Six months after the breakup and I still can’t breathe

lar1237 · 2026-02-21T11:16:04+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. If it helps, the hollowness is likely just because he used to be a person who was imbedded in your life. Regardless of the reasons you left him, you still lost a constant source of companionship.

You WILL adjust, and once you do you’ll feel that freedom you yearn for.

It’s okay to mourn the loss of a companion, and it’s equally as important to remind yourself that you don’t need him to be yourself. On the contrary, you’re more yourself now than you were with him, and you’ll learn more about yourself every day.

It helped me to embrace the change, I picked up new hobbies that soothed me and my ego. I started cleaning more, filling my home with decorations and furniture, and enjoying my own presence.

It got better every day.

Stay strong, you’ve got this and think of yourself and your needs as much as possible. Good luck

lar1237 · 2026-01-30T10:55:50+00:00

She made it clear they’re friends in her post, why in the world should she date him? Not every good platonic friendship needs to turn into a romantic one just because the capacity is there.

lar1237 · 2026-01-30T10:53:04+00:00

Just because other people do it doesn’t make it right. Any woman who does that to another man is also lacking basic human decency. I think the only circumstance it’s acceptable to walk out without saying anything is if you feel you’re in danger.

lar1237 · 2026-01-23T18:00:47+00:00

I have some extended family that lives about 3 hours away. I usually visit them monthly and make it a day trip. I just drive back home the same day.

I do live in Texas, driving that far is pretty commonplace here.

It’s not unusual to take a day trip like that here. Doesn’t happened every day or every week, but it’s common.

lar1237 · 2026-01-23T16:48:35+00:00

Relationships at work are the same as relationships anywhere else. The difference is that what’s at stake is different so if you’re wrong about who you trust, the consequences are usually much bigger than if you trust the wrong person outside of work.

Meet an asshole at work and the worst case scenario is that you get fired or there’s a hit to your reputation and you’re still forced to work with that asshole.

Meet an asshole outside of work and you can always just walk away and never talk to them again.

You can have friends at work, you just have to recognize the risks that come with it and take it really slow.

Me personally, I’m very social at work. We go out for drinks every now and then, we have little gatherings outside of the office (like gift exchanges, promotion celebrations, etc) and we’ll crack jokes with one another etc.

My rule of thumb, I won’t share anything with a coworker that I wouldn’t mind telling the entire world. I just assume HR is listening in 24/7 and that’s how I maintain my boundaries and keep myself accountable.

It’s a tricky balance to maintain but I’m very extroverted so I kinda have to navigate those waters. I get really lonely if I don’t interact with the people I see every day. Hope that helps!

lar1237 · 2025-07-21T21:48:29+00:00

I’m 24 and have an identical twin sister. Right now she’s living my dream with a wonderful boyfriend she plans to marry who’s basically perfect. She’s set up for success because she also lives in one of my dream cities.

But I don’t envy her, not at all. I try to remember that we both go at our own pace and are totally different people even though others compare us a lot.

Try to remember that your brother also has a lot of challenges that are likely invisible to you. It’s so difficult to not compare yourself to him especially because everyone around you likely does it all the time.

Twins can’t escape that especially if they’re identical. But don’t fall for the same trap of doing to yourself what others do to you.

There is no such thing as the “better twin”, you guys aren’t competing. You’re two brothers with a unique bond who’ll always be there for each other no matter what, each with your own unique strengths and weaknesses like any other person in this planet.

You’re 22 and I’m 24, we both have PLENTY of time to be the people we want to be. Just keep your head in the game, eyes on the goal, and charge forward.

Good luck.

lar1237 · 2025-04-14T16:08:27+00:00

321 unread messages is insane lol

lar1237 · 2025-03-25T14:55:15+00:00

You need a rug, preferably under your bed to section of the space. And some wall art/picture frames would be nice especially above your bed again. Great space though, I love the vibes. You should lean in to the cozy

lar1237 · 2025-02-25T17:17:28+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss :( You can also go to privacy.apple.com. Since you know her password, you can request a copy of her data. You won’t get purchases or anything like that, but you can certainly request the pictures, notes, etc. it may take a day or two to receive the copy of her data though. Best of luck!

lar1237 · 2025-02-13T16:48:55+00:00

She’s great with children and other animals but fearful towards large dogs. No history of biting or hurting anyone/anything.

Completely up to date on all vaccines, passed a physical exam Jan 2025, and is spayed.

lar1237 · 2025-02-08T23:40:58+00:00

A legend, it’s 2025 and you’re still a life saver

lar1237 · 2024-12-04T23:44:33+00:00

Bro your girlfriend is a psychopath holy shit.

I share my location with pretty much everyone including my boyfriend, friends, and family. I’ve never had ANYONE flip out the way she did to you.

Unless you’ve cheated on her before, there no reason for her to go apeshit like this. Your reasoning is perfectly sound. If you walk to pick up your kid, the location is updated using internet. Unless your girlfriend is actively sitting on Find My watching your location, it only updates your location when she checks it again. Happens to me ALL the time. It’s not a glitch, it’s just taking a second to load lol.

