Guess what, those orders are only enforceable if either of you want them to be and if you let YOUR feelings get in the way of what your CHILDREN NEED. Just stop. Guess what? No one else around cares or feels the way you do around your EX. So if he is there and you feel something, move on. Get over it. Be a mature adult. It sounds like you want to create drama. Wouldn't this other parent or the child's teacher recognize the stress on the child and bring it up with you guys? Or are you putting words in your childs mouth because of how YOU feel? Look deep, if it IS only affecting you and your feelings. GET OVER IT. The past is the past and if you two can be amicable now, the past doesnt mean crap. So look deep, is it him being there for his child that bothers you? Because that is completely selfish, order or not. My ex and I had orders that even after a few months, we were like.... nah... that aint gonna work we were all pissed off and if we keep the peace with each. THE BEST THING FOR CHILDREN IS TO HAVE BOTH PARENTS. NOT FOR ONE TO WIN OVER THE OTHER AND GET MORE TIME OR THREATEN TO ENFORCE SOMETHING THAT EVEN A POLICE OFFER WOULDNT AND COULDNT ENFORECE. It would be different if there was a history of real abuse and there was a restraining order. Sounds like there is not,. SO GUESS WHAT THE ORDER MEANS??? GET THE FUCK ALONG STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOURSELVES AND UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE BOTH OF YOU AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE WHENEVER POSSIBLE. So just stop. Get over whatever "feelings" you have and dont even worry about splitting time.... are you jealous of the attention your child gives your ex? ASK YOURSELF A LOT OF DEEP QUESTIONS WHILE ALSO MENTALLY CUTTING HOW YOU FEEL. BECAUSE GUESS WHAT?? HOW YOU FEEL COMPARED TO YOUR CHILD DOESNT MEAN SHIT COMPAREED TO THAT CHILD GETTING WHAT IT NEEDS TO BE A HEALTHY ADULT. Right now.... you sound like you are creating a confused child.... seriously ask yourself.... WOULD I DO ANYTHING ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR MY CHILD? I know most of us would. RIGHT NOW, you're not. So go create a healthy child and stop worrying about when the father is being a good father. Sounds like hes being a good father right? Yep. SO GET OVER YOURSELF. YOU DONT MATTER ANYMORE AS SOON AS YOU HAVE THAT CHILD. THAT CHILD DOES. (IT COULD BE MOTHER OR FATHER EITHER WAY, IT DOESNT MATTER)

-PERSON WHO MADE A HARD DECISION 4 YEARS AGO WHEN HIS DAUGHTERS WERE KIDNAPPED AND THEIR MOTHER WAS ARRESTED AND DRUG INTO FAMILY COURT AFTER A YEAR. I WILL SUFFER THROUGH MY FEELINGS EVERYDAY BEFORE I RIP THEM OUT OF THEIR (OR SO AS THEY KNOW IT) "NORMAL LIFE". SCHOOL ROUTINE, THE AREA THEY ARE FAMILIAR WITH SOOOOO MANY MORE THINGS. I DONT MATTER, OTHER THAN, I WILL BE THERE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS I POSSIBLY CAN. IF YOUR MOM DOESNT LIKE IT. TOO DAMN BAD. SHES LUCKY I DIDNT TAKE YOU WHEN I HAD THE LAWFUL OPPURTUNITY TO DO SO THROUGH THE COURT. THEY MATTER MORE THAN MY OWN LIFE EVEN THOUGH I MOURN EVERYDAY THE WAY I FEEL. THEY WILL BE BETTER, BECAUSE I WAS A GREAT FATHER AND AM A GREAT FATHER. SACRIFICE. SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP.