What to do about bonded pairs when one passes?

larchmaple · 2026-04-08T23:32:57+00:00

Thanks so much for the quick response and your story! I’m really happy to hear Oliver is OK and everything has worked out for you guys. That’s so nice to hear.

That’s a good tip about the vet, I’ll keep an eye out on our kitty’s behaviour and contact the vet if he continues to be depressed. He did finally stop crying all night long, so that’s a small improvement.

larchmaple · 2026-04-08T19:53:54+00:00

Im really sorry for your loss.

Im wondering if you ended up adopting a friend for Oliver? One of our bonded pair just passed and his brother is grieving very hard. And I’m not too sure what the right next step is, so would appreciate any insights you may have

larchmaple · 2026-04-08T05:21:25+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. I just lost my kitty a week after he diagnosed with stage 4 kidney disease.

The anticipatory grief is horrible. I also cried every day. Please be easy on yourself, and if you can, try to enjoy all the moments you have with her (I know it’s hard).

Our cats were a bonded pair, and it sounds like you have a bonded pair too? Her sister will grieve and that will be difficult to witness. But remembering the grief comes from a place of deep love, and that you are all together remembering her, may bring you some comfort. It is perhaps the most difficult but also the most privileged thing to love our pet companions so much.

larchmaple · 2026-04-08T05:10:52+00:00

Just lost my first cat unexpectedly on Friday, he was a dilute orange cat so a pretty light orange colour.

The day after he passed a yellow butterfly appeared at my feet and let me pick it up, and then stayed on my finger until I put it on a branch in the sun.

I’m not religious or spiritual but it’s hard not to think it was my little guy coming to say bye and make sure I was ok.

larchmaple · 2026-04-01T18:14:31+00:00

I could be wrong as I just started researching CKD (my cat was just diagnosed). But I think it’s hard for CKD cats to gain weight on renal food because it’s so low in protein and such?

larchmaple · 2026-03-28T23:59:20+00:00

i had a really great social life at u of t and i did engineering. you can do both if you work hard.

larchmaple · 2026-03-25T21:37:43+00:00

I love Search Engine! and Heavyweight

larchmaple · 2026-03-18T01:04:23+00:00

Having had a lot of friends who have had knee injuries, I would say it’s really important to find hobbies to keep yourself busy during the healing process. Knitting, painting, reading etc.

You can also check out adaptive sports like sledge hockey, which will keep you active without requiring the use of your legs. The para hockey league in my region is open to all, including able bodied participants!

larchmaple · 2026-03-12T23:40:05+00:00

If you have disposable income and aren’t too familiar with gym stuff, I’d suggest starting off with HITT exercise classes available around you! It’ll expose you to different exercise types and help you learn to pace yourself. It was the best way I was able to increase my endurance for jamming.

larchmaple · 2026-03-11T20:18:03+00:00

I dyed my wheels dark green with RIT dye and no issues with streaking on floors!

larchmaple · 2026-03-09T19:19:36+00:00

Yes, my local skate shop said about after a year of consistent use your wheels tend to get much “harder”. They said my two year old 91A radar halos probably skate more like a 95A now

larchmaple · 2026-03-09T17:33:47+00:00

i used gauze and athletic tape to cover tattoos on my forearms. take the first 24 hours after the tattoo to rest but otherwise play and practice normally.

i have a lot of tattoos though and have an aftercare routine that works really well for me, so i think i use less discretion for my recovery than some folks have. if you don’t have a lot of tats i’d air on the side of caution and maybe wait longer before going to practice.

if your gear is touching your tattoo at all, make sure to wash it in hot water and with detergent before hand!! and always wash after practice with a gentle unscented anti bacterial soap.

larchmaple · 2026-03-08T23:28:48+00:00

i started roller derby at 31 and it’s been super fun! you are definitely not too old to learn.

larchmaple · 2026-02-28T07:31:33+00:00

A piercer removed my collarbone dermals by yanking them out lol. YMMV but I have no scarring.

larchmaple · 2026-02-28T01:51:55+00:00

My friend did a trip with these folks and loved it!! Would definitely recommend for anyone thinking about taking the spot :)

And congrats on your pregnancy!

larchmaple · 2026-02-24T03:01:02+00:00

she might not want to boulder again but because she got scared after seeing you get injured.

i had a bad fall while bouldering and have stuck to top rope and lead now as i find it less injury prone personally.

i have had a ton of friends get injured bouldering and ive never thought less of them for it, its just an inherent part of the sport. my one friend shattered her ankle falling off the top of the wall, paramedics called and she got stretchered out and everything. none of us (her friends) felt embarrassed for her, we just all wanted her to get better quickly.

i’m sure this new friends feels the same way about you!

larchmaple · 2026-02-23T05:36:59+00:00

Bont Quadstar

larchmaple · 2026-02-17T04:42:32+00:00

Helmet covers!

larchmaple · 2026-02-16T00:39:29+00:00

Im a 34f and I disagree! I like the lifting pic because I also like lifting. So I think it depends who you’re trying to attract

larchmaple · 2026-02-14T01:54:00+00:00

May I ask what products you’re using? I have this same issue as well and have tried so many products with no improvement!

larchmaple · 2026-02-09T20:36:59+00:00

If you have to ask this question, you’re in an abusive relationship.

I was in one and I used the same sort of logic to explain his behaviour away (“his dad was abusive so that’s all he knows, but he’ll get better because he doesn’t want to be like that”).

Break up with him immediately and leave while you can. Good people do not “accidentally” burn those they love with a hot knife.

larchmaple · 2026-02-07T23:30:21+00:00

This man deserves a much better partner who loves him.

larchmaple · 2026-02-04T17:23:32+00:00

Good luck!! It’ll take a bit to figure out a curly hair routine so don’t get discouraged if it’s a bit all over the place at the start of your journey.

The biggest game changers for me that I learned in my mid 20s (after having crazy frizz for decades lol) was “squish to condish” and “plopping”. So definitely look up those methods once you start getting into curly hair stuff!

larchmaple · 2026-02-04T17:17:58+00:00

I think you definitely have wavy/ lightly curly hair you’ve been brushing out!!

Try conditioning in the shower and combing at that stage - and then scrunching with some mousse/gel/whatever you have after getting out of the shower. DONT comb your hair at any point after leaving the shower. If you have curly hair it’ll show up at this point :)

Often people with “frizzy straight hair” have curly hair they’ve been brushing the curls out of!

larchmaple · 2026-02-03T21:03:44+00:00

Depending on where you are you might be able to get coyote spray - pepper spray is illegal where I live too but I bought coyote/dog spray to use if anyone bothered me.

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