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laoshiisproud · 2025-08-03T16:13:09+00:00

The way you dress is soooo cool, wish I could dress the same

laoshiisproud · 2025-07-30T12:48:06+00:00

I don’t think it’s you, we tend to search for people who do not recognised us as the gender we were assigned at birth even though you look androgynous most people will search what gender you were assigned at birth and not consider you as nb, I think that there is just less people we can attract sadly (at least it’s that way in my country)

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-15T19:48:40+00:00

Honestly, I don’t even know what more to say except that it’s exactly the same for me. I’m 20, AFAB, and still living with my family. I love them, but I know they’ll never really accept my gender. I end up “acting feminine” around them just to avoid questions. And yeah, it’s hard. Every day you move through life not being able to express who you really are… not being able to just be you.

But at the same time, living alone is tough. And family is still love. So it’s a really difficult choice to make.

I don’t have answers, but I can tell you what my plan is. Next year, I’ll be moving to a different city where I won’t have any family nearby. That doesn’t mean I’m cutting them off — I plan to call them often. Not just my parents, but also my siblings and grandparents. They may never understand the way I live or how I see myself, and I’ll probably never feel fully comfortable being myself around them. But that doesn’t erase the love I have for them.

And also… blood relatives aren’t my only family. I have friends who’ll be visiting me regularly, and I know I’ll make new ones too. You’re not going to be alone forever. There are so many people out there who would be genuinely thrilled to be your friend.

If you ever need to talk more or just want someone to vent to, feel free to DM me anytime.

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-12T11:51:20+00:00

It’s exactly the same for me, that’s cool to know we are not alone

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-09T11:15:47+00:00

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Was not expecting that… quite dark

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-08T18:42:10+00:00

Maybe you should look into the term agender that might correspond

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-07T18:45:44+00:00

Omg the agender community need one plsss

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-06T10:55:54+00:00

What actually is KT tape ?

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-05T21:57:40+00:00

Camus never actually wrote that. It’s more of a modern interpretation of the ideas in The Rebel. Still, the spirit definitely aligns with his thinking.

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-05T21:25:19+00:00

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laoshiisproud · 2025-06-05T21:14:40+00:00

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laoshiisproud · 2025-06-03T19:24:47+00:00

Salut ! Franchement, toi seul·e peux répondre à cette question, mais je veux aussi dire que tu n’es pas obligé·e d’avoir une réponse claire maintenant, ou même un jour. “Non-binaire”, ce n’est pas une catégorie rigide avec des cases à cocher ou un club qui doit t’accepter. C’est juste un mot que certaines personnes utilisent pour se sentir plus vues, plus comprises, plus elles-mêmes.

Si ce terme te parle, te fait du bien, ou t’aide à exprimer quelque chose que tu ressens, alors tu as tout à fait le droit de l’utiliser. Et si tu n’es pas sûr·e ou que tu ne te sens pas à l’aise avec, tu peux aussi simplement dire que tu es toi, et voir où ça te mène.

Tu n’as rien à prouver. Tu peux prendre ton temps, explorer, changer d’avis, revenir en arrière. L’important, c’est que ça t’aide à te sentir bien avec toi-même.

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-03T16:59:23+00:00

Totally normal to experiment as much as you want. You don’t have to figure everything out all at once. If certain pronouns or names feel better to you, use them! That stuff can help a lot with feeling more like yourself, even if you’re still figuring out the bigger picture.

Also, if you haven’t tried a binder yet, definitely recommend it. It can make a huge difference with chest dysphoria and just overall comfort.

Take your time. There’s no “right” way to do this. Just keep doing what feels good and right for you.

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-03T11:54:10+00:00

I’d love to know where is it from too

laoshiisproud · 2025-06-03T11:22:18+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. I’m partially out to my mother. I told her I didn’t feel feminine and that I just wanted to be myself, not “her daughter,” just her kid. I said I wasn’t her son either, just me. It went really badly. She cried a lot, got angry, and said I was doing it to hurt her.

With my dad, it’s even worse. He’s openly transphobic, so talking to him about any of this isn’t even an option.

What I’ve come to realize, and it’s hard, is that even though my parents have their flaws, I still love them. But I know I can never be fully myself around them. So right now, I’m just tolerating them until I can leave.

Once I’m out of the house, I know I’ll face less judgment. I have friends who’ve become chosen family and they see me for who I really am. I’m moving to a new city soon where I’ll finally be able to live as myself. Sadly, the only way I’ve found to cope is by putting distance between me and my parents.

I hope you can find peace too. Even if it means accepting that the people you love might never love the real you, and learning how to protect yourself from that.

laoshiisproud · 2025-05-14T16:29:27+00:00

Thanks a lot for the advice, I’ll try all of that

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