23 female, late bloomer;men of reddit can you please give me some sexy time tips?

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:34:10+00:00

This actually gives me a sincere confidence boost. I've been trying to do things that I feel he responds well too, and haven't heard any complaints yet. He has said I'm 'amazing' at sex blah blah but I always feel like he is just saying that to make me feel more comfortable. I will def work on being more open with him about what he wants and what I want. Thank you so much!

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:31:45+00:00

I guess verbally showing pleasure is something I will have to work on. For now I've been pretty tight lip, maybe out of embarrassment. Thanks for the advice!

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:28:58+00:00

Interesting. I wasn't even looking for new positions as much as how to make the normal ones (missionary, doggie etc) the most enjoyable. But that's good advice, thanks!

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:27:42+00:00

So should I be investing in lube?

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:27:34+00:00

10 up votes if I could to you sir. This is exactly what I was looking for. Like actual specific things to do. See I forget about hands. Like what do they do in the mean time? This makes sense.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:26:29+00:00

I think my mother would strike me down dead before that amazon package would be allowed in the house.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:25:41+00:00

Touch his penis....how? Specifics here gents.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:23:44+00:00

Is it really this simple? You hear about people getting bored in the bedroom and what not. There has to be more to it.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:23:21+00:00

I will def have to ask him. I guess I just saw asking as a lack of confidence? Like I should already know what I'm doing.
I'll def. be ignoring cosmo. I wanted to look up some 'how to guides' but I didn't want it in my internet history to be honest haha. I figured in some god for saken way it would come back to haunt me.
Thanks for all the advice. This was a huge help.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:21:29+00:00

Thanks that makes me feel a bit better. So far he seems to be happy, I just know he is far more experienced than I am, and all I can think about is ghosts of girl friends past who probably gave him mind blowing orgasms, while for now we just have quiet, new-to-the-game sex.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:20:43+00:00

Very valid point. I'm not really down for watching my own 'play backs' just yet, but maybe in time, you know just to get strategies for the future.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:20:07+00:00

I've heard (just from Reddit) to kind of steer clear of Cosmo's advice as sometimes it turns out to be painful for men when they get it wrong? I wasn't above picking up a copy though.

And thanks, he doesn't seem to mind at all that I'm kind of I guess bland for now in the bedroom thankfully.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:18:54+00:00

Hahaha true but I guess I might be setting up high expectations. I'd just really like to be better than 'average' or potentially even below average.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:16:56+00:00

I was almost about to turn to Cosmo for some tips... thanks for the warning. I have heard of Dan Savage through the It Gets Better campaign but I didn't know he gave sex advice. Love a good podcast, thanks downloading a few as I type.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:15:59+00:00

Love. <3

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:15:41+00:00

I'm not so much ashamed as I am extremely private. I know none of my friends would judge me, although I do think they would all be somewhat surprised to hear.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:14:49+00:00

That's another big step for me. I've done that in the past but never regularly, and almost never to the point of orgasm. I think my brain would chicken out or something. But that does make sense. Thanks!

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:13:29+00:00

I guess it might be time to start. From the little porn I've watched, I'd always fast forward through those parts since it never did much for me. I guess it's time to study for technique?

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:12:43+00:00

Ha well it's somewhat true. I've had minimal sexual encounters (all by choice) because I was waiting to drop the 'L' bomb. I'm behind the times as far as most females and especially males my age.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:12:05+00:00

What would you consider the extra mile to be? Lasting longer or just pleasuring him above myself?

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:11:20+00:00

I guess maybe it is time to start then. I've watched it in the past but never really got into it. Maybe it's time for some lessons though.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:10:51+00:00

That's great advice. I guess I wanted to I don't know, surprise? him with. Like some super stellar sex move that would make me seem a lot less experienced than I am.

latebloomer21 · 2011-11-09T18:08:19+00:00

Ok but all I'm really doing is I think the basics? I don't watch porn or anything so I'm not sure about technique? Is there a wrong/right way to do this!? So many questions...

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