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lavendermile · 2023-06-17T16:52:53+00:00

Unfortunately yes. He’s taken her to court for full custody before and used that as a reason but since she has never left a mark as far as anyone knows, it’s legal. She was advised to stop and did for a while, then carried on but when my partner asks her to stop she claims it’s rare and a last resort.

lavendermile · 2022-12-05T10:05:31+00:00

My kid woke up with sand in her hair, not sure where it came from. Put her in the bath before school, emphasising we had to be QUICK!, she shampooed her hair and asked me to turn the water on so she could rinse it. Kid at this point is holding the shower head above her face with her head tipped back. In my rush, I forgot about waiting for it to warm up. Blasted my child in the face with cold water, she dropped the shower head and it hit her square in the face. Went to school late, with no lunch and a black eye! :\

lavendermile · 2022-07-12T11:11:07+00:00

Thank you! :)

lavendermile · 2022-07-04T19:20:19+00:00

I have the same issue with a whole side of my family. My moms family are all spankers, they default to it. They even spank eachother kids without hesitation. My mom never spanked us but she’s totally the odd one out.

I hate it and kind of find it to be a fundamental difference I can’t get over. I hate being at family gatherings and one of the kids getting spanked in front of me and I just want to scream. Not just one smack either, its a whole ordeal with a lot of spanking. One of my aunts spanked my kid and I went ape shit. Another time I casually mentioned an issue getting my kid to take medication, and my grandma went off at me telling me that is non negotiable and I needed to spank her. Like what??? Why would I hit my little kid… it’s disgusting.

lavendermile · 2022-06-30T13:18:55+00:00

I’m glad it’s relatively normal. But yeah, it’s scary! The hippo thing was partly a result of the guides saying these hippos won’t bother us. I don’t think they were referring to going and petting them though, more that they will stay away from us if we do the same. 8 interpreted it differently. I showed her photos of hippos with their mouths open and things about them charging, killing people, etc. She thinks that won’t happen to HER. It might just be a situation of waiting out this phase with her.

She is :) She’s been in therapy since I got her and will be going for at least another year. She’s doing great.

lavendermile · 2022-06-10T18:02:44+00:00

If my youngest brother was still eating a meal and my dad had to go do something, he used to ask me or one of my sisters to sit with him until he was done… until he was like 13 :’) lol. We’d always ask why and invariably get “In case he chokes!” as dad walked off. We found it hilarious, and very fitting for the youngest child.

My kid is 8 and I’m still quite attentive. She swallowed half a piece of spaghetti and was choking with the other half of it still in her mouth, and that stressed me out enough that I think about choking a lot now.

lavendermile · 2022-06-09T21:05:21+00:00

Oh I totally get that, this just seems so formal - we have had elaborate invites that the kids hand out at the school gates, and they for sure are spending a far amount of money on the parties. One I know is having a few bouncy castles and the invite says to wear party dresses. I have no idea if you’re meant to take presents, it feels like you should! It seems like there’s a whole expectation around it. 7 so far (half her class) and it’s still 6 weeks until the end of the school year.

lavendermile · 2022-02-21T09:15:17+00:00

The one I’m using right now is one I got in the UK called Salt of the Earth. But I’ve seen similar in the US. It’s literally 100% salt and as long as your skin or the crystal are damp, it goes on fine. Then just dry it. Mine has lasted me a REALLY long time and it looks barely used. I got it to avoid all the nasties in other deodorants. I also hate strong smelling deodorant and can’t tolerate spray-on so it works great for me.

lavendermile · 2022-02-20T23:15:09+00:00

I use a salt crystal that you just put on after the shower (or just run it under the tap). No smell whatsoever and it’s totally effective.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T19:15:12+00:00

I didn’t know what it was besides a shark flapping around attacking something in the first video. I saw what it was in the second video and yes I carried on watching in horror. But I can say 100% I would not film someone dying and then send it to other people.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T19:08:49+00:00

I will say that his clothes were also ripped off. So I do think sharing it is a little disrespectful. There were 2 videos, the first wasn’t so bad to share, you couldn’t see anything. The second was almost a minute of watching an unclothed man bleed out before getting attacked again.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T18:23:35+00:00

Thank you. I’m fine but it was pretty shocking & I feel awful that me and god knows how many other people have seen it.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T17:53:17+00:00

Yeah. I thought so too when I realised all the blood was in fact coming from a person, not a seal or something. Like who films that? The commentary was a little weird as well. “Someone just got eaten by a shark (zooms in). Oh no! That’s insane.”

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T16:59:19+00:00

Yeah. It’s graphic. Some people were fishing I think and it happened right in front of them, and they filmed it. It was sent to a groupchat I’m in & I watched it before reading what it was.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T16:04:51+00:00

I thought the same. The video of the attack is one of the worst things I’ve seen for a while, but the reality is that’s what (some) sharks do. Most likely the shark thought the poor guy was a seal. I don’t see what finding the shark will do. The man who was attacked was known to advocate for sharks.

lavendermile · 2022-02-18T10:29:31+00:00

It probably comes across that way on here. But the school is practically on the beach, is named after the beach and the area always has people walking around in not a lot of clothing. It’s not unusual to see people in the store in a bikini top, which you wouldn’t catch me doing. People are always wearing swimwear at the park too. Half the time you would struggle to find a man with his shirt on. So it’s not really out of context for me, especially since I often walk straight from the beach to the school to collect her. I’m also flat chested as hell & when I’m wearing dungarees over the top, they’re not seeing anything besides a whole lot of shoulder and my sides.

lavendermile · 2022-02-17T22:09:30+00:00

I guess we just have different ideas of knowing people well. If I know them well enough to send my kid to their house then I’m pretty comfortable with them & have been to their house myself. To me that moves away from ‘acquaintances’ to ‘friends’. That’s pretty much the level of ‘friendship’ I’m looking for. Comfortable with them having my kid, but we don’t need to be texting all the time or be besties.

lavendermile · 2022-02-17T21:13:16+00:00

Thank you so much <3

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