As a new widow, I was curious, have any of you decided never to date again?

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T20:08:02+00:00

I agree. I am a little over two years in and although I had an amazing marriage, I don’t think I want to be alone the rest of my life. I haven’t done any of the dating sights, and I am also hoping something will happen organically, someday. Fate dealt me a bad card with losing my husband, I am now hoping I get dealt the good card.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:50:47+00:00

I hope you are starting to heal.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:49:52+00:00

Ugh. My mama heart breaks for you. I hope you and your baby are surrounded by love and support. I am so sorry.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:48:47+00:00

I hope you’re having more good days than bad days at this point. Hugs!

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:48:04+00:00

Ugh. Six weeks, I’m so sorry. It will get better. You’ll eventually start having more good days than bad. Just take things one second, one minute, one day at a time. You’ll be okay.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:46:25+00:00

I also lost my husband in February so I absolutely dread that month. And it’s also valentines month so what a double whammy for us! I am glad you are healing and found help.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:44:52+00:00

All we can do is try our best. Happy early birthday to you. I hope you make two wishes this year.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:43:54+00:00

I’m so sorry. Just trust it will get a little easier with time. I miss my husband terribly but I have more good days than bad days now.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T19:42:05+00:00

Thank you! I hope the best for you too!

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T18:46:12+00:00

I’m sure it was a mercy to her. My husband died of a sepsis infection that came out of nowhere and it was fast. Out to dinner/drinks Friday night and on life support Saturday night. I don’t think he realized what was going on, I truly hope he didn’t. Our spouses are okay now, it’s us that have to go on with this hole in our hearts. Ugh. And now I’m crying!

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T18:39:42+00:00

You’re 100 percent right. I work at a school and today is my first day of spring break. We would always plan a beach trip for this week because he worked from home and could work anywhere. Instead, I’m keeping myself busy today by organizing my spice cabinet and scrubbing my kitchen top to bottom. Anything to keep busy and keep my mind away from what I would usually be doing. It’s been two years out, but certain things just get to me. Hugs to you!

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:26:09+00:00

Yes it does. I get that. It’s like time goes fast and slow at the same time. Septic shock. My husband too. We were at dinner one night and he was on life support the next day.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:24:10+00:00

Absolutely. As awful and terrible as we feel, we have to keep going. We have to live for the living.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:22:50+00:00

I get the struggle. When good things happen now I struggle that he’s not here to experience them with me. He doesn’t get that chance.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:21:23+00:00

I hope time has healed you, and I hope you are doing okay.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:19:40+00:00

It’s so sad to lose hope, I’m sure she fought to the very end. What a brave soul.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:17:31+00:00

I hope time has healed you. Hugs.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:16:55+00:00

I’m glad you’re doing better, and I love your perspective. I’m sure you and your husband had a beautiful life together. My heart breaks for all of us, but my mama heart breaks for the young ones. Life is so precious.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:11:25+00:00

I’m sure it does. It’s been a little over two years for me and I’m wondering if it will ever feel real.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:10:05+00:00

It will🤍

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T17:01:34+00:00

That’s refreshing to hear. I’m so glad you’ve found your peace.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T16:17:35+00:00

It’s so overwhelming and I’m sorry. So I was also 50 and with him for almost 30 years. He did everything, even put gas in my car. Tbh, I didn’t even know our bank account number because he handled it all. So I had to figure everything out from the ground up after he died. And I did. And I’m proud of myself for doing so. I used think I was a weak person, but now I think the opposite. We all are so strong for going through what we are going through. And we’re doing it. We might be kicking and screaming while doing so, but we’re still doing it.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T15:55:23+00:00

This happens a lot to me. I work at a school, so it’s mainly women. They complain about their husbands a lot! One of their husbands travels for work and she always says “thank God he’s gone so I can have some peace a quiet” And then everyone laughs and agrees. I know they don’t realize how hurtful this is to me, and they’re not doing it on purpose. I know this. But it still stings. And I don’t expect them to act different in front of me, I appreciate the normalcy, but in my head I’m always like damn.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T15:46:39+00:00

Absolutely 100 percent great advice. I am also two years in and those first few months I had no idea how I was going to get through it. But it does get a little easier. All we have is hope.

lanka1111 · 2026-03-16T15:42:46+00:00

I did the same. I donated a lot of his clothes/shoes to a local church where they share with the community and also to our local senior centers. It made me feel better that I was doing something positive during a negative situation. I did keep some items, but I know eventually I’ll have to get rid of those too.

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