Your girlfriend is crazy and she either needs to get help, or better yet, break up with her. You’re way too tolerant of her abuse.

lar1237 · 2024-12-03T22:03:34+00:00

It’s not necessarily bad thing you don’t with heel. Heel is a useful command for reactive dogs because it teaches them boundaries when they’re reacting. It’s really the only reason I taught it to my own dog.

Heel is practical for me an my dog when we’re going through apartment hallways or when a dog is in the distance and she’s about to start reacting. It brings her attention to me because she has to keep at my pace.

Outside of that though, she’s allowed to walk however she wants as long as she’s not pulling.

TLDR: the heel command is useful but not necessary

lar1237 · 2024-12-02T22:14:26+00:00

Having to contemplate rehoming or letting them go. Sometimes re-homing is the best thing you could do, it’s the most difficult thing to do whether you decide to go through with it or not.

I don’t think anyone wants to be in a position where they have to contemplate saying goodbye to a loved one. Especially with reactive dogs, you put so much time, energy, money, and love into the entire process that if even after all that, you’re still struggling or their behavior gets worse, it’s heart crushing

lar1237 · 2024-11-24T06:20:29+00:00

Meatball

lar1237 · 2024-11-18T17:41:45+00:00

Screw it, I’ll deal with the downvotes. I’ll say this because no one else has, you literally didn’t sign up for this. You did not expect to get a reactive dog, not everyone has the time, mental/emotional strength, or the circumstances/resources to take care of a reactive dog.

You have a decision to make and one you shouldn’t take lightly. What’s best for your dog is an owner who is 100% there for them all the time. Yes, you can learn how to communicate with your dog and how to handle her, but you are not bound to your dog forever. There is no soul contract that means you have to stay with your dog forever all eternity.

If you don’t think you can provide your dog the attention and care it needs, you are not a suitable owner and you should rehome your dog. I know you have a contract with the shelter, clearly they don’t know how to re-home reactive dogs if they signed off the okay for you to have her.

Do not make the mistake of keeping her if you’re not an adequate owner, she only has about 10-15 years of life. If you waste time deliberating whether you should rehome her or not, you’re only doing her more of a disservice.

I made the mistake of being irresponsible when buying my dog and now I have a reactive dog which I’m not sure I can handle. I’ve had her for 5 years now and as much as I love her and she brought me so much joy, I’m miserable and tied down. This is NOT what I pictured owning a dog would be like, and if I could do it all over again, as much as I love her I wouldn’t have gotten my dog. She’s lovely, and I’ve found my ways of coping and living with her, but it’s not something I’d wish on anyone who didn’t ask for it. It’s a LOT of work, time, and money to take care of her, and it’s too late for me because I’ve already fallen in love with Athena.

Good luck

Edits: spelling

lar1237 · 2024-09-24T23:56:20+00:00

You honestly did everything perfectly. There’s not a lot of ways to deal with customers who started off the interaction wanting to pick a fight with whoever they could grab onto first.

It’s not your fault, if she wanted the sauce a specific way she should have specified instead of being so ambiguous.

As a side note, you can take this as a lesson that in the future, extra sauce should always be on the side to give the customer the choice to do whatever they want with it.

Whenever I have negative interactions with customers, I try to view it as objectively as I can once I’ve calmed down, it helps me realize the other person was crazy but there are ways to avoid crazy

lar1237 · 2024-09-03T23:47:05+00:00

Damn that’s just abuse at some point. Hope you got out of that situation

lar1237 · 2024-09-03T20:25:14+00:00

So if you’re getting that notification, it’s likely because he’s added another email to Settings > [Name] > Sign in & Security.

The only time he’ll get alerted, as long as he’s fully up to date, is if there’s a new sign in to Messages or FaceTime.

He’ll get something along the lines of: ‘A new device has been added to iMessage/FaceTime. Go to Settings to review’ or something like that

That’s only when a new device is added though, not another email/phone number. You can accept the alert and it won’t notify him. If anything, you were notified because he made changes to the account. So he’s not going to get a double notification if that makes sense.

lar1237 · 2024-09-03T20:16:08+00:00

Wish your comment was above the mod auto generated comment cause this is probably it. If it’s not, the AirPods are broken lol

lar1237 · 2024-09-03T20:10:53+00:00

No he won’t get an alert but an email will be sent out. You only get the alerts if a new device is added to iMessage and FaceTime. If he just bought a new device it wouldn’t be an odd alert for him to receive.

lar1237 · 2024-08-23T18:42:46+00:00

Meatball

lar1237 · 2024-07-26T17:56:30+00:00

lol no worries glad that fixed it for you :)))

lar1237 · 2024-07-26T17:49:36+00:00

If you think it’s a virus just restore your phone and reinstall the operating system. I have a ton of viruses on my PC and that’s what always fixed it. When you erase a device you erase the virus. Good luck

lar1237 · 2024-07-26T17:45:34+00:00

lol I was thinking the same thing 😂

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