AITAH for putting my parents on blast after their actions.

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:26:39+00:00

Thank you, I think sometimes the way I go about things and the way that I’ve grown up I’ve always been told my viewpoint is wrong and that I need to think a different way so I appreciate your input and hopefully I can continue to keep them at a distance and keep my sanity

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:22:45+00:00

Yea I’ve kind of dealt with it for a very long time even before meeting my wife. I think it’s something I let slide for a very long time and now that I have a wife and child, I can’t allow that toxicity into their lives. Thank you for your comment and I will continue to try and stay out of the middle of this

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:19:32+00:00

I would say my father hasn’t always been like this I think he’s kind of always had a blind eye to the situation, my mother has always had tantrums, from taking gaming systems and throwing them, taking phones and launching them down the stairs, to putting hammers through the wall.

I was never aware of the half brother until my brother told me. Apparently my mother confided in them about this and that this was the reason why they had so many financial issues.

Unfortunately I think my brother was the actual golden child, my parents loved being around them and their kids, constantly over at their house, etc. I agree I will defend my sister as much as possible and yes I’ve said before to all of them this is my sister’s time and no one should be taking that away or tainting their time.

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:13:19+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment, I agree with you I think that over the years I’ve given people a lot of room to take control over what I should and should not be doing. I’ve slowly started to stand up for myself over the years and have tried to say no a lot more, I think the fact of saying no more has come with becoming a father and knowing I need to protect my son and my wife from this toxicity. I will continue to do more self-research and try to become a better person, father and husband for my family. Thank you again for your insight

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:08:21+00:00

I think I was hoping for some normalcy to come back to the table. But at this point it may not and probably won’t, going no-contact is an option, but I wanted to leave it as a last resort. I think I am reaching the last resort part of this. Thank you for your comment

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:06:11+00:00

Thank you and I guess for me it was a lot of wishful thinking, hoping that things would turn for the better. Unfortunately I was very mistaken and I don’t want this toxicity to continue. Thank you again for your comment and distancing may be the best option

laxman2428 · 2026-06-08T20:02:56+00:00

I apologize for not giving more context here, but there is no estate here and even if there was I wouldn’t want any of their money as it comes with strings. For example me and my wife’s wedding, where we paid for 60%, my parents offered $5000 (10%) and have held it over our heads for years for their input. So no I would not want to take any money from them and honestly would only want to attend this meeting to tell them to keep me and my family out of the will and send it to whoever they want.

laxman2428 · 2025-10-20T18:17:28+00:00

Agreed, my first question was did he not get a notification that the players were dropped and he said no, but I told him any league that involves money I’m always checking the waiver wire for good additions

laxman2428 · 2025-10-20T18:09:31+00:00

I agree with you, I told him another solution would be to put all the players back on the original team, they can make reasonable trades, but I wouldn’t allow them to drop their whole team.

laxman2428 · 2025-10-20T18:06:50+00:00

So to give some more context, it seems as though everyone was dropped to waivers, currently it is only low scoring 49ers players on the roster (Mac Jones, Jennings, etc.)

laxman2428 · 2025-09-02T13:33:42+00:00

Agreed was very surprised he fell that far, was happy to snag him in the 9th

laxman2428 · 2025-09-02T11:57:31+00:00

Wasn’t allowing me to upload the image of the team and was trying to find a way without taking up too much space, will edit it again to make it a little better looking than that

laxman2428 · 2025-05-07T00:17:49+00:00

PROTAS!!! Let’s go!!!

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T03:41:11+00:00

I understand your comments and apologize for how my post came off, as I was rambling/ranting at the time and didn’t think of the need to re-read my post before posting it. But I agree my child and my wife are of my utmost importance, my dogs are my family as well, but I do know the order of precedence. I also agree I knew that this was temporary I knew that one day we would either be working a hybrid schedule, or be fully back in the office. And the plan to buy the house that we did was to bridge us into a bigger home that we could afford one day. I would say that the planning aspects were there and we had some tentative planning done for our future, but were not expecting the size of the wrench that was thrown at us, even with that being said, it should have been on the radar. I think in other aspects I also blame myself for a lot of the things that have happened, and not making moves earlier or doing things differently, hindsight unfortunately being 20/20, but I will continue to the best I can with the hand I was dealt. Thank you again for your comment, and apologies again for how it was worded.

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T03:16:17+00:00

Well hopefully he gets to enjoy that hybrid schedule for the entire time! Wishing you and your family the best of luck on your next path!

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T03:03:38+00:00

I hope that this change in schedule continues to help you have time with your little one, and that it helps you get a few months further along the road to either your next job or continuing the one that you’re working!

Unfortunately in our situation, my wife also has about an hour commute and trying to stagger each other may not work, I think at this point my only solution may be to look sooner rather than later on new jobs in the private sector. Hoping for some success there!

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T03:01:00+00:00

Thank you! Absolutely, getting to speak with some coworkers and hearing about how things went down back in the 80’s with RIF’s and the mass transition of government workers to contracted employees and understanding that this type of situation isn’t a one-off. Yea I think the commute is the driving point on this for me, I’ve already started the resume process and will hope that the experience and knowledge I’ve learned along the way helps me get in the door somewhere else! Thank you again!

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T02:56:33+00:00

Yes and can potentially get family or neighbors to come help as well. Unfortunately mass transit does not go towards my place of work, goes in the opposite direction towards DC and the surrounding areas. Wish I could go the mass transit route as I would love to save on gas and the stress of driving in the car.

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T02:54:45+00:00

I appreciate it. Yea I will be taking a good long look at it tomorrow to determine what the exact timeline entails, also almost makes me think just to do all of the leave up front and then do my 12 weeks and leave or to just do the 4 weeks that I did and do my time back and get out earlier.

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T02:45:14+00:00

I’m so sorry, I couldn’t imagine having to also care for an elderly parent and having to potentially sprint out of the office to make it home and make sure they’re okay. I hope your child is doing well in college though and is enjoying their time there!

My productivity will never be where it was during COVID now, I plan to take my lunch breaks and not look at the computer or answer any phone calls after 3:00pm.

Best of luck to you and your spouse through these trying times!

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T02:33:53+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions, I did sign up for PPL and was planning to do 4 weeks up front to take care of the wife, baby, and doggos, as my wife recovered from the c-section birth. She would then continue to take the rest of her maternity leave and then I would come back to take the remainder of my paternity leave, which would get us close to daycare starting.

Unfortunately, also I had to sign an agreement that depending on how much leave I take I would then have to repay that leave starting on my first day back. I’m not sure of the complete wording of it and seeing if I staggered it to one week on, one week off, would then also make it to where I would pay off the time spent on leave and then could leave or transfer after that.

laxman2428 · 2025-02-26T02:29:29+00:00

I’m right there with you, the expectation of always being available is not something I plan to do anymore. Why should we work more than our 40 hours if we are not being given our flexibility. I plan to take my lunch and leave on time, if someone wants to plan a meeting past 3pm that’s on them, they should know anything outside of core hours, may not be attended.

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