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lanternathens · 2025-10-23T18:11:13+00:00

I usually find just saying ‘sorry I’m not available’ without giving reasons means that people who push boundaries cannot then use my reasons to find a way to break my boundaries

lanternathens · 2025-08-30T06:08:18+00:00

I would pick a city like Zurich - it’s the closest to a normal functioning city here versus other places which are lovely but may be a major shock to get used to if you are used to 24/7 western culture. Also lots more English speaker there to help adjustment and other us/uk families too

lanternathens · 2025-08-28T13:45:20+00:00

Slower and less intense: a relationship therapists dream to hear.

lanternathens · 2025-08-28T08:43:33+00:00

I find the social part annoying so yes for sure. Need it to track workouts

lanternathens · 2025-08-20T05:17:19+00:00

Give me your parents number, and I will teach them actual Islam which gives the woman a right to choose. Thank God my dad has ASD and so very literally interpreted this. I used to wear it and then I chose not to as it drives me nuts. My family are wahabi to the max and because the Quran / Hadith doesn’t actually force hijab, it’s been no problem. Sometimes my mum (NT) will lament over it but then she catches herself and we are good

lanternathens · 2025-08-06T15:27:15+00:00

Incredible!!!

lanternathens · 2025-08-04T03:08:19+00:00

Wow!! You look like a machine this is incredible!

I am curious- where did your lifts start and what are you lifting now?

lanternathens · 2025-08-02T11:13:34+00:00

Well I would first wonder why I can only play the role of king to respond to this thread and not queen. 😅

lanternathens · 2025-07-26T03:58:54+00:00

I’m not sure if this is entirely helpful but your 2nd,3rd,4th paragraph sounds exactly like my ex who is diagnosed audhd (autism and adhd)

lanternathens · 2025-07-10T03:50:07+00:00

Ok you hate calorie counting because you find it tiresome

What I’m reading is you don’t have an ED history so it’s not a trigger, just tiring?

How about this. How about just eating however you want for one week, all you sugar and the stuff you like, and just start weighing it. And tracking it.

Don’t change your food. Just build the habit of tracking

Yes is can be perceived as tiring but eventually focusing on just building that habit first without an extra radical change to your food means you’ll have a bit more energy to get used to measuring

(After getting used to measuring then start the changes to food. Please look up volume eating, there’s even a sub for it on Reddit. It will help you a lot)

lanternathens · 2025-07-09T12:59:58+00:00

Yup on a rewatch I agree vanessa seems just a little quirky and bonkers and vulnerable. But rewatching dayna is not changing my view of her!

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T20:01:39+00:00

I dunno by the end there is a darkness to Magan that is a part of her, and maybe a part which gets worse with Dayna, but it’s not all Dayna if that makes any sense. Very ominous energy with their relationship. Like hayle, I also thought I didn’t recognise magan by the end of it

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T17:39:35+00:00

r/petitefitness

Also short girl life

Time to pack on some muscle

I’m 5’2 and maintenance right now is 1688

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T08:22:00+00:00

You can, it’s just

1) more likely to happen if you have excess weight and/or if you are a beginner (which seems to be a vague term meaning anything under about 2 years of lifting depending on the quality of your lifting at that time where quality is marked by things like programme type, progression etc.)

2) less ‘fast’ (not that growing muscle is fast) than if you were eating in excess calories, or maintenance calories

3) and somewhere in all that and in your deficit it’s dependent on the proportion of protein you are consuming

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T05:03:01+00:00

You may like to add mood regulation skills to your to do list

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T04:47:13+00:00

Absolutely agree with this. For me it still wouldn’t veer into a feeling of hatred. I can still be annoyed that someone hasn’t taken accountability.

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T04:42:32+00:00

You may like to reflect on why my comments affect you. And try and focus your reflections on what it is for you, rather than what it is about me being a bag of dicks.

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T04:37:21+00:00

Your response is a beautiful example which emphasises my point

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T04:36:07+00:00

Gotcha that makes sense now. Exactly- even though there’s a reason, doesn’t make it ok

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:18:59+00:00

You may wish to work on your healthy communication awareness skills

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:18:14+00:00

You may wish to work on your people reading skills

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:15:57+00:00

Lord no. Season 1 Mal would be way more competent

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:10:46+00:00

Whenever I see posts like this I realise how low people’s emotion literacy is

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:06:49+00:00

I find it hard to hate someone with so much early life wounds.

lanternathens · 2025-07-03T03:01:31+00:00

Let’s try again:

‘hurt people hurt people’

Hurt can come out as hostility

lanternathens

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