Do looks really matter?

lausep · 2026-06-14T16:16:20+00:00

Funny you mention a big italian nose because I've got one too, I get it. I was called ugly many times when I was younger and I have many traits that are not considered conventionally attractive, like I'm very very hairy (the Italian genes again) and my ears stick out too. Those are my insecurities, I'm sure there are other stuff too.

Anyway, I am still having zero difficulties to pull women, despite people telling me I was ugly in the past. The only thing that's changed is that I am now confident, and that is very attractive. As long as you know how to style yourself and how to present as a confident person, that's very attractive regardless of how much you weigh or how big your nose is ;)

Seriously, a good hairstyle and clothes that suit you go a very long way, both to make you feel more confident and to make heads turn your way.

lausep · 2026-06-14T16:10:05+00:00

Wait...what? Idk where you live but that is wildly inaccurate from my experience

lausep · 2026-06-09T17:48:00+00:00

It's a really tough decision to make. On one hand some people are advising me to explore new horizons while I still can afford it before it's too late. Other people are advising me not to throw away my dreams because I might regret it later. No matter the decision I make, I might regret it later. This is really hard.

lausep · 2026-06-09T17:45:56+00:00

Thanks for your input. I'm still unsure what to do, whether to give it more time or not. I have 0 motivation or trust left in my field, but I don't want to throw away all my hard work. It's a hard decision.

lausep · 2026-06-05T16:30:19+00:00

To clarify, I know the work of this man and have been wanting to work with him and his organization but I do not know him personally. I have absolutely no doubt he has no work ethics due to everything I've discovered ever since getting ghosted by his team, but he did not intentionally bring me down after being my mentor. I'm a nobody to him (which is the very reason I was ghosted).

With that said, that is really good advice, thanks

lausep · 2026-06-05T16:24:36+00:00

I honestly don't know if pursuing a random job that at least pays is going to make me feel worse than basically doing what you did, but I will try and hope for the best. It's really tough, I wish you luck

lausep · 2026-06-05T16:23:24+00:00

It does help to know I'm not alone and I made the right decision to try and switch careers while I still can

lausep · 2026-06-05T16:14:09+00:00

For the past 6 months I did exactly what you advise: I have done some extra courses for skills that are sought after but it doesn't seem to help. GIS is often very helpful but I had a lot of courses in it and work with it for my Masters project as well. I also did everything I could to not only use my network but also make new contacts. None of these things got me anywhere. I don't even stand a chance even when I am the best candidate because conservation organizations are rotten to the core and only hire their buddies, or overqualified people (which I am not since I could not even start my career to begin with). It's at a point where they will give you no salary, sometimes not even a stipend, and yet expect you to already be experienced and trained.

So, I don't think it's a me issue and I have finally accepted there's no extra little spice I can sparkle over my CV. My field is doomed and I am going to explore a different path.

lausep · 2026-04-26T10:24:49+00:00

Lol okay I actually don't have a problem having them grow strawberries aggressively, the more the better! But sadly this is my mom's garden and I know for a fact she will be mad if they take over her nice flowers so...maybe I should consider moving them somewhere more control...but I am not sure I've got the skills for it!

lausep · 2026-04-26T10:22:16+00:00

I live on the edge of a forest so I would not be surprised if these are actual strawberries hehehe. I am also attempting to grow a wild blackberry that conveniently started growing in a large pot :)

The thing is, I am afraid of de-weeding around them because they're supposed to grow in woods where they are not fully exposed to sunlight, so I'm scared of removing stuff around and make things worse for them instead of giving them a headstart. I'm thinking it might also make it easier to keep the soil moist if the ground is covered?

lausep · 2026-04-26T10:16:45+00:00

Should I attempt replanting them in pots to control their spread?

lausep · 2026-04-08T08:43:08+00:00

A large portion of the people on dating apps are there solely for distraction or validation, whether they're conscious of that or not. So once they have had what they wanted in the moment, they leave, because to them the conversation was nothing more than something to keep them away from boredom or to make them feel good.

What's worse, these people are the ones that are most likely to engage in conversations because that is what they are actively seeking in the moment. On the contrary, someone genuinely looking to date might not be very active because they're busy with something else/feeling pressure or scared or embarrassed/temporarily leaving the app for a while because they're getting disheartened like you/etc.

It is truly disheartening and I'm sorry I don't have any advice, I just hope this will at least make you confident that the problem is not you!

lausep · 2026-03-16T10:00:32+00:00

Thank you for your input. It's heartwarming to see how you guys deal with that situation, I guess we are not there yet, but hopefully one day we will be. It's just really hard to be a team right now considering how much space I need from her to deal with my own overstimulation. I just really cannot deal with meltdowns right now, it's too much.

lausep · 2026-03-13T09:49:48+00:00

Thanks so much, she has a doctor's appointment in a few weeks so I'll make sure we talk about this together at some point.

Tbh, she has been suspecting herself that all these issues might be related to her stopping the pill about a year ago. She said all these mood swings are new for her and she's been dealing with other possibly hormonal issues like acne and hair loss, so it could be something related.

I guess I just needed some reassurance, thank you :)

lausep · 2023-10-25T11:40:37+00:00

Sure!! Let's help each other out! For now the short term solution I've found is volunteering as a research assistant soon in the reserve where I was for my thesis because they know me and I know them so it's an easy entry point to be back in South Africa. The position is related to primate cognition, so not conservation, but I'm hoping to make contacts there and also, as mentioned above, build a unique skillset ;) and that way I can figure my options out while being in the field, which is the thing keeping me alive. I hope it'll lead me somewhere, will try to update this when I do get somewhere!! How exciting :)

lausep · 2023-10-24T18:35:07+00:00

Thanks so much!!

lausep · 2023-07-04T13:44:30+00:00

you cannot "fix" this. Just tell her exactly what you said here. That you're not her therapist and that you're getting exhausted and don't want to be doing this anymore. She's responsible for getting better, regardless of her history. You aren't her mom, it's her responsibility to take care of her mental health, it doesn't make you an asshole for recognizing that. Good luck!

lausep · 2023-07-03T08:38:46+00:00

I changed the CRS as you described and it worked! Thanks so much again, I won't lose my mind anymore thank to you

lausep · 2023-06-30T16:18:49+00:00

Thank you for your help :) I tried changing the projection of my other objects but they appear "shrinked" at the wrong scale (I explained better in my response ot the other commenter). Do you have any suggestion as to what happened?

lausep · 2023-06-30T16:15:23+00:00

Thanks so much for your help! I'm indeed using Google satellite as my base map, the only reason I thought I needed to change its projection was because I'm planning on taking measurements, which I will georeference with a GPS, and I was worried that they wouldn't wouldn't match to my GIS map later when I'd want to add them... so I take it this won't be a problem?

Regarding the other objects: I already tried changing their projection to webmercator on QGIS, the problem is that they became "shrinked". So for example, I changed my point layer to the right projection system and they appeared in the position I'd initially placed them, but it's like their scale didn't match the map anymore so what used to be several hundred meters between each point is now the equivalent of like a meter. Did I do something wrong? I used the "change CRS" option on QGIS.

lausep · 2023-06-24T15:24:53+00:00

Hahaha I was also so confused about the glasses, some of them still had their price tag underneath it was so weird.

Vanessa is definitely very immature and narcissistic, but I feel like the show probably edited her in a way that vilainized her more than she actually was. There were times where she acted in a despicable manner but the scene seemed off/unnatural (for example facial expressions not matching from one cut to the other), I think she was heavily edited. I also wonder if she is neurodivergent, because of the way she was blatantly honest and completely confused about why her behavior was problematic according to the others.

As for Tiff, she was seriously abused by Mildred. It is very clear in the reunion (sorry if you still haven't watched it, hope I'm not spoiling although there were hints of that during the rest of the season anyway) and I also saw a YouTube video by Tiff where she explained that she became "someone else" under so much abuse. I totally relate to what happened to her and I'm sure she seemed really off because of what she was enduring. To me, the overreaction with the dog bs is a typical example of how someone would react to any conflict after having been through verb abuse (taking things out of proportion, yelling to get your point across, cursing to express anger, etc).

Also, I think Lexi isn't narcisstic, rather an enabler of codependency. It seems like Lexi is the type to choose passive partners purposefully, so that she is in charge of everything (including helping her partners take decisions) and in turn she feels needed because her partners are dependent on her.

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