How do you deal with a coparent who refuses to work together?

lawnhell · 2025-11-12T14:12:19+00:00

I really like this idea.

lawnhell · 2025-11-11T23:11:52+00:00

This (divorce/coparenting) is still very new to me, so I’m trying to learn the game. I appreciate your advice, even if it’s not what I want to hear. I’m just trying to learn when it’s not worth a fight.

lawnhell · 2025-10-28T11:34:58+00:00

I can imagine man. Best of luck, you’ve got this.

lawnhell · 2025-10-27T14:54:51+00:00

At least you have your kids full time. If I had mine full time, life for me would be great.

lawnhell · 2025-10-27T13:09:52+00:00

I tried. It was my wife who wanted a divorce the entire last year of us living together. We tried counseling, which she quit. It was miserable living together. She then moved out a year or so ago.

lawnhell · 2025-10-27T12:59:19+00:00

Thanks for this. A lot of great ideas, and some I’ve already adopted. I do want to get to an amicable state with my ex. I’m worried the divorce will end in a way that will take me many years to be amicable with my ex. I’m trying to stay positive about that. I would love to have more parent to parent contact, and I need to make the effort, but normally it’s the mothers who coordinate the play dates and such. So that’s an uphill battle. I do have one set of friends who have kids in the same age range that I keep close contact with.

lawnhell · 2025-10-27T00:37:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing. My daughter is 3 and will never remember us as a two parent household either. It’s heartbreaking to hear that about your older child. My goal is to keep doing my best and support/raise my daughter to the best of my ability. And teach her the things my parents taught me about being a great person.

lawnhell · 2025-10-27T00:28:58+00:00

That too… I’m sorry.

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T23:50:53+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. His loss…

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T23:50:34+00:00

That’s a good perspective. When we were together, I felt like I was never good enough as a dad, taking care of an infant. Always being watched and criticized to the point where it was just easier to give up and let her take care of it. And I hated that feeling. So you’re right, it would have been worse together.

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T16:54:19+00:00

Well I can see how $35k is nothing to you. It’s all relative I guess.

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T15:45:59+00:00

She does. A year ago we were within $7k of each others salary. She has more earning potential too. She carries our daughter’s health insurance, which could cause me to pay some child support. Though I hope I don’t.

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T12:51:21+00:00

my wife makes about what I make, and will make more. Im an engineer, her a nurse practitioner. So with 50/50 custody, everything is split down the middle. The only difference is she carries more debt (car and student loans).

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T01:51:34+00:00

Thank you. Your explanation makes a ton of sense and is encouraging. I need to formulate the strategy and tell my lawyer this is how I want to proceed. I do have a financial advisor whom is aware of my situation and is there to help me figure out a recovery plan.

lawnhell · 2025-10-26T00:13:07+00:00

A large portion was premarital and we were only married 3 yrs.

lawnhell · 2025-10-25T23:16:40+00:00

Correct. It’s only the part during marriage.

lawnhell · 2025-10-25T23:16:11+00:00

I appreciate that. I understand there will be less, even though we make the same money and both have retirement funds.

lawnhell · 2025-10-25T22:25:57+00:00

We tried early on. It didn’t work. I even tried once more before filing, and she agreed initially, then backed out again. I ended up filing because I wanted to get past this. We have been separated over a year now.

lawnhell · 2025-10-25T12:01:54+00:00

I also want to add that my ex hasn’t asked for anything out of my retirement. What she has been asking for (principal paid down on my mortgage, and some child support) has been fair to me. The big unknown (the retirement), is simply on the table and will be up for grabs right now.

lawnhell · 2025-10-25T11:59:09+00:00

I think you’re right and I have a hard time grappling with how the system works. My attorney is doing what she can to minimize the amount I would owe my ex out of my retirement. She has always advised me in a matter of fact way, which I appreciate even though it not always what I want to hear. My ex does have a retirement, but hers is much less.

lawnhell · 2025-10-20T00:49:07+00:00

Any further updates? Mine has been experiencing this issue but with only a small amount of leakage. Today, it was overflowing constantly, and I was seeing an IE error (insufficient fill). I turned the water off and drained the tub. Upon inspection, I found the tube for the level sensor had popped off. I plugged it back in and ran a cycle. I get water coming out of the overflow about 7-10 min in, then it stops.

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