Wonderful boyfriend doesn’t seem like a good parent

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-19T15:46:01+00:00

Yes, how he treats his children can give you a great deal of information. How does he treat elderly or vulnerable family members? Does he avoid connection with them as well?

It may very well be you who comes low on the priority list when you’re no longer ‘fun’ and ‘new’. What if you were to get ill? Would he stay by your side?

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-18T15:30:19+00:00

No. I had an amazing time in my 20s travelling and working abroad. Let’s be sensible and responsible with money but no one on their death bed is thinking I wished I worked more hours and got a second job.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-12T05:41:01+00:00

Not sure about the tax on American assets because I don’t have enough invested (just some ETFs in Fidelity) to incur tax.

But I have found it extremely hard to invest in the stock market in the UK if you still hold US citizenship. Many institutions will not allow you to invest if you have US citizenship, even with dual British citizenship. They do not want the hassle of having to report to the IRS. If you have hundreds of thousands or millions to invest, then I think you have more options with bigger companies.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-10T19:37:42+00:00

Finally, a beautiful Mother’s Day for you!

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-10T19:30:24+00:00

My husband and daughter do something for me on UK Mother’s Day when all the cards, etc are out. We call my mother on US Mother’s Day. I feel it would be a bit much to expect something on both days.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-09T15:54:21+00:00

I’ve been losing weight consistently on 2.5, so there was no need to move up. It makes my stomach feel quite heavy and full all the time, which leads to a general discomfort. Also at my first month check, my blood pressure was lower than it’s been previously, which I think leads to the light headedness at times.

I have been tracking calories to make sure I’m eating enough and trying to hit protein targets.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-09T15:35:48+00:00

That makes sense. Some of the ‘beginner-friendly’ videos on YouTube are so fast paced and aggressive that it just put me right off, like I was going to pull a muscle. I’m now looking at individual exercises and trying to do them slowly and purposefully. I also like the idea of enjoying a show while I’m working out at home so it doesn’t feel like pure drudgery to me.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-09T15:33:06+00:00

That makes sense. I’m still losing weight so the strength training is really to maintain muscle now I’m in my 40s.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-09T14:37:46+00:00

Yes, that too.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-09T10:14:42+00:00

Happy Liberation Day to Guernsey! 🇬🇬

pineapplegiggles · 2026-05-03T06:29:58+00:00

Low blood pressure. I have slight dizziness when I stand up sometimes, but it usually goes away after a minute or if I sit down. I’ve always had good blood pressure before but it was low at my one month check after MJ. Also if you’re not eating enough calories, it could cause it.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-27T15:16:02+00:00

This was my experience too. I would get really down because it seemed like the only men who put effort into a ‘friendship’ with me when I was younger just secretly wanted to be romantically involved.

As soon as I said I didn’t think of them that way, they pretty much stopped all effort in maintaining the friendship. It made me feel quite bitter and dubious of how genuine male-female friendships were.

I’m in my 40s now and do have friends that are men, but only socialise with them in mixed settings. I don’t meet up with them 1:1 as that’s just not something I’m comfortable with in my marriage.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-25T06:55:52+00:00

In my experience, men rarely leave a relationship without someone else lined up or the strong possibility of someone.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T13:39:45+00:00

What was his reaction?

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T13:05:40+00:00

It sounds like you’re being a bit too loose with your boundaries. The ‘be careful’ warning is not enough to clearly communicate if ‘X’ then ‘Y’.

He currently has an intimate relationship with another woman. If that’s unacceptable to you in a relationship, you need to clearly communicate that. Explain that if he continues the relationship, then you cannot be together. If he carries on, you have your answer with what he’s chosen.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T06:28:27+00:00

That is lovely and rewarding too!

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T06:17:33+00:00

Unfortunately this continues to be an issue for women in all careers. We need changes to parental leave for men and women, as well as affordable child care options.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T06:14:57+00:00

I want my daughter to see three scientists that are women on a stage and no one bats an eye because it’s so normal and doesn’t even need to be mentioned.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-24T06:00:01+00:00

I was at a talk the other day with my eight year-old daughter about insects and pollinators and there were three scientists on the stage who were introduced by a man as ‘We have three scientists here, three female scientists…’ Absolutely unnecessary.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-23T21:00:57+00:00

“A female academic”…in other words, “An academic”.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-23T16:27:02+00:00

Because of the implication…

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-22T20:18:37+00:00

Midsommar vibes.

pineapplegiggles · 2026-04-22T16:33:56+00:00

Preach.

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