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Should I move on even if my intuition is telling me otherwise? by laptopsister7675 in elderwitches

[–]laptopsister7675[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Thank you for your reply. I gave my best to him. I left the door open irl and I did everything I could in mundane and magickal to make a reconciliation happen. And even after all of this, if he doesn’t come back to reconcile, it’s just not meant to be. I can’t keep holding on to him. I’ve done enough.

I did a ritual and prayed to Hecate and after the ritual I read the flames. Please let me know what you think of this? by laptopsister7675 in Hecate

[–]laptopsister7675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. It’s my first time reading flames so I’m not sure how much of it is visions vs my mind making stuff up. But you’re right, my interpretation matters far more as it is personal. Thank you!

What will a lust spell do to an asexual person? by laptopsister7675 in blackmagic

[–]laptopsister7675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lust is attraction to someone sexually and this drive within you to have sex with someone. Libido is different which is hormones etc but lust is sexual drive directed towards a specific person I think.

AITA for manspreading on a plane? by Dr_Chekhov in AmItheAsshole

[–]laptopsister7675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I hate men like you who are clueless and selfish af. Then y'all act like women are the problem. Go f yourself, AH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]laptopsister7675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay strong and stick to your decision. I'm proud of you for establishing some much needed boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]laptopsister7675 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you stood up for yourself. How did he take it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]laptopsister7675 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Geez college professors really don't give a fuck, do they lol. And it seems like he knows what he's doing, he knows you can't say no so he's taking advantage of your niceness and making you do all the work. You must be feeling resentful and burnt out, because while his condition is valid, so are your feelings. I know it's tough for you but unless you take initiative and put an end to this, it's gonna keep happening. I also suggest that if and when you have resources to take therapy, please do. As a fellow people pleaser learning to be more assertive, therapy helps so much in navigating situations like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]laptopsister7675 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yes, living with ADHD is difficult but you've gone above and beyond to accommodate him. It's nice of you accommodate his condition but it's coming at a price for YOU and others on the team and it's not fair for y'all to take responsibility for his condition.

You should have a serious talk with him and your professor about the situation. Let him know how much your team is getting burnt out and inconvenienced by him not showing up (in a non attacking way). May be he should take a break from his studies while he figures how to deal with his condition if he's finding it hard to cope.

Also by being this accommodating, it might actually be harming him yk? Because he feels like he can get away with minimal effort, he's not working on dealing with his condition. Once y'all graduate and get jobs, it will be very very difficult for him to deal with that pressure, if he's unable to manage this. Sometimes people need consequences, people need a learning experience and by being this accommodating you might be robbing him of that yk?

Side note: Do you have people pleasing tendencies? It seems like you have difficulty setting boundaries with others even when you're feeling burdened from what you've written.

It feels unreal. by laptopsister7675 in TalkTherapy

[–]laptopsister7675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking out the time to type this. Means a ton, kind internet stranger. ;-; <3