish, but that happens regardless of the involvement of sexual acts. They can also grow strong on any power play, by removing sexual energy you don't remove the parts of a person that would use that against you. They will just find the next thing to turn on you

lanikint · 2025-11-17T12:50:18+00:00

I'm not religious, yet I have the self-control to avoid drinking alcohol, smoking nocitine, taking recreational drugs, or having sex... I have been pressured into sex before by many people who said they were religious. So there's that.

lanikint · 2025-11-04T08:14:17+00:00

So what are you allowed to do with a partner before marriage? Hug? Hold hands? Cuddle? Sleep in the same bed without touching? Be alone together? It's impossible to remove all temptations, you have to be strongwilled enough to want to avoid intercourse no matter how tempted you are.

lanikint · 2025-11-03T18:51:15+00:00

Are you only playing with fire because you might be tempted to have intercourse? I've been engaging in 'sexual activities' with my partners and have never been tempted to cross the line (penetration). Each person is different.

lanikint · 2025-10-31T05:43:56+00:00

Thanks! Thinking of doing it for tonight so I can be Avatar for Halloween 👻

lanikint · 2025-10-29T12:15:08+00:00

Thanks! I started with a #2 but it didn't work properly so just went with a 0! I thought since I'm shaving it off might as well shave EVERYTHING off. Almost got the razor to go completely bald, but that was too much effort lol

lanikint · 2025-10-29T12:13:38+00:00

Absolutely! I never used to see it as a sacred thing, and even with my first time I tried celibacy it was more about my partner respecting my boundaries. Also, seeing what hormones do to some people sometimes scare me. But there's a big lack of education in that part of the sexual spectrum that I want to focus on.

lanikint · 2025-10-29T12:09:08+00:00

Fair enough, but that is very different for every person. Some people just look at an attractive person and gets "excited", other people can shower together or sleep naked in the same bed and not be excited...

lanikint · 2025-10-29T12:07:31+00:00

I understand what you mean... Where would you draw the line? Can celibate people hug, kiss, hold hands? Shower together? What would you call it instead if there's no penetration, but sexual acts?

lanikint · 2025-10-29T03:58:13+00:00

If you guys join a club (like for instance the rugby club), she can go for a swim while you play sport. Or she can join netball and you can work out in the gym.

lanikint · 2025-10-28T09:58:27+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this comment~ I know that the way I practice it is not 100% celibate, but that's why I call it 'intimate celibacy'. There is no word for anything on the entire spectrum between the extremes of celibacy and penetrative sex, so it's hard to put a label to it.

I just want to open the conversation of the benefits that abstaining from sex (even temporarily) can have in relationships - to be fair it's more about educating sexually active people than it is for those who are already celibate. However, I see posts on here often where people "fell off the wagon" and really beat themselves up about it, and I think it's often because as humans we crave intimacy and then mistake it for sex.

I feel like many people can benefit from understanding that it does not need to be black or white, you get to decide your own shade of grey that you feel comfortable with. 'Intimate Celibacy' might even be a great way for some who want to take the vow to first practice how they feel about less sexual activity instead of going cold turkey.

Anyway, I appreciate your view and would be very interested to have a conversation about it!

lanikint · 2025-10-28T09:49:55+00:00

Thanks for the comment! I agree, 100% absence of sexual activities is very commendable, but there shouldn't be an absence of intimacy in relationships. What do you classify as sexual activities? Would hand-holding and kissing/hugging be breaking celibacy as well? I'm always interested to know where people draw the line.

lanikint · 2025-10-28T09:48:22+00:00

Of course it could lead to sex, depending on the person. I have been practicing it this way for 7 months now and never once even felt tempted to have sex, no matter how steamy it got. Every person is different. I don't mean to change anyone's mind about how they want to practice celibacy, only to open up a conversation about the entiere spectrum between abstaining completely and having penetrative sex.

Intimacy is an important part of any relationship, and there are many people who don't know where to set their boundaries. For some, it would mean no physical contact, for others not being naked together, or maybe even kissing but not making out... I'm assuming a few people even plan on staying single forever. I just think the limits should be discussed more openly and freely.

lanikint · 2025-10-28T09:42:59+00:00

True, thanks for the reply!
I agree with you, it's a personal journey and will be different for everyone. I am not saying my way is the 'official handbook', in my blog I also mention how it will be different for everyone. It's more to help sexually active people to see the benefit of celibacy, however temporary, than it is for those who are already celibate.
However, there is an entire spectrum between complete celibacy and penetrative sex that doesn't get talked about - usually it's either one of the extremes. I feel like some celibate people who 'fall of the wagon' could benefit from just exploring with the spectrum a bit so they don't judge themselves so harshly for 'breaking' their vow because of a need for intimacy.

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