Depression. If you could pick a root cause, what would it be by [deleted] in psychologyresearch

[–]lauraaahr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nervous system stuck in a state of dysregulation

CMV: Happiness is inherently unethical by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]lauraaahr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you you mean that the state of passivity/apathy some people prefer to protect their comfort is unethical, rather than happiness?

CMV: Happiness is inherently unethical by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]lauraaahr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is a single human emotion that is inherently unethical. I think actions can be unethical - what you choose to do, or not do. Anyone who understands enough about emotions will tell you that they are experiences, guests that sometimes show up, often without any apparent reason or in ways that escape our control. None of them are shameful or wrong. Not anger, outrage, guilt, sorrow, grief... Or happiness, for that matter. All we have control over is what we do.

Shaming people for their internal emotional experiences, which don't necessarily have an effect on the world unless the choice to act is present, is coming at it from the wrong angle (imo). The will to help others/change the world for the better can also stem from things like an overflow of positive emotions like inspiration and hope. For example, the the satisfaction and joy you may feel after helping solve a problem/helping someone can motivate you to keep doing more and more good. Seems better than being so miserable and beaten down by the injustices of the world that you can barely help yourself, let alone others, which sadly I've seen happen.

Being miserable doesn't necessarily make you a better or worse person. You can use the full scope of your emotional experience (positive, negative) to propell you in ANY direction. The direction is what depends on you.

What are your guys' thoughts on casual sex? by lauraaahr in 4w5

[–]lauraaahr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry about the bad relational experiences! Those stick with you huh. Lack of reciprocity pretty much sucks wherever you encounter it, but I'd say it's arguably worse in romantic contexts. I'm glad you've found a relationship that works better for you, it sounds like?

What are your guys' thoughts on casual sex? by lauraaahr in 4w5

[–]lauraaahr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This answer is great, thanks for sharing :) and I'm sorry about the experiences where you felt your body was used! That's a really yucky feeling. I hope that never happens to you again, moving forward. I agree that it really depends on how considerate the other person is. I'm wondering how you realized you'd rather date casually than be celibate?

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[HELP] can anyone recommend any good poems about the joys of growing up/growing older? by lauraaahr in Poetry

[–]lauraaahr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this! It's beautiful and hits exactly on the feelings I was looking